Regarding Judging Others



The right of judging rightly, and the wrong of judging wrongly.

RELATIVISM is under General Material (where there's also a chart of sorts showing the difference between appropriate judging and inappropriate judging).

"Life mocks the careless observer; those who fail to weigh"

The poet, author



Just hire anyone as a babysitter;
too bad if they’re irresponsible, unreliable or a paedophile.
Just marry whoever you fancy;
too bad it they have roving eyes, serious hang ups or violent tendencies.
Just go by what anyone says;
too bad it they’re deluded, misinformed or a charlatan.
Just do as anyone does;
too bad it what they’re doing is wrong, foolish, thoughtless or harmful.
Just put your trust in anyone too;
too bad if they’re a cowboy builder, bogus doctor or false prophet.
And hey,
as far as an employee goes, don’t worry who you hire;
too bad if they’re never on time, are inept or lazy.

Yes, there’s always a time and place.


The following poem of mine is a very old one that was upgraded
on the 6 March 2021.

1.  To Judge Or Not To Judge?

So many are too quick to say that judging others isn't right,
Given that such a statement needs the balance of some further light,
Because it’s only wrongful judging that's in need of condemnation,
Not rightful judging that prudently weighs up the situation.

You see,

Judging is simply assessing any given situation,
Which thereby enables us to make a sound evaluation,
Because it’s only by this method that appraisals can be made,
Thus determining our actions according to how something's weighed.

And the same applies to people too, and whatever they might do,
'Cause we need to determine whether we should do that same thing too.
After all, is what they are doing harmful, is it wrong or right,
Could others be affected, and thus will it good or bad invite?

It may also be that what they’re saying needs scrutinizing too,
And so, does it contain some error, is it right or quite untrue,
Could their words lead us astray, or have us put other people wrong,
And could it be that they're deceiving us, just stringing us along?

Yes, good judgment is needed daily as we make our way through life,
Because wrongly-made assessments can bring about much grief and strife.
And it’s not just we who may suffer, others being affected
By our errors of judgment, or when judgment we have neglected.

Hence why we often hear people say that there is a time and a place,
And why sometimes when we’re judging, confronting others we must face,
Because not confronting offenders just condones and aids their wrong,
Depriving them of growth and learning, which wrong-doing can prolong.

And therefore, when we don’t deal with such wrong, love's not something we show,
Because genuine love knows everyone needs discipline to grow.
However, if you’re told when judging that it’s none of your concern,
And there's nothing that you can do, the hard way they’ll just have to learn.

But it’s always how it’s done, of course, and it's also how it’s said,
Because wrong approaches oft simply put things back and not ahead.
And just love should motivate you, both for them and those affected,
Yes, love’s sense of right and wrong, which it knows shouldn't be neglected.

But sadly, some are judging blindly, or in a self-righteous way,
Or because of some prejudice they’ve let their judgment go astray.
And some are simply judgmental, or are spitefully fault-finding,
While others judge selectively, and their own business aren't minding.

Thus, because of such wrongful judging, some don’t want judging at all,
Which effectively would mean that wrongdoing would have a ball.
And that’s precisely why it is that wrong things should be arrested,
And why it is today, that this world with more wrong is infested.

So then, when you need to judge, please see that it is done correctly,
And to anyone who has wronged you, it's better to go directly.
But first, make sure you’ve judged yourself yes, well before you head their way,
Lest your very own sad condition some hypocrisy display.

And when and where such judgment takes place, humbleness should rule our heart,
We aware of our own failings and letting mercy play its part,
'Cause by the way we judge others, we could end up being judged too,
Hence why love in its wisdom always chooses the right thing to do.

By Lance Landall


Alternative poem

2.  Don't Stop Judging Rightly

“You shouldn’t judge,” they say indignantly, which is clearly an absurdity, 'cause anyone who ceases to, soon sees things going askew, and is it any surprise, for the cost of one’s demise, is often failure to weigh — in other words, not commonsense display, or lest you think I’m fudging, I'm actually talking about JUDGING!
Yes, we assessing, weighing and deciding
— okay? — judgments thus springing from what we weigh.
In other words, judgments are decisions made, calls that often shouldn't be delayed.
Don't like the word judging? Well, I'm not budging, semantics never having been my thing, and pedantic having its own nit-picking ring.

Oh yes, how we need to weigh what people are doing or saying, 'cause when we don’t, that’s how we can end up straying, and ignorance can’t claim, nor on others place some blame, 'cause if such we haven’t weighed, what a huge blunder we’ve made, 'cause we’ve been given a brain, one designed to spare us pain, but only when we actually use it, and where needed, in judgment sit, rather than choosing to abstain.
Yes, whatever you do (and this includes me too), don’t stop judging rightly, weighing things correctly and that is, without bias, nor self-righteously, but impartially, objectively, and thus with an inner sense of your own fallibility (our flawed humanity), thus acting thoughtfully, fairly and compassionately, and minding any hypocrisy, though such still shouldn’t stop you, given that commonsense never goes askew, when weighing what others say and do.
To put it another way, it’s our duty, and more so if we've a spouse and family, 'cause such demands responsibility and accountability, weighing what might affect them injuriously, which means observing and pondering, checking and researching, lest via not doing so, trouble duly spring.
And where others are acting wrongly, we may even need to approach them — that is, in order to warn and spare (never to simply condemn), 'cause love cares enough to do so, and clearly knows that here also, duty one must never forgo, lest those we cease to warn, even greater trouble spawn, which on to others, and not just them, may duly flow, and we thus somewhat guilty too, through our failure to say or do.
Yes, don’t stop judging rightly, or you’d be a fool, given that the ability to weigh is your most important tool.
Now why don’t they teach that in school?!

By Lance Landall

Title was tweaked and poem upgraded on 6 March 2021.

3.  More Than Half Awake

It’s funny how people will say that we shouldn’t judge anyone, and yet do
Come strangers asking for money, their eyes searching those strangers for any clue.
Yes, something that says they’re genuine or not, and thus judge that person they do,
And not without good reason, but there shouts hypocrisy, ’cause oft we have to.

Yes, there are beggars and there are beggars, if you get what I mean, some con men,
Thus where we don’t exercise due prudence, we can get fleeced again and again.
And thereby aiding the rise of such rascals, and why sound choices we must make,
Carefully weighing things up, making that judgment call, we more than half awake.

By Lance Landall

4.  There're Beggers And There're Beggers

It’s one thing to help people out who are in need, and so we all should, but hey,
Compassion should be tied to sense, ’cause users and abusers can come our way.
They not so much in need but feeding an addiction, or simply on the make,
And hence why it doesn’t always pay to give what some people are quick to take.

Yes, there are genuine beggars, those who are in fact in need, but still take care,
Because addicts, bludgers and those with fanciful stories are everywhere.
“But addicts do need help,” you say, and true that is, but specialized help, and so,
We pointing them to, or guiding them to, that person or place they need to go.

Otherwise, we’re only aiding their addiction, paying for their booze, and so,
We compassionate but prudent, helping but not aiding, minding how we go.
Because some who’re given money just keep coming back for more, expecting like,
And why to some we say, “Sure,” and to others, a firm or subtle, “On yer Bike.”

By Lance Landall

5.  Pawns Of Hearsay And Faulty Assumptions

Tell me, why do you have that very negative opinion of someone, who
As a result, you’re having little to do with, and which might say much of you?
Is it because of what others have told you? Such a sure way to err, of course,
Many not attempting to rightly find out from the mouth of the condemned horse.

Too many responses are based on hearsay, or how something appears to be,
And thus so much not taken into account, very hypocritically,
Because who of us would like to stand before a judge who’s without all the facts,
And who’s clutching evidence that’s been played with, and which just the accuser backs.

Accusers are many, some with an agenda, some lacking maturity,
Nursing petty grievances, perhaps, then there’s bias, not wanting to see.
So many too quick to down someone, pass on gossip, put their own spin on things,
Which somewhere in life (’cause what goes ’round comes ’round) a curse on themselves simply brings.

Too many listening to teary-eyed talebearers who’re oft not seeing straight,
The condemned one having done the right thing under the circumstances, but wait!
Yes, there’s always more, but they the victim, seemingly, the one they speak of doomed,
And unable to present their side given how they’re effectively marooned.

Oh, how I hate that dirty laundry which never gets washed, but certainly aired,
Family members bagging family members, say — yes, everything bared.
Much explained away, but no, out on the airwaves it goes, many tuning in
(Instead of switching off), acting like judge and jury, and adding to the sin.

There’re reasons why folk do or don’t do something, and they need to be understood,
Not rushed to judgment over; many only too happy to hang if they could.
Some folk have issues, and help’s needed, but help’s oft not there, just condemnation,
All because others don’t have a full understanding of the situation.

Folk commonly operate on different levels (religious beliefs in mind),
And thus what one condemns another praises (though many on error have dined).
But understanding only coming when folk bother, reach out, and check to see,
The horses mouth oft left waiting, truth lost to hearsay, and what folk fail to see.

By Lance Landall

6.  Careful, Please

We need to evaluate many things in life, and hence those judgment calls that we make each day;
However, when it comes to others, we need to be very careful lest from fairness we stray.
And hence why judging by appearances, scant or limited information, is fraught with ill,
For things aren’t always as they seem, and missing facts oft lead to wrong assessments, some upset yell.

And don’t forget that not all we’re told is correct, gossip a known distorter-cum-saboteur,
Hence how the likes of wrongly informed or mistaken acquaintances, friends or neighbours can err.
And why we all should be dealing in facts-cum-what we know is so, and not just assuming so,
For where is the fairness in the latter? All why relationships oft shatter-cum-west soon go.

Yes, best we get to know folk better, inquire from the horse’s mouth, and mind what other folk say,
And also what we think, lest our thoughts turn to evil surmisings, and we, something badly weigh.
For so many are thought of in ways that are neither fair nor nice, a burden they have to bear,
Though sometimes they not knowing, and thus unable to defend themselves-cum-their tainted name clear.

Too may people are misunderstood, other folk giving the low-down according to them,
Their coloured picture acting like an ink stain, and some seemingly relishing who they condemn.
Hence why others miss out on things, are excluded from some circle, treated indifferently,
All of which says more about those who’re judging wrongly, or just going by gossip, foolishly.

By Lance Landall

Something worth thinking about all the same:

7.  A Sneaky Little Truth

It’s really none of our business what people think of us, or even say behind our back to their own friends —
Well, in general, that is — something most of us are guilty of, and who of us serious harm intends?
After all, someone may ask us what we think of so and so, and with very good reason, I have to say,
And why when it comes to what folk think of us, or say about us, we should allow them a little leeway,

As we would desire for ourselves — but yes, we should be careful and fair when it comes to anything we say,
'Cause how would we feel should somebody say things about us that would see truth packing its bags for faraway.
But as I said, what they say or we say is nobody's business but our own, unless such is libellous;
In other words, something terribly serious as opposed to general gossip-cum-busybodyness.

At the end of the day, people will think what they will of us, regardless of whether it be wrong or right,
And why it’s our character that’s important, not our reputation, 'cause oft the latter is kissed goodnight.
There’s little we can do about it, and it’s not worth losing sleep over, 'cause there will always be someone
Who, bless their little cotton socks (I don’t think), will say something that’s unfair or untrue, kind of hit-and-run.

Nobody likes bad press, but unless we leave this planet for another, such will always surface somewhere,
'Cause no matter how squeaky-clean we are (like who, for instance?), somebody will find something juicy to share.
Hence why it’s best to just accept this sneaky little truth that it’s really none of our business what folk say,
Nor their business regarding what we say, and who would have it any other way, at the end of the day?

By Lance Landall

8.  Grace And Maturity Should Be Wed

“You said we shouldn’t hurt anyone, and yet you hurt me,” someone says to you,
As if your statement no longer stands, and as if expecting perfection, too.
The truth is, that despite saying something that’s right, we might still act contrary,
Thus letting ourselves down, but not that it was ever meant intentionally.

In other words, it not how you’d normally act, but you struggled with this one,
A situation with conflicting issues, and sadly, some damage was done.
And now you’re seen as a hypocrite, they mocking your words, shaking their head,
Though those words being true, sound and meant, all why grace and maturity should be wed.

By Lance Landall

9.  Such Isn't Always Gossip

There are those who accuse you of gossip the moment you talk about someone behind their back,
But is such always gossip (or as some say, an underhand or malicious verbal attack)?
Well, here I’d like to argue that such isn’t always gossip (though spoken behind someone’s back),
But rather, an unpleasant necessity, and thus not thoughtless idle words, nor some cruel attack.

You see, the truth is, that there’re times when it’s prudent and needful to ask questions about someone,
And given that the horse’s mouth doesn’t always tell the truth, and why to others, folk oft run,
Particularly where important matters are concerned, or where one suspects skulduggery,
And surely we’ve all heard about discretion, things it’s better folk don’t know, we shielding thoughtfully.

So what’s actually gossip then? Well, such is when people simply enjoy blabbing idly,
They thus sharing what they don’t need to, but want to, or they asking questions that are plain nosy.
Or they tuning into what others shouldn’t convey about someone, their ears all too ready,
And they then passing that unnecessary information along — such rumours, frequently.

Yes, something that’s oft not true, or that’s only half so, certain facts missing, added or altered;
In other words, pointless, thoughtless, unkind, harmful-cum-evil comments that should’ve been halted.
Not something said or asked that had validity, a sound reason behind it, and hence okay,
For there’s certainly a time and place, and such not gossip, but oft the avoidance of foul play.

Therefore, when we talk about someone behind their back, such isn’t always gossip, and nor wrong,
Despite us quickly shelving some discreet conversation when that very person comes along.
And such sometimes even displaying a tender regard, or common sense where there’s real concern;
Such chats oft being the only way that necessary things we learn; though what we don’t know can burn.

Yes, our talking behind someone’s back oft being for their benefit, not just our own benefit,
The latter made more necessary when certain things someone says don’t gel, and uneasy sit.
And why people need to be careful what they label gossip, lest they accuse someone falsely
Whose intentions are worthy, and they weighing wisely what they sought out of some necessity.

By Lance Landall

Let's not forget that when folk gossip, they may well be speaking good of us, not bad,
over which I'm sure we wouldn't complain.

10.  When Will The Silliness Stop?

Come that Harry and Meghan tell-all on Oprah's show, and immediately
Many took their side of the story when the other side they didn’t know, dear me.
Now how’s that for intelligence? Such side taking but the bane of humanity,
And so often the one side heard being incorrect or self-servingly faulty.

And all why it wasn’t long before holes in their story were being reported,
But not before that very damaging tell-all interview being exported.
Thus first in, gaining the ground, gathering widespread support, unfairly,
No head to head, nor accusations being checked out first, and hence the travesty.

Oh, what a silly world that we live in, sense belonging to the past, seemingly,
Many saying, “Don’t judge me,” and yet, when it comes to others, they judging wildly,
And taking the only side that they hear as gospel, and even crying foul too,
Which is how people end up with egg all over their face, and more damage do.
By Lance Landall

This poem was penned on 15 March 2021.
See the poem below this one, and my other poem titled Hi Harry which can be seen on
my page Love Thought And Care, Home page, purple box.

Christian content or degree.
This poem was penned on 6 March 2021.

11.  As We Judge, So We'll Be Judged

Come some marital break-up, or something like the Harry and Meghan affair,
People are soon seen taking sides, not judging by what they know but what they hear.
And thus they getting things right or wrong, but not having been involved in the scene,
Thus not knowing for sure, unlike God, who from Earth’s birth, everything has seen.

All why I’m glad that He’s been appointed to judge us, ’cause the whole truth He knows,
Unlike us who often don’t, and via our wrong judgment, adding to someone’s woes.
And it often none of our business, and best left to simply play out, but no,
We condemning or excusing, and thus how we too, destructive seeds can sow.

Oh, how loudly many protest their innocence when actually guilty,
Or somewhat complicit, yet playing the victim like it comes naturally.
And oh, how that kiss and tell has become so obscenely prevalent today,
Rather than moving on with dignity, maturity choosing not to say.

Even when we have been mistreated, it’s oft better to leave it all behind,
’Cause that desire to blab it all oft leads to more trouble, and fouls one’s mind.
Harboured and public grievances dogging our moving on, thus keeping us there,
Where little good comes from such — and where we’re guilty, giving good reason for fear.

Yes, Christ (our judge) knowing every secret thing, and I’m glad that it’s that way,
Many having been wrongly maligned, imprisoned, those guilty having got away.
God well aware of that Harry and Meghan affair, just who’s right and who’s wrong,
Or whether there’s ill on both sides, and whether we’ve kept our thoughts where they belong.

Yes, armchair judges under God’s scrutiny too, having taken on His role,
Rather than just observing, that growing fire not needing their lump of coal.
Yes, sometimes things can be weighed and sound conclusions rightly reached, but woe betide
If we’ve judged unfairly, ignorantly, or having listened to just one side,

Like what Harry and Meghan told Oprah Winfrey, and thus eyes opening wide.

Both judging wrongly and not weighing certain things like we should, can lead to ill,
Someone getting away with blue murder, or the innocent going through hell.
Yes, tabloids and those tell all shows oft fuelling those armchair judges, whose gavel
Often sets the guilty free, or picks up a handful of undeserved gravel.

By Lance Landall

A line was added to this poem on 15 March 2021.
You may also wish to read my Christian poem Of Course We Should Judge!
orange box, Christian poem list section.

Christian content or degree.
This poem was penned on 6 March 2021.

12.  We Will Judge Angels?

Christians sometimes point to God’s Word and say, “It says that we’ll judge angels,” but no,
We won’t be judging anybody — well, certainly not as far as things go.
Why? Because Jesus is bringing His reward or penalty with Him, and thus
That judgment having taken place first, the Father having appointed His Son.

And He’s the only judge, we’re told, which means that we can’t be judges too, and so,
We simply reviewing Heaven’s books, so that the fairness of Christ we might know.
Yes, no one better able to judge, ’cause He knows the heart, and can read the mind,
All why after our perusing, and that Christ clearly got things right, we’ll find.

The truth is, that even with God’s Word, some things aren’t always as they might appear,
And thus we comparing Scripture with Scripture, judging hardly the right word here.
Hence why we shouldn’t take texts in isolation — and this, a classic case here,
Otherwise, how could He then separate the sheep and goats, enter joy or fear.

Some Christians getting a little ahead of themselves, even carried away,
But not by pride, I hope — such judging a solemn thing, at the end of the day.
All why only Christ has the right, we but a fallen race, and thus cannot crow,
Because we won’t be judging, but simply reviewing, and hence why tears will flow.

Yes, ’cause it won’t be nice reading, hardly something to look forward to, ’cause we
Will see the reasons why Christ said, “No,” perhaps to someone in our family.
Yes, sometimes we have our heads in the clouds, when reality we need to face,
And certainly here, ’cause after all of our sins, we’re hardly deserving of grace.

And so,

If any should judge (other than Christ) it should be the citizens of Heaven,
Or those from unfallen planets, and not the only-because-of-grace Christian.
Yes, our track record dismal, and who are we to pass judgment, enter Jesus,
Because worthy is the Lamb, and why it will be Him who judges, and not us.

All why we’re told that tears won’t be wiped away until the Earth made new, when we
Will have put that investigation behind us — Christ vindicated, you see.
And then the New Jerusalem descending, we’re told, Christ dwelling amongst us,
And oh, what joy and peace there’ll be, we getting to live forever with Jesus.

By Lance Landall



When choosing people for some position.
For example: When appointing staff, choosing a babysitter, voting someone in as a member of parliament.

When seeking help or advice.
Are they trustworthy, reliable, is their thinking sound, mature, well balanced, unprejudiced, unbiased, correct?

When purchasing.
Is the seller telling the truth? Could the seller be mistaken, misinformed?

When choosing a marital partner, or close friends.
Would that person be a suitable partner or would their lacking, differences, or issues be destructive to the marital relationship and our personal well being?  Would the close friendship of a particular person be to our detriment in any way?

When determining whether what someone is telling us, should be accepted, rejected, considered or perhaps even reported.

When determining whether someone’s action in general could be injurious to us, others, or even themselves.

When acting in the capacity of leader, or when in a position of authority.
Is our child, employee, member, advisor, complainant, telling the truth?  Is some source correct? Could any fault lie with us? Is some action the right one?

When requested to advise a person on a suitable course of action, the suitability of another person, content, material or product.

9) When making choices on behalf of others.

And Church Wise

When called upon to choose people for church office, or when voting on the choices made by others.
In such a case we have to consider whether the beliefs they hold, their behavior, ability, attitude, background, maturity, responsibility, etc, is satisfactory for such a position. And are those choices made by others in harmony with Scripture.

When considering the actions of another church member.
Does their action warrant biblical church discipline (see Matt 18:15-17). Should it be copied or avoided?  Should their action be mentioned to someone who may be adversely affected by it?  Should they be approached about it? Could it be harmful to the common good?  Could it mislead, endanger?

When determining whether words spoken by someone regarding biblical matters, contain error or truth.
If error is being spoken, should they be approached, corrected? Should others be informed?

When determining whether an action occurring, where others are involved, is suitable for your involvement or presence. Does it violate your conscience, godly principles? Does it put man before God?


“ ‘If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother’ ” (Matt 18:15, NASB).

“ ‘Do not judge according to appearances, but judge with righteous judgment’ ” (John 7:24, NKJV).

“ ‘And why do you not even on your own initiative judge what is right?’ ” (Luke 12:57, NASB).

“ ‘You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye’ ” (Matt 7:5, ESV).

“...And I [Paul] have already passed judgment on the one who did this…” (1 Cor 5:3,4, NIV).

“Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, will all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another...” (Col 3:16, NASB).

“But those who rebuke the wicked will have delight, and a good blessing will come upon them” (Prov 24:25, NKJV).

“Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him [before rebuke comes judgment]” (Luke 17:3, NKJV).

“Preach the word! Be ready in season and out of season. Convince, rebuke, exhort, with all long-suffering and teaching” (2 Tim 4:2, NKJV).

“All scripture is inspired by God and is useful for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that every one who belongs to God may be proficient, equipped for every good work” (2 Tim 3:16,17).

“Mortal, I have made you a sentinel for the house of Israel; whenever you hear a word from My mouth, you shall give them warning from Me. If I say to the wicked, “You shall surely die,” and you give them no warning, or speak to warn the wicked from their wicked way, in order to save their life, those wicked persons shall die for their iniquity; but their blood I will require at your hand [failure to utter the warning may result in their rushing headlong to destruction, hence their blood will be required at the watchman’s hand. God depends upon the co-operation of human beings in His work of salvation]. But if you warn the wicked, and they do not turn from their wickedness, or from their wicked way, they shall die for their iniquity; but you will have saved your life” (Ezek 3:17-19).

"You will know them by their fruits..." (Matt 7:16, NKJV).

For us to know people by their fruits, means that we will obviously have to make an assessment, and draw a conclusion-cum-make a judgment call.

Christian Quotes:

“Nothing can be more cruel than the tenderness that consigns another to his sin. Nothing can be
more compassionate than the severe rebuke that calls a brother back from the path of sin.”
Dietrich Bonhoeffer

The real problem isn’t that we judge, but that we do so blindly and arrogantly. By not confronting people [because we are afraid of upsetting them] we may deny them the opportunity needed to learn and grow, with the result that they may come unstuck further down the track. Compromise can always be identified by false sympathy for the sinner. In the name of acceptance and love, false sympathy fails to help a person recognize and address sin squarely and thus denies the person the very thing needed, the transforming grace of God.
Unsure of source.


Falsely accusing.

Spiteful fault finding.
Jealousy or guilt based, making yourself feel better by putting others down.

Unjust criticism.
Embellished, not altogether correct. Over harsh.

Prejudiced, biased, selective judging.
Choosing to ignore what suits, lacking impartiality, treating differently two people who have done the same wrong, operating with a mind already made up.

Acting from a judgmental spirit.
Not motivated by genuine concern or love, obsessed with others wrongs.

Careless, indifferent judging.
Not making an effort to find out all the facts you can, lack of thought/feeling for others.

Self righteous, hypocritical judging.
Accusing someone of adultery when you’re guilty of stealing, a holier than thou attitude.

But why we should be careful all the same:

The following was shared with me.

It was a costly mistake. The trusting parents went for a brief walk leaving their new baby in the care of their watchful pet dog. They returned to find the baby’s crib upside down and empty, its blanket in scattered bloody shreds. The family's pet—a previously tame and loyal pit-bull—innocently wagged its tail in welcome, unaware of the bloody evidence on its mouth and paws. Betrayed and outraged, the husband shot the dog dead. Soon after, in one dark corner of the room, he found their baby—alive, well and without a scratch. In another corner lay a dead wolf, face pointing to the shattered glass window. CAUTION: Never rush to judgment! Do not judge according to appearances!

And here's something else to dwell on:

Jim (not his real name) was on a welfare benefit. He, his wife and children struggling to get by.
One weekend a lady from a certain organisation called on them with a much appreciated food parcel.
At the time she called, Jim was sitting on a borrowed and rather attractive modern motorbike with one of his children on the back, and about to drive off.
Jim felt very embarrassed because here he was sitting on that rather flash motorbike when supposedly struggling to make ends meet.
The lady got out of her car (in Jim’s drive) and passed by Jim on her way to the back door of Jim’s rented home.
Jim couldn’t get away fast enough, so he gingerly started making his way past the lady’s car with little room on either side of the bike, and wing mirrors not helping.
Just as he was doing so, the lady came back and wasn’t impressed and said rather crossly (and not very nicely), “You breaka my car and I breaka your face.”
Nervous Jim winced facially and said nothing given his even further embarrassment and inner struggle to express why he was acting so. Thus nothing got said.  So off the lady drove with a sad impression of Jim not realising the truth of the matter, and she in too much of a disgusted state of mind to hang about for an explanation anyway.
Jim would’ve loved the opportunity to explain, but to a less aggressive and more receptive listener who would have made it easier for him to do so.
So there he is, still feeling badly about it, and another food parcel never came their way.


And using borrowed thoughts here:
If moral values are relative, as post modernists believe, then no one has the right to judge the moral standards of someone's culture by their own culture's moral standards.
However, if one culture teaches its people to love and not hurt another soul, and another culture teaches its people that it’s okay to bash and even eat other people, which culture would you say has the best set of values?
Yes, I'm sure that you would laud the first and condemn the latter. And there goes relativity, one having shot themself in the foot.
Likewise, it's interesting how those "You don't have the right to judge anyone" post modernists can get so angry over some man who abducts a teenager, say, and keeps her as a sex slave, when such a person is clearly living by a different code altogether, which, should we condemn it, would see us judging him by our moral standards.
Therefore, to be consistant with the belief that moral values are relative (should we hold to such) we would surely have to refrain from judging and condemning him.
Hence why insisting that morals are purely subjective and personal is really a nonsense, and why absolutes like the Ten Commandments make a whole lot of sense.
And so:
Ask the child whose life has turned out a mess because they scoffed at their parent’s sound advice, if they think the commandment to honour their parents is a good one.
Ask the jailed woman, who in a jealous rage, badly beat the mother of the child competing against her daughter, if she thinks the commandment against coveting is a good one.
Ask any child whose life has been badly affected by his mum or dad having an adulterous affair that caused a divorce, if the commandment to not commit adultery is a good one.
Ask the person being sued for saying untruths about someone, if the commandment not to slander is a good one.
Ask the man who’s on death row for murdering someone, if the commandment not to murder is a good one.
Ask the family man who has been forced to work for weeks without a break, if the commandment to rest on the seventh day of each week (Saturday) is a good one.
Ask the person who’s gone down for three years for committing a robbery, if the commandment not to steal is a good one.
You see, if our moral values come from ourselves, and not from a higher power, then who gets to decide what is right and what is wrong? Who gets to decide what is good and what is evil? After all, what one person calls good, another person may well call evil; and thus each having a different concept of what is right and what is wrong. And going by that, should one condemn Hitler, or Saddam Hussein?

“If no set of moral ideas were truer or better than any other, there would be no sense in preferring civilised
morality to savage morality, or Christian morality to Nazi morality.”

“To reject moral absolutes is in essence to affirm that there are no essential differences between
Mother Theresa and Hitler.”
From the book: Christianity For Skeptics.

"The essence of modernity is the death of the spiritual. A modernist is someone who is more concerned about air pollution than soul pollution. A modernist is someone who wants clean air so he can breathe dirty words. A modernist cares about big things, like whales, more than little things, like fetuses."
Peter Kreeft, Darkness At Noon.

Okay, so you're not a Christian, but if everyone kept the Ten Commandments, there would be:

Commandment One — no one believing in multiple and differing gods.

The upshot: Less religious confusion.

Two — no one foolishly bowing to wooden, metal or stone objects. Nor anyone idolizing or revering any man, woman or creature.

The upshot: Less monetary profiteering from the religious, unnecessary and pointless; less expense for poorer church members; less money and time being wasted on the shallowness of celebrities, stars and the likes; and less people being led astray by him or her.

Three — no hypocrites.

The upshot: Good and true role models.

Four — no one working seven days a week non-stop. Nor doubts about our origin.

The upshot: Less worn out people due to that once a week daily break from the tyranny of time. And no ridiculous monkey nonsense, nor that silly belief that something can come out of nothing.

Five — no children abusing or disrespecting their parents.

The upshot: no rebellious children and greater respect for authority figures in general.

Six — no murderers.

The upshot: No grieving relatives and less violence.

Seven — no adulterers.

The upshot: Less hurting spouses, less broken homes, less emotionally affected children, and no ones partner committing mental adultery via watching porn.

Eight — no theives.

The upshot: No one having to fear robberies and break ins, nor having to put up with people taking things without asking.

Nine — no false accusers.

The upshot: No one having to deal with slander and malicious gossip.

Ten — no green-eyed monsters coveting what others have.

The upshot: No one feeling threatened by those who'd like to get their hands on what isn't theirs.

Now what's wrong with a law like that?

Some opposite viewpoints worth seriously pondering on:

Love — Lust
Virginity — Try before you buy.
Courtship — Your place or mine? All's fair in love and war
Till death do us part — Till boredom or issues arise
Faithfulness — Me and Mrs Jones
Loyalty — Kiss and tell
Selflessness — Here, hold the ladder
Benevolence — The more the merrier
Restraint — Eat, drink and be merry
Humbleness — Who's the fairest in the land?
Truth — Whatever people choose to believe
Honesty — If it suits
Compassion — I’m not my brother’s keeper
Lawfulness — What the law doesn’t know….
Rights — Mine for sure
Peace — Where it’s in my interests
Transparency — I won’t say if you won’t say
Responsibility — Who cares? Just do it.
Accountability — You’re to blame
Service — Take it or leave it
Heroism — Every man for himself
Forgiveness — You’ve got to be kidding
Mercy — Dog eat dog
Boundaries — Rules were meant to be broken
Morals — Who says?
Principles — Who’s bothered?
Standards — Whose are they?
Right living — Only if it matters to one
A day of reckoning — Don’t believe in any
A saviour — Don’t believe in one
A guide book — Not interested
Hope beyond the grave — You only live once
Made in the image of God — Evolved from an ape
Here by design — Here by accident
Created for a purpose — No particular reason for one’s existence.
We're all here to help each other — Survival of the fittest

So, which side might best represent you?

Regarding truth:

"Truth is not what I believe. Truth is not even what I know.
Truth is fact. I may not believe it. I may not know it. That does not change it.
It is there nevertheless, waiting to be discovered and believed.
Truth does not depend on the unsettled and changing opinions of men.
It was truth before it was believed. It will remain truth, whether it is believed or not.
Reason does not originate or create it. It merely discovers it.
Consequently, reason is not a source. Truth goes back beyond reason.
Others would have us believe that the Church is the source of authority,
particularly in matters of theology. They are WRONG!
The Church is the product of truth. It does not originate it.
It came into being by accepting divine revelations. It is not the source of that revelation.
Truth goes beyond the Church, it is antecedent to it."
Carlyle B. Haynes (1882-1958).