Damaged Men
There’s many a damaged man out there, and believe me, the last thing that such men need
Is sexually explicit and pornographic material on which to feed.
Nor public titillation that frustratingly arouses, fuels an inner fire,
Be that via billboards, books or magazines, movies, videos, or sexy attire.
And no doubt most of these men (if not all), have no idea why they’re the way they are,
Often victims of abuse and trauma, that something deadened, or left a deep scar.
And as to who or what caused such, set their path, who knows? But much goes on behind closed doors,
Leaving young children confused, hurt, roaming emotionally disturbed corridors.
Many of these men take their illness out on women, and who knows why that might be?
Though I suspect there’s often some connection, that women wise, has left them anti.
And hence those vicious attacks on women, perhaps fueled by what they see as teasing,
That being, the sexual titillation that says look but don’t touch — hardly pleasing!
No, such damaged men would no doubt see such as just adding insult to injury,
Though no man really likes being teased or frustrated via such unfairness, quite frankly.
Men may go along with such, but underneath, deep within, they take it seriously,
For it activates very powerful forces, plays with what affects men deeply.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t condone sexual attacks on women, but let’s face the facts,
Porn and public sexiness just have to play a part in some of these cruel attacks.
And who knows who any attacker might be? A neighbour? A friend? Some relation?
And the cause? A combination of injury, stimulation and frustration.
Yes, men being men, seems only natural that sex will play a part in many crimes,
But given the sexual climate, we shouldn’t be surprised that such behaviour climbs.
And more so, when earth’s littered with damaged men, who women wise, may have an axe
to grind,
And until we face up to this, even more and far worse sexual crimes we’ll find.
Sure there are damaged women too, but here, we’re addressing men (testosterone bound),
Hence why wherever there’s crime, a sexually attacked woman is often found.
But what stokes the fire though, is often the sexually flaunted and explicit,
And that which demeans and disrespects men, which isn’t to a woman’s benefit.
A man is more easily damaged than women realize, and can take such badly,
Hence why women should take care, not treading on his manhood or masculinity.
Men have certain soft spots that when hit, work against a woman’s best interests, clearly,
For such lessens a man’s desire to protect and cherish, sees him acting less selflessly.
Yes, men being men, they so very easily turn to force, lash out physically,
And given their strong sex-drive, and conquering spirit, are prone to erring sexually.
But far more so, even terribly so, if injured when young, or demeaned when men,
And because both are common today, it’s often a case of “Here we go again!”
There will always be monsters, who seemingly have no cause or quarrel, but even then,
How can we be sure that nothing actually happened somehow, somewhere, to such men?
Sure they might have simply become depraved via a life of lust and debauchery,
But hey, look at society, it’s saturated with things that act injuriously.
And who’s aiding and abetting? It’s often women themselves, who shed their clothes and pose,
Causing men to lust, or pressure to build, until something boils, and then bursts or blows.
Yes, they don’t know what they toy with, even with their sexiness round town, that’s daily seen,
Which I believe with all my heart, so often plays a part, in many a crime scene.
But play the game they do, having bought into this foolish sexy nonsense, that oft backfires,
For in the hearts and minds of damaged men, such can stir crooked and callous desires.
But even the undamaged man can be overcome, and to injurious acts succumb,
And so it will be, while that posing and flaunting throttle remains at maximum.
By Lance Landall
You may
also wish to read my article "Are Women Blameless?" which is found on my page titled Time To Face Things, purple box, second poetry garden, secular section.
2. When Fantasy Becomes Reality
It’s not uncommon for men to fantasize sexually, their focus the female body,
Such fuelled or aided by pornography which acts like petrol, the fire burning furiously.
And oft adding to the petrol (who knows to what degree), is some emotional injury,
Enter the likes of a sexual obsession; a potent mix, ticking bomb, waiting and ready,
More so where there’s inner anger too, and hence come whatever they do.
Fantasizing can be bad enough, but throw in pornography (and where there’s no moral brakes),
Those fired up feelings seek reality (fantasizing not enough), hence compulsion overtakes.
Enter the six o'clock News and those sexual crimes against females — yes, no surprises there,
Such not helped by that public sexiness that more of the female form is seen to flaunt and bare.
Sex has always been man’s Achilles heel, and where such is exploited by women, women pay,
For the downfall of men-cum-whatever hardens them, can only but women further dismay.
And women need to know this, for the harsh reality is — and given the state of many hearts and minds —
That many men in the street would rape if they could get away with it, and do, hence those sex crimes.
Yes, not all sexual crimes are reported, and the assailants are oft conveniently disguised,
They abducting, drugging and binding; their victims violated and murdered, or brutalised.
And yet, women persist in featuring in porn, flaunting what’s not wise-cum-teasing sexually,
And walking alone in the dark and in secluded areas, they inviting injury.
But it’s no wonder that sex is so oft on a man’s mind-cum-women mere playthings to be used,
And why — given the objectifying of women, thanks to their compliance — they’re so abused,
And by compliance I mean, they happy to be photographed in provocative sexy poses,
Nude or somewhat nude, as seen on billboards, in movies, or in mags in which men have their noses.
Oh, you foolish women.
Yes, they smiling or smouldering sexually, and seemingly naively, for it’s no game
(Though seems they think so), but rather, Russian roulette — the next victim bearing the very same name? —
And prior to such, their image on some man’s mind, it playing over and over again, until
Fantasy becomes reality, he lying in wait, and who he is, what woman can tell?
Yes, the sexual's seen everywhere today, and such, a serious problem for many men,
Let alone it’s ravaging of society, and why it’s a case of, “Here we go again.”
And why women must accept their complicity in such, for such stirring only leads to ill,
And thus is why many men attempt to get what they want regardless of any woman’s will.
You know,
I got to thinking how mothers love their babies-cum-toddlers, and here, we’re talking about boys,
Their mothers so protective of them — yes, waxing lyrical over their wee bundle of joys.
And yet, they oft encouraging their daughters in seductive-cum-sexy, public, dress and ways,
an irony,
For woe betide any other mother’s son-cum-grown man, who due to such, gets in strife or strays,
there being many!
This reminds me of a sad reality of Nature, protect my own but look out others,
Such being a cruel reality that seems lost on these oft just as sexually dressed mothers.
Yes, both they and their daughters encouraging what isn’t wise nor even fair, come the above;
In other words, those negative consequences — oh, why don’t they just stick to romance-cum-love?
When women dress in a way that excites a man’s loins, they behave like predators, men their prey,
They taking advantage of that proverbial Achilles heel, all of which can ricochet.
And often it does, come those unwanted advances, those criminal acts via some mother’s son,
Such aided by mothers and daughters who view public sexiness as fair game or harmless fun.
Well, it isn’t.
By Lance Landall
3. Such Is How A Man's Mind Tracks
A man has a radar that very quickly picks up on anything sexy,
In other words, anything remotely sexual to full on nudity.
And hence why men have a problem with their eyes, for such is how a man’s mind tracks;
And because men are easily stirred, pity help the man who self control lacks.
But what’s not helping men (and possibly the biggest problem they face today),
Is the proliferation of the sexy, and why many men err and stray.
And is it any wonder, their radar activated continuously,
Be that via women dressing more sexy, porn, mags, movies or what’s on TV.
And hence why men are objectifying women more, their radar running hot,
And they, checking out each woman that passes by, whether she’s endowed or not.
And oh, how they mentally scan and process, that strong focus being her body,
For such is how a man’s mind tracks, except where refined by nobility,
A higher source that returns a man’s radar to its healthier frequency.
But tell me, how much refining is going on today, and on either side?
For oh, it’s not only the behaviour of men that’s been seen to quickly slide.
Yes, women developing a radar of their own, it tracking weirdly,
For women were never built that way, and therefore, have simply been conned, clearly.
All why they play the game and are paying a cost, for look how much they’ve lost,
They far less treated like ladies now, and on their body, “Sex object” embossed.
Well, certainly in a man’s mind, his eyes being drawn to what’s packaged temptingly,
And not to what they should be, a women’s best interests, personality.
Yes, they can display their body sexually, even allow it to be used,
But men will hardly be thinking of them, and the latter will see them abused.
And the reason why is, men are men and many not principled enough, but
Ready to risk it all for sex, and why some windows and doors are best left shut.
By Lance Landall
4. Triggering
Yes, he’s staring at your body, and there’s desire in his eyes,
And given the way that you’re dressed, it’s hardly any surprise.
You’ve got his motor running, because you have just turned his key,
By what you are revealing that’s arousing sexually.
Every woman clearly knows that men are turned on visually,
Hence why many women wear what attracts men sexually.
They know such clothing will trigger the attention they desire,
But they should also realize that what they trigger can backfire.
Men shouldn’t respond shamefully, or behave criminally,
As there’s no excuse for that, it’s clearly acting wrongfully.
But shouldn't women share some blame when their sexy clothes arouse
The sex-drives of men, who, without consent, do more than just browse?
Once a motor is switched on, it is designed to operate,
And so it is with males, whose hormones these women activate.
Hence women play with fire when they foolishly arouse desire
In others besides their own spouse, via their sexual attire.
The attention such women get, they could one day well regret,
For there are certain men out there who are a potential threat.
But hey, the sexual domain is most men’s Achilles’ heel,
Which woman cruelly toy with via certain things that they reveal.
Many men consider it provocative and unfair,
That women will parade their wares, yet, are not prepared to share.
Such would say to women: “If sharing isn’t your intention,
It’s unfair to arouse me, and then leave me in suspension.”
Those who thoughtlessly trigger those feelings men find hard to halt,
Many would strongly argue are the ones who are most at fault.
But whether that be the case or not, one thing is very clear,
It’s unwise and most unfair to tease any man, anywhere.
Such selfish and unkind titillation may well trigger and fan
A sexual dysfunction that's lying deep within a man.
To men who have such a problem, it’s like red rag to a bull,
And something that so many men find barely manageable.
It seems women aren't aware of just how strong those sex-drives are,
That reside within most men -- yes, somewhat like a reservoir.
Such sex-drives shouldn't be played with, lest some man can’t hold in check,
The force behind that reservoir, that like a bomb, some cause to tick.
If women don’t like those stares, or those whistles that irritate,
They shouldn’t go wearing clothes that sexually accentuate.
When women wear sexy clothes, it’s not love, but lust that they stir,
And, sadly, the line that separates both, they foolishly blur.
By Lance Landall
5. As Addictive As Crack
One way to mess up men and make things far worse for women is to feed men porn,
Such as addictive as crack, it rewiring the brain, and why I seek to warn.
And all why more men are objectifying women and running hot with lust,
Soft porn turning to hard core (as with drugs), and soon scenes of force and rape a must.
We’re talking deadly stuff, and many men not able to function normally,
Straight sex not cutting it anymore, arousal requiring depravity.
Are you hearing me?
It’s got to go folk, its consequences apocalyptic in dimension,
And why it should be banned — and as for men: The only real answer abstention,
From porn, that is.
By Lance Landall
6. Addictive, Deadly Filth
Yes, addictive, deadly filth. And the culprit? You guessed it. Pornography,
Which is plaguing and destroying the whole world, corrupting society.
Oh, how it has taken millions captive, turned them into sexual slaves,
Because it changes how a person thinks, and thereby distorts how one behaves.
So let’s not beat about the bush, for when everything is said and done,
Pornography is incredibly destructive, a deadly loaded gun.
Yes, many marriages and lives having been tipped upside down by this drug,
Which grips anyone who embraces it in a boa constrictor’s hug.
It’s tragic that there're many women out there who such evil aid and fan,
Via their pandering to the crude wiles of some camera-wielding man,
Because such women are stripped of dignity, used like puppets on a string,
They having foolishly let themselves become someone’s perverted plaything.
And it’s disturbing that there are these males who treat women in this way,
Because such filth-inspired men, simply greed, self, and carnal lusts obey.
They thereby degrading the one they film, proving that they've a debased mind,
And via their low, thoughtless and sordid trade, their fellowman they thus bind.
With pornography being so rife these days, and publicly on display,
We are in serious trouble, and a high price society will pay,
Because when such is saturating books, the web, DVDs and TV,
There’s not a doubt in my mind that we have a very sick society.
So let's rid humanity of this evil that has been wrongly embraced,
Because so much crime that is rampant now, to its influence can be traced.
Such filth just fueling the damaged mind, or seeing good minds becoming ill,
Which is why many men these days sexually abuse and even kill.
Yes, addictive, deadly filth, a filth that is obsessed with the explicit,
And that is so shamelessly parading what we have sanctioned bit by bit,
Because everywhere such is seen today, and society's to blame,
As each day within many homes, a wee screen flickers with such filth and shame.
Yes,
Addictive, deadly in the sense it deadens a man's heart, and filthy stuff,
So terribly, horribly perverted, and hence those rape movies called Snuff.
By Lance Landall
This older poem was upgraded on 31 December 2017.
7. Dear Pin-up Girl
Dear pinup girl, even naked calendar grandma, happy to so be seen,
The thoughts of many ooglers are so screwed up, disgusting, feverish and mean.
And therein lies danger, more evil men out of jail than in, and perhaps near,
All why you’re all taking a terrible risk with what you are choosing to bare.
But such men aside, men in general are becoming sicker due to porn,
And they too staring lecherously, and how in their hearts much ill’s also born.
So it’s a shame you’ve bought into this baring-it-all scene, because one thing’s clear,
It’s no laughing matter, ain’t helping either sex, and is really cause for fear.
Yes, it's a very different world now.
By Lance Landall
8. The Hard Facts Are...
Because of the way men are designed sexually, they're never more a threat that when lacking morally,
'Cause without the restraint of a higher force working within, it’s certain that they will act wrong sexually.
Thus it’s not just certain men committing such offences, but basically any lacking morally,
And where they can get away with it, and many men do where they get or create the opportunity.
Hence why women should only choose partners who’re sound morally, whose conscience is very in tune with what’s right,
Or they will end up with someone capable of such offences, or who has a deviant appetite.
Sad to say, many women have, or are currently with such a man, and thus either burnt or about to be,
'Cause rest assured that it’s only a matter of time, be it lust, deviance, crime or adultery.
The hard facts are, that men who aren’t sound morally, will more likely offend, are less likely to act faithfully,
Not that every good man doesn’t offend, but in their case, usually nowhere as despicably,
'Cause the minds of morally sound men aren't dwelling on such, looking to offend, nor as likely to offend,
Given their mind is governed by worthy principles that deviance, crime or adultery wouldn’t defend.
Unlike that mind in those soldiers who take advantage of helpless citizens, raping at will, and savagely,
Having succumbed to animal impulses, the lowest common denominator, and most willingly.
Yes,
someone’s partner (even father), all why women
should choose with care, keeping themselves sound morally,
For as one is, as one gets, 'cause where one’s lacking morally themselves, the more likely they'll pick poorly.
By Lance Landall
This poem was upgraded 19 February 2020.
The
serial rapist-murderer Ted Bundy, (by his own admission), was
influenced and propelled down the path he took, by “soft-core”
available via Playboy magazines that he encountered as a thirteen year
old boy in 1959. What is seen on TV today, the web, and in
magazines freely available, exceeds that displayed in the Playboy
magazines when Ted Bundy was a thirteen year old boy. How many
Ted Bundys have we seen since, and how many more will we see in the
future, given what children are being exposed to these days?
Recommended reading:
"Soft Porn" Plays Hardball by Judith A. Reisman, Ph.D.
"Well-meaning
people will condemn the behavior of a Ted Bundy while they’re walking
past a magazine rack full of the very kinds of things that send young
kids down the road to being Ted Bundys. That’s the irony."
Ted Bundy
By clicking on the arrow to the right, you can also read my poem "Criminals At War."
9. Strippers And Rugby Teams
When any stripper takes her clothes off at a rugby doo and thereby strongly stirs,
Why would she expect the principles of those men to be any higher than hers?
In other words, they’re hardly going to act like gentlemen, and then there’s the booze,
Not just the excitement, and boys will be boys, not that any wrong we should excuse.
But hey, things are apt to go astray, the air bawdy, hardly pure and innocent,
And hence why that steamy event is hardly likely to be without incident,
Because those motors started and copiously fuelled aren’t made to stop on a dime,
And why such unseemly childishness has a habit of turning into a crime,
Hence that indecent grope, or whatever.
Yes, a crime’s a crime, but why invite such, so to speak, creating a stumbling block,
It like dangling a steak in front of a lion, and soon triggers that tick tock tick tock.
All why such stripping is cruel and unwise, and it effectively setting men up,
Who though sipping from the saucer will hardly be satisfied ’till they’ve got the cup.
Booze filled hormone charged oafs are hardly high performance sports cars with ABS brakes,
But more big rigs with a heavy load and long stopping distance, and hence those mistakes.
They somewhat unable to help themselves, and thus any stripper’s protest naïve,
And why some things we must take on the chin, crimes aside, when provocation we weave,
A woman’s disrobing hardly benign, so best no stripper, best no request, lest...
By Lance Landall
10. But Lets Be Fair To Men
Have you thought what it’s like to be a man today — a decent man, that is, who’s
Under just as much suspicion of this or that, but who same wrongs wouldn't choose.
No, he no rapist, paedophile, sexual predator, nor abuser, yet
Kind of having to watch his every move lest some unfair backlash he get.
Yes, it’s so much harder for men today given how women dress so sexy,
And how such stirs a man’s sexual interest, and rather frustratingly.
Yet he having to mind his eyes, deal with that switch that’s been flicked on, all why’s seen
Many men struggling with it all, feeling taunted by it, as if it’s quite mean.
Yes, because men are very visual creatures, which needs to be understood,
One hoping that women will be fair here, some of us arguing that they should.
Sure it’s their right to dress as they wish (though many pushing the envelope), but
Why not a little more thought and care, it never paying where one’s mind is shut.
Unlike women, men are aroused by nudity, those partly revealed breasts, and
Thus the sexy stirring them, and how they objectify, you must understand.
Their attention being drawn to the body, which gouges tracks in their mind,
All why over time, less thought for the women themselves, is what we’re bound to find.
Thus those very things that women don’t want, like leering and objectifying,
They aid, men naturally as they are, and thus why “Foul!” it’s no use crying,
Because it’s simply inevitable, as night follows day, cause and effect,
All why when dressing sexy, leering and objectifying they should expect.
Yes, it’s automatic, kind of like telling the sun not to burn, which it will,
Hence why we use sun block, and why women who dress sexy, the minds of men fill.
Oh yes, that picture of that stirring body oft replayed over and again,
And how it’ll always be, sexiness always riveting the eyes of men.
By Lance Landall