Love, Thought And Care



Yes, that's what it's all about, dear friend.

One article called Giving In Return is found after poem number 31.

The poems regarding COMPETITIVENESS begin with poem number 32, and are followed by another article, but on this very same subject.

"To truly help, we need to truly understand."

"Thought for others results in thought for us."

"The selfless protecting of another's own, health and life, the vigorous defending of another's rights, liberty
and freedom, and the sensitive attending to another's suffering, heartbreak or misfortune (even if they have
shown no such thought them self), these truly maketh a man."

"Love, thought and care knows that tough love has its place, because there are
certain things in life that we must face."
The poet, author


1.  Love, Thought And Care

If we’ve lived our life and haven’t found that it all comes down to love, thought and care,
Sad indeed that is, and thus the cupboards of our lives woefully lean or bare.
Love, thought and care having been the mountain that we should’ve climbed, hoisting our flag,
That the hopes and spirits of others might soar too, not whither away or sag.

Oh, the power of love, thought and care, it changing others as much as us, and
Easing the burdens of life, supporting midst those things that one can’t understand.
The reasons sometimes hidden, the answers not to be found, but somebody there,
Yes, a fellow traveller, someone taking the time to show, love, thought and care.

By Lance Landall

2.  "Get Lost!"

Yes, “Get lost!” love says, “Loose yourself in others,” colour their life with kindness, and
Shower them with compliments, encouraging words, that needed, supportive hand.
Love knowing that such is what both we and they are needing, so “Get lost!” says love,
“Loose yourself in others,” thus you being those blessings that’ll fall from above.

Yes, be a joy germ, a good Samaritan, self forgotten via kind words and deeds,
Some gloominess erased, or some burden eased, courtesy of such loving seeds.
And such seeds turning into flowering blossoms in your life, blessing you too,
And why love says, “Get lost! Loose yourself in others,” turn some grey sky into blue.

By Lance Landall

3.  Loving Ways

Nothing makes a person more attractive than loving ways, that caring look that’s seen in their eyes,
Those tender touches and thoughtful words, and those questions that a genuine interest implies.
And yes, those kind deeds and responses, their seeking after what’s best and right, and their honesty,
For those whose heart is genuine don’t deceive, but rather, practice fairness and transparency.

Yes, no artificialness mars their character, they simply who they are and in every way,
Their love and concern for others apparent, they oft stopping to lend a hand along the way.
They knowing how hard life can be, and how many are in need of a shoulder or outstretched arms,
A port in a storm, a restorative oasis from harsh realities, some hope that calms.

And what a blessing where someone fits the bill, they so like medicine, a surgeon deftly skilled,
And oh, how after their sensitive, non-judgemental compassion the air's so fragrantly filled.
And not just for that moment or period of time, but forever in someone’s memory,
For the perfume of unconditional kindness and charity is lasting and heavenly.

If only the lives of all were blessed by such people, they too few in the scheme of things, sadly,
But we can take up the challenge, thus boosting the number of those who act so generously.
And there’s no better path, and how we become happier, for as far as life goes, it’s the key,
Unlocking a door through which only but good can come, good created by acting selflessly.

By Lance Landall

4.  Keep Them In Mind, And Take The Time

We just don’t know what someone’s going through, hence why we should show love, thought and care,
And certainly so if we do know, they appreciating someone who’s near.
Someone who often asks them how they’re getting on, someone who keeps them in mind,
Someone who knows that sufferers require a response that’s thoughtful and kind.

Too many strugglers are forgotten in our daily doings, our thoughts elsewhere,
And hence their lonely battle when they’re dying for a little love, thought and care.
They doing it so much harder than they should be, but having no choice, sadly,
And this all why we should keep them in mind, and take the time, acting lovingly.

By Lance Landall

5.  The Best Of Rhythms

Given this sad old world, we all know that there’re times to be brave and strong, but hey,
Many are wounded, heavily weighed down, and the sky in their world sombre grey.
And thus sensitivity, sympathy and empathy called for, so that they
Might be able to rise, continue on, thus moving from hard labour to play.

Yes, hurt and pain are part and parcel of this sad old world, hence those helping hands,
There nothing like that tender touch, that patience of he or she who understands.
So lets all move to the rhythm of that same loving kindness, that thought and care,
That the suffering or heartbreak of others makes so much easier to bear.

By Lance Landall

6.  The Magic Of Love

I don’t believe in magic, such but the product of childish imaginings, storybook fiction,
'Cause given the natural course of things, certain laws and nature’s way, such acts in contradiction.
And where magic's not the product of fantasy, science fiction, kid's books, I believe it to be
Sleight of hand, smoke and mirrors, deception and trickery, the work of evil spirits, actually.

However, I do believe that amazing things happen, such oft referred to as a miracle,
But most the product of love, thought and kindness, and the results more astounding, more remarkable.
And were one to call that magic — magic of a kind — then a strong believer in magic I'd be,
But though believing in good spirit beings, such is simply that selfless love shown by many.

Oh, how we underestimate those acts of human kindness, they working just as magically,
'Cause there’s no greater power than love, it not borne of trickery, but sincerity, transparency.
All how many lives are changed, deep wounds healed, and burdens lifted, or someone soon seen to bloom and grow,
'Cause within those seeds that love plants, there is more magical presence than any magician can know.

And thus within us all, there’s a magic awaiting the sowing of any kind deed that we plant,
Be such via word, pen, hand or feet, which the wish, hope and desire of some dear needy soul can oft grant.
And all it takes is love's magic, a power not only at our disposal, but miraculous,
Whereby the lives of others can be greatly blessed, all thanks to love’s magic wand, courtesy of us.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded on 16 December 2022.

7.  The Human Touch

This world’s so deficient when it comes to the human touch, that tender touch that shows that we care,
Be it via a gentle clasp, stroke, rub, pat or hug that conveys support and thought, allays some fear.
Yes, there’s nothing like the human touch, for via such, much is conveyed, and oft more than words we share,
Which, though needed and treasured, never quite as eloquently display that we’re concerned and near.

And something ’bout the human touch is healing, ’cause it can soothe and calm, whisper intimately,
Drawing one into another’s caring thoughts and feelings, and thereby, it revealing empathy.
Oh yes, a moment that’s telling, a moment of closeness, and even of solidarity,
That presence warming and reassuring, and conveying the very best of humanity.

Though words are no less worthy than touches, they’re not a touch, a touch being a world of its own,
Something both felt and understood, love’s special form of expression, silent, caring, wordless zone.
However, both touches and fitting words are oft found together, adding weight to their mission,
And aren’t in need of prompting, ’cause those who display the human touch, are blessed with intuition.

So many are in need of the human touch, that gentle clasp, stroke or pat that can soothe or calm,
That caring that reaches out wherever there’s anxiety, hurt, or some element of harm.
But even where there is none of these, that touch still means so much, blessing giver and receiver,
And why when it comes to love’s special form of expression, the human touch, I’m a believer.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded 26 January 2020.

8.  Above All This, Be Loving

Come early morning deliberations, and midst your toil and pleasure — above all this be loving —
And this, despite distractions, vexations or afflictions, thus at peace with yourself, that your heart may sing.
'Cause love holds everything together, it delivering hope, wisdom, strength and opportunity,
Whereby we can be healed, enlightened and encouraged, others too, blessed by our caring energy.

Yes, come each day that life gives you, all that you encounter, say and do — above all this be loving —
So that sweet refrains may ennoble your mind, and within your heart, harmonious melodies ring.
And that within your soul, deep compassion may be found mixed with mercy, empathy and sympathy,
Such reaching out to those around you, and they in turn oft displaying that same generosity.

Yes, such having started with you, others blessed by your caring heart, it open, honest and sincere,
Welcoming and forgiving — and like your mind, sharp conscience, it seeking what’s best, thus healthy and clear.
'Cause midst the highs and lows of life, and any wrong done to you, you’re now choosing the following way —
Above all this be loving — knowing that taking any other path is to falter, badly stray.

It’s simply reality, a prediction that’ll always come true, one with a lifetime guarantee,
'Cause only love's the ultimate answer, the meantime way, given and not expected, thus self free.
But oh, how such oft returns like Divine carrier pigeons, 'cause that’s the nature of love, gladly,
Though should such pigeons not return — above all this be loving — that others, love’s better way may see.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded on 16 December 2022.

9.  Where Love Starts

If it weren’t for love, where would we be, and I dare say, “No more,”
But gone like other creatures, some that only some of us saw.
Hence why love is paramount, yet far less we’re seeing today,
Which can only work against us, and hence why for more I pray.

Yes, may love become plentiful where it’s scarce. And where there’s heaps,
May it spread its unselfish mantle with warm embracing leaps,
Because we’ve a world that needs filling, those holes in many hearts,
And right there in every home and family is where love starts.

By Lance Landall

10.  Have You Missed The Boat?

You may be a king, president, mayor, doctor, pastor, or even some hero,
But if you’re not loving, kind to your spouse and kids, creatures and those you don’t know,
You’ve missed the boat, because loving kindness is where it’s at, which starts in the home,
And which should also accompany us wherever we need or choose to roam.

Yes, love really isn’t optional, ’cause without it, ones really not living,
And simply thinking of that “me,” rather than thoughtfully helping and giving.
And this why some marriage goes west, or some friendship, self having got in the way,
And self’s inclined to shout, expose itself, ’cause love’s fulltime, doesn’t pick its day.

By Lance Landall

11.  Bear Long With Others

Too many are quick to write someone off because of their views or ways, they hardly bearing long,
Though not so happy when the boots on the other foot, but after all, haven’t they behaved wrong?
Yes, they quick to write someone else off, but not happy when others are quick to write them off too,
Forgetting that what goes around comes around, for writing folk off is an unkind thing to do.

Many are written off simply because they’re not understood, they far from wrong, strange or silly,
But the latter isn’t seen due to others not bearing long, more involvement necessary.
Oh, how some misunderstanding oft gets in the way, which more effort could sort, but no thank you,
A toe has been trodden on, or something misread, so what do foolish-cum-immature folk do?

Yes, they write the other person off when it’s better to resolve things and somehow bridge the gap,
For the value and very being of another is something too precious to hastily scrap.
But oh, how folk treat others so casually, coldly (as if humans were throwaways too),
Rather than taking the time required to really get to know folk, which kindness would seek to do.

At the end of the day, we’re all unique, and why our response to others should be tailor-made,
We not confining them to our box, or some other box that just sees things skewed and wrongly weighed.
Nor expecting them to conform to some pattern, they uniquely who and how they are — we too —
Which is why we should treat folk as we’d have them treat us, not write them off as far too many do.

By Lance Landall

12.  The Last Thing On Love's Mind

There’s no joy in wrong, 'cause out of wrong springs more, and wrong is never to our benefit, nor worthy,
And thus those who succumb to such mere slaves of its ill, which they often inflict on others, sadly.
They both being many, and wrong always being wrong, regardless of excuses given in its defence,
'Cause wrong's the practice of fools, puppets and perpetrators, something that never comes from wisdom or sense.

Yes, anywhere but from wisdom or sense, and nor from love, 'cause injury's the last thing on love’s mind,
And all why those who indulge in injury aren’t on love’s side, but more enemies of humankind.
And hence why we’re all the worse for such, 'cause it acts like a cancer within us, and society,
Which is why we shouldn’t heed its beckoning, our hearts and minds free of blame, we acting correctly.

No matter how much we defend or titillate wrong, it’s still wrong, and that “end justifies the means,”
Which attempts to bridge the gap between right and wrong, effectively, and right doing still contravenes.
Such reminds me of those so-called little white lies, 'cause how can lies be white, somehow acceptable,
Other than if we paint them so, and painted they are, wrong we’ve disguised in order to something sell.

No, there’s no joy in wrong, though there may appear to be, but only if we’re looking through grubby lens,
Which conveniently, though still deludedly, even perilously, something or other bends.
Sure we might get away with it, but what does such say of us, having discarded integrity,
Thus joining the list of willingly offenders, and adding to the lot and loss of humanity.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded on 16 December 2022.

13.  When Love Will Have The Final Say

When I see love in action, love genuine and true, I just know that there must be a plan for man,
One with the best of intentions, one that’s been biding its time — that is, since evil somehow began.
And I’ll keep on believing so, 'cause there’s one thing I’m sure of — LOVE WILL TRIUMPH SOON — permanently,
But not before we’ve seen the worst of evil, its final push to ensnare all, though temporarily.

Yes, I’ll take love’s side any day, 'cause I've seen its fruitage, and thus know of its possibilities,
Unlike evil, a dead-end street, which, when it’s reigning within, just acts like a terminal disease,
One that’s contagious, though there's a cure for those who wish to be free of its poisonous infamy,
And that cure is love — pure, unadulterated love — 'cause I've seen the results of its potency.

Yes, nothing works like love, nothing satisfies more, 'cause love, unlike hate, is balanced and in harmony,
A beautiful holistic tree, bursting with bountiful promises, cheery growth that one can see.
A tree that keeps on giving, no thought for itself, nourished and fed by its own generosity,
Each one of its flowers leaving a lasting sweetness in the air, one rich in selfless ancestry.

All why I just know that love’s the answer, that in due season it will deliver, not disappoint,
Unlike evil which leaves a bitter taste, a cruel legacy, not a home but sleazy rundown joint.
Yes, only love knows the way, only love provides hope, purpose and light, a coming solution filled day,
And why I won’t stop believing until that time when love will have the final say, and evil slay.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded on 16 December 2022.

14.  I've Heard A Lot Of Talk About Love

I’ve heard a lot of talk about love, even talk about love myself, and so
You’d think the world was full of love, and that everywhere one went it would show.
People agreeing to disagree, no hard feelings, and all that kind of thing,
And thus everyone’s words and acts having a familiar caring ring.

No one just looking after themselves, but anxiously thinking of others too,
Selflessness as common as sparrows, nothing not done as someone thought to.
Yes, the world busy with kindness, tolerance greeting the intolerant, who
Would surely be a minority, though also treated respectfully too.

Yes, because that’s love, it dealing with wrongdoers lovingly, hardly two faced,
But working to rehabilitate, and that being where its bets would be placed.
It looking for the best, hoping for the best, an example and not a bat,
No one bruised or battered, even pushed or pulled, love being much smarter than that.

Oh yes, love not into rants, even under provocation, but calm and cool,
Its heart having a steady beat, its head rightly handling the bully or fool.
Love not into excuses either, but enduring patiently, shunning ill,
That sad “End justifies the means" mentality, ’cause love’s wrongdoings are nil.

Yes, love not turning to anything that has a hint of hardness or cruelty,
It no dictator, enforcer, and nor it anyone’s hired mercenary.
No, love able to stand on its own, not needing help, but helpers who’ll share
Anything and everything that will ease and help that load that others bear.

Yes, I’ve heard a lot of talk about love, even talk about love myself, yet,
If I were to speak and behave quite the opposite, how much love would I get?
And would it come from those who’re on about it, because I would’ve thought it would,
Or do some think that love’s only for those who’re loveable, and who’re always good?

Surely not!

’Cause then it wouldn’t truly be love, and it less able to move and excite,
Or heal and change, something having dampened its flame, cast a shadow over its light.
Love’s power nobbled, that something that does what the opposite can’t do, and I
Then looking at that same weakness found in hate, and over it, wondering why.

By Lance Landall

15.  Self Absorption

It’s so easy to forget or overlook the burdens that other people carry,
And here I’m talking about those who’re nearby, people that we have contact with daily.
Perhaps a friend, our spouse, mother or father, brother or sister — our own family,
Or it could even be a workmate, or someone that we somehow mix with socially.

Thus, while we laugh, sing and play, as it were, or get caught up in our day to day affairs,
We fail to remember another’s burden, and thus aren’t aware of their inner tears.
And yet, daily they carry such, right in front of our noses, even throughout their lives,
All of which is lost on us, and to our shame, and all because of what distracts or drives.

We know that they carry such, we even get used to such, rather insensitively,
For such we shouldn’t get used to, nor neglect, leaving them alone in their misery.
And yes, they may have learnt to go without our daily concern and help (rather bravely),
But that’s not how things were meant to be, for such is the thoughtless side of humanity.

Yes, so absorbed in our own little world, or our own woes — perhaps introvertedly,
And perhaps it even suits us to forget or not notice another’s misery.
However, more often than not, it’s just self absorption, lack of sensitivity,
For at the end of the day, the truth of the matter is, we’re all too concerned with “me.”

By Lance Landall

16.  Compromised Intelligence

We’re all intelligent enough, but come desire, passion or anger, oh,
Out the window (at that time), a degree of intelligence is seen to go.
It overridden by that buzz some get from some extreme, then there’s temptation,
Or come Covid, there’re those angry protests we’ve seen regarding vaccination.

And so, it’s scaling buildings with just bare hands, bedding someone else’s wife, or
Super spreading the likes of Covid, thought and wisdom losing out to that roar.
And hence why I’ve called it compromised intelligence, partial, temporary loss,
Which occurs as oft as one allows it, thus situations being the boss.

All how someone’s injured or killed, how a marriage is wrecked, or a virus spread,
Folly and selfishness having breached that protective mechanism in one’s head.
And others suffering because of such too, a loved one who’s been left behind,
A betrayed spouse, or complete stranger, compromised intelligence rather blind.

Yes, those foolish things being what intelligence wouldn't do, wouldn't think to,
Unless impaired somehow, we our own worst hackers, or some needed fuse just blew.
And therefore, only some of the lights on, one's brain not working like it should be,
Compromised intelligence having kicked in, and hence those foolish things we see.

By Lance Landall

17.  Either We Do Or Don't Care

Don’t go saying you care if you’re just watching someone struggle, and aren’t helping them out like
you should be,
Bearing in mind their family too, 'cause not helping parents hurts their kids, impacts on society.
Yes, it really doesn't mean much when we say we care and yet do little to help, or nothing at all,
'Cause platitudes are oft a waste of breath, more like arrows, thus doing nothing for backs against the wall.

It's far better to leave an envelope in their letterbox every now and then, some cash within,
The odd ten dollars or so, such oft meaning a great deal, helping them with food, clothes, debts and medicine.
How such delights, 'cause so infrequent such surprises are, if at all, and why we shouldn’t say we care
Unless putting our money, time and effort where our mouth is, and that way, showing we really do care.

By Lance Landall

18.  Go Visit!

Many years ago, there was a TV add that went: “Don’t wait to be told you need Palmolive Gold,”
And that add referring to a certain brand of soap
and no, we really shouldn’t wait to be told.
Well, when it comes to us wanting to visit people we know, a somewhat similar thing applies,
We shouldn’t wait to be asked, 'cause we may not be asked, and therefore, we looking poorly in their eyes.

At the end of the day, how much do we really care about those people, and we do have a voice,
Thus our asking them if we can visit showing a true interest, such clearly being our choice.
In other words, we don’t have to wait to be asked 'cause we can ask them. And if they haven’t asked us,
That’s the only thing to do, what we should’ve done in the first place, such not thoughts of a genius.

Yes, it’s pretty ABC stuff, 'cause waiting can make us look like we don’t care, and there is the phone,
Such only taking a few minutes, and they possibly wanting a visit, more so if alone.
So why wait? 'Cause such has got to be the silliest of things, and it far more likely to offend,
'Cause many complain they’ve not been visited, even sneer at promises which seem to have no end.

Yes, many must be owed a visit they’re not going to get, thanks to others waiting, foolishly,
Such a negative sign, not a positive one, some even dying before they’re visited, sadly.
Thus those who wait to be asked have no reason but their own, one that is hardly worth the light of day,
'Cause we all have a voice and two legs which were meant to be used, unless we’ve been told to stay away.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded on 16 December 2022.

19.  Let's Get Love Right!

Some think that love’s warm fuzzies, blind eyes, deaf ears and silent lips, when it’s much more,
It demanding truth, justice, right living, wisdom and adherence to sound law.
Yes, “Love knows no wrong,” the Good Word conveys, and thus must hold to some moral code,
One that points us in the right direction, lest we somehow take some foolish road.

And so, being angry about wrong doesn’t give us the right to act poorly,
Love forbidding such responses, because that’s simply acting as errantly.
Love standing up, speaking out, but not fighting fire with fire, behaving the same,
Much like those errant followers who wrongly persecute or kill in God’s name.

I once saw some graffiti which said, “Down with racism!” and right next to it
I felt like scribbling, “Down with graffiti!” they acting just like a hypocrite.
In other words, condemning wrong while committing wrong, but this oft how it goes,
Which a very flawed version of love declares; such like holy socks showing toes.

Love’s also often confused with going along with everyone else, when
Love gives all the right to agree or disagree, and hence our words or our pen.
Just so long as we’re not abusing others verbally or physically,
And I excluding straight talk here, ’cause love knows there’s a place for speaking clearly,

But never nastily.

Though racism’s WRONG, we can’t force folk not to be racist, except publicly,
Such still in their ignorant minds and hardened hearts, and that’s beyond you and me.
Yes, we can educate, but not force their mind, and their heart needs help that’s Divine,
A change that love oft brings about — any bullying here, just crossing the line.

There’s no such thing as a good dictator, a dictator a dictator, so
There’s only so far we can go, otherwise our own rights and freedoms we’ll blow.
Maybe not all at once, but incrementally, laws added to bit by bit,
Until there on a throne of our own making, another tyrant of sorts will sit.


Love overlooks shortcomings, shuts its ears to evil surmisings, speaks no ill,
But it’s not silly, its eyes, ears and lips knowing when to look, listen or yell.
And love’s no tyrant either, but respectful of the rights of all, hence that line,
One that it will never cross, because there on the other side, sits a landmine.

Yes, there’s a lot of talk about loving and not hating these days, but you know,
There’s got to be understanding too, that meeting half way thing, so love can grow.
We trying to understand what we don’t understand about others, and then
We actually getting somewhere, not running around like a headless hen.

Though the heart should always rule, it errs where it isn’t connected to the brain,
So, we should mind those knee jerks to bad events, calls for this or that, lest ill reign.
Worryingly, it’s been a case of one law after another, and where to next?
Rushed laws and emotive laws just endangering, and the root cause still not fixed.

By Lance Landall

This poem was added to on 6 April 2019.

20.  Where Love's Anyone's Guess

If someone asked me what the formula was for a lasting marriage, I’d say
(Still married after fifty years), “Well, I don’t know about formulas, okay,
But selflessness would be where I’d start, ’cause where such is found, failure’s less likely,
Given that both are putting the other first, and thus not acting selfishly.

The truth is that selfishness is the killer of all relationships, you know,
And thus a plague on society from which so many other ills oft flow.
It’s why this planet’s in trouble, it’s why society’s in a mess, and why
There’s far less love about, and thus the merits of putting ourselves first, a lie.

Yes, because love in its truest form is all about selflessness, sacrifice,
Which should be the bedrock of each relationship come that confetti or rice.
Love not just feelings and emotions, no, but deeper than that, broader than that,
And thus without the truth of it, love is anyone’s guess, seldom where it’s at.

And all why most marriages fail, I believe, selflessness not suiting, you see,
Or only found in the one partner, thus an uphill battle, effectively.
The selfless one simply used, and possibly giving up, eventually.
The strain overwhelming, ’cause it always takes two, or divorce a certainty.

Or at best, a percentage marriage, it crawling or limping, not running, and
Precious time wasted, even someone’s life, who happiness, not sadness, had planed.
Thus where love’s anyone’s guess, and there’s a lack of solid commitment, oh dear,
Such is only to be expected, and why I guess I’ve sought to enlighten here.

By Lance Landall

21.  Here Today...

Humans are precious things; they walk and talk, they think and feel, so when you see one,
Be kind and gentle, they somewhat fragile, and each one only here for a short while,
when all’s said and done.
And each one unique, 'cause once gone, they’ll be no more, and such the same with you,
Because you’re a human too, and why what I’ve said I’m sure you already knew.

But just a reminder, 'cause people forget, and such oversight can regret,
Especially when they learn about someone that they would've liked to have met.
Or someone close who they cared about, but not as much as they should have, you see,
And then that person gone — all why we shouldn’t treat anyone casually.

By Lance Landall

22.  My Dear Friend

My dear friend, and because I truly love you so — in other words, truly care —
I’ll always tell you what you need to know, not just say what you might like to hear.
And therefore certain things may hurt, and this, no matter how carefully I tread,
As truth often reveals the unpleasant, those things that sometimes need to be said.

And that’s love, for love puts another’s best interests first, even withholds praise;
In other words, doesn’t say you’re good at something when you’re not, nor false hopes raise.
Otherwise, you might well make a fool of yourself, perhaps reaching for a mike,
And those in the audience laughing at your voice, wishing you’d be on your bike.

No, love has far more sense than that, for had I foolishly said that you sing well,
You’d be slow to trust my judgment again given how “Get off the stage!” can chill.
But enough about singing, for that’s just one example, and why truth’s best said,
And lest due to such folly you join the ranks of those who’ve nonsense in their head.

Yes, the world is full of inflated egos, balloons that are about to burst,
Folk who’ve been set up for a fall via misplaced warm fuzzies of which they’ve a thirst;
And why criticism’s hardly popular despite it oft being a good friend,
And the way of fools soon leading to their own or someone else’s sticky end.

And this, dear friend, why I’ll always be honest with you, share what it’s best you know,
And thus I at peace with myself, my conscience clear and my heart shouting, “Bravo!”
For stating the truth and calling things as they are is not just a caring act,
But a courageous one given how so many now prefer fantasy to fact.

By Lance Landall

23.  Be My Friend, Or Else

Have you ever pulled back from being personally involved with someone,
with good reason, obviously,
Only to find they can’t take rejection, no doubt due to some kind of issue, perhaps insecurity?
And given they can’t handle rejection, they hound you, or somehow try to make your life a real misery,
Thus saying, “If you won’t get involved with me again, I’ll keep bothering you, or punishing you, you’ll see.”

Such one more good reason why you no longer want to be involved with them again — that is, personally,
'Cause if that’s the kind of person they are, how they act when someone pulls back from them, you’ve acted correctly.
In other words, you can’t afford to have such manipulative people in your life, who only injure,
And why it’s not always wrong to distance yourself from someone — that is, someone who acts like a saboteur.

Love must have its boundaries, otherwise people will walk all over us, and such would be wrong to allow,
'Cause love knows that such wouldn’t be good for them either — and this, something such saboteurs need to learn somehow.
And why we sometimes should confront such people, thereby letting them know what they need to know, but lovingly,
Both for our own sake and their sake, 'cause such is simply acting wisely, fairly, helpfully and transparently.

Shouldn't such people be given another chance, you ask?

If that’s the kind of person they are (given they’ve got some serious issues), bear the following in mind:
That should you have to distance yourself from them again, those same sad consequences you’re most likely to find.
And who wants a double dose? It’s oft better not to go there again, if at all, unless it’s clear they’ve changed,
Thus loving them from a distance, as it were, not letting them manipulate you, nor your life rearrange.

By Lance Landall

This poem was tweaked througout on 6 January 2023.

This poem relates to the son of Prince Charles.
The principles in this poem (and the one that follows) have universal meaning.

24.  Hi Harry

Hi Harry, I believe you’ve made a big mistake, ’cause family’s family,
And going public but cruelty, and this, despite whatever your beefs may be.
Yes, your wife may’ve suffered, but some aren’t able to handle the same things well,
And hence your family back home taking the full hit, and thus enter more ill.

As for racism — well, despite legitimate cries, there’s a lot of hype too,
Many jumping the gun, reading something into everything, though not true.
And so, what’s happened here, I really don’t know, but some things can get overplayed,
One reading more into things than what was intended, so how well’s it been weighed?

When in love, and of younger years, our responses can be foolish and faulty,
And this why, even where one’s beef is justified, we should still tread carefully.
As for me, I’ve no time for that kiss and tell, your business not my business, and
Tell-all shows not the way to fix things, and can be used where one’s spitefully planned.

While there are genuine beefs, there’s a lot of playing the victim going on,
We needing to be bigger than that, dignity and integrity soon gone.
But no, these days everyone seeming to want the world to know, and sadly
Often burning their bridges behind them midst savaging a good family.

You’ve actually given the Press more fodder, attracted more cameras too,
When such wasn’t desired, I understood, and therefore, adding to things too.
Sometimes it’s better to simply move on, and so many far worse off than you,
But bearing it like the heroes they are — so what do you think, Harry? You too?

Sometimes our issues do the steering and talking, and pain you’ve known, Harry,
All why it’s a shame you’ve bought into more, rather than simply letting things be.
You’re both able to make your own way now, and forgiveness the best path to take,
Though who of us is without sin, if you know what I mean, and far too much at stake.

At the end of the day, Harry, it’s all about others, not ourselves, and so,
We counting our blessings, making the best of things, that flowers, not weeds, may grow.
And that interview with Oprah certainly planting weeds, and yes, spread weeds do,
Taking root in our own garden, which over time, we’ve usually cause to rue.

All why love should always be first and foremost, it saving us from so much ill,
And yes, others too, Harry, and hence why very deep within us it should dwell.
We learning to live with things, and taking things on the chin, 'cause that's how we grow,
And graciousness towards others being a virtue, how a real man we know.

By Lance Landall

This poem was penned on the 21 March 2021 and added to on 25 April.

This poem effectively follows on from the one above it.

25.  Further To, Harry

Yes, Harry, we’re oft the victim of our parents who were the victim of theirs,
And hence those mistakes made, which calls for some understanding midst those wounds and tears.
Our parents having suffered too, you see, so why just add ill to ill, Harry?
We meant to break the cycle, not attack and destroy, and why here I tarry.

Too many seem to think that as long as they have each other they’ll be fine,
But no, it doesn’t work like that, and why later, many have had cause to pine.
And I also thinking of those adopted children who desire to find
Those parents missing from their lives, and why those angry outbursts, Harry, I’d mind.

Yes, I believe you’ve gone about things very badly, and only time will tell
Whether you’ve totally burnt your bridges — oh, how those horrid gossip mags sell.
The world not needing to know, you able to get yourself sorted on your way,
Quietly working on things like the rest of us who media games don’t play.

And by that I mean, people really only hearing the one side, which is cruel,
Royalty having to show some dignity, and tell-alls the path of a fool.
Armchair critics and judges having a field day, and why it oft backfires,
’Cause when it comes to what oft amounts to pity parties — oh, how such tires.

People sympathetic at first, maybe, 'cause it usually doesn’t last,
And why when it comes to certain things in our life, they’re oft best left in the past.
We moving on, sorting ourselves out, minding that we don’t make the same mistakes,
While still retaining important relationships, and sense is all that it takes.

You seem to have put too much store in Meghan, Harry, which really doesn't pay,
'Cause should she die somehow, or you later divorce, greater pain would come your way.
You having treated your family as if they don't matter, only to find
That they really do, and very much so, but hurt and anger making one blind.

By Lance Landall

This poem was penned on the 23 May 2021 and added to on the 24 May.

This poem relates to the speech that Harry gave at the Invictus games,
and was penned on 18 April 2022.

26.  That Invictus Speech

I heard you say that it’s all about character, Harry, and I thought, hang on,
What about your tell all book? Isn’t that hypocrisy, the moral high ground gone?
After all, Harry, good character hardly takes such a path, dishing the dirt,
Which can only but leave other people feeling embarrassed, angry or hurt.

And in this case, members of your family, and none of it necessary,
We all needing to be bigger than that, thus it all about maturity.
Yes, character being about not stooping so low, taking things on the chin,
So I think you have cause for reflection, and the best choice being the waste bin.

The trouble with you is you’re clinging to things, and tell all books oft 'bout revenge,
Poor old me, I want the world to know, a mentality older than Stonehenge.
And just as draped in winter mist, or found in self-made mouldy castle dungeons,
Where chains hold one in a state of self-pity suspension, despite one's own sins.

By Lance Landall

The following poem relates to the Hollywood Oscar awards that took place in March 2022 where Will Smith
(who's an actor) walked up onto the stage and slapped a comedian whose funny comments relating to his
wife's shaved head he didn't like. After sitting down, he angrily hollered out something using a foul expletive.

27.  A Word, Will Smith

I’m sorry, Will, but that was an outrageous act, and there’s a time, place and way,
A shake of the head, a roll of the eyes and straight face sufficient on the day.
And later, you could’ve pursued the matter far more appropriately,
Rather than stealing the show and spotlight from others via acting so badly.

What got into you, Will? Concern the Me Too movement might condemn doing naught,
But why that should-know-better violence, and that shameful and offensive shout?
The comedian’s comment being standard form, and not warranting your act,
Which deserves to be punished — and that it was over the top, is a fact.

Perhaps the characters you play, or that violence you act out in movies
Took over somehow, because that’s how it can go, which psychiatry agrees.
Yes, role playing coming at a cost, and so too should that behaviour of yours,
Which embarrassed an innocent man who meant no actual harm, and dropped jaws,

And that arrogant stride to the stage, and slap, possibly shutting doors.

Maybe there’s some other issue going on, Will, but whatever be the case
(And I’m aware of your Wife’s alopecia), that setting was hardly the place.
Yes, sympathy is one thing, Will, but that act not deserving of sympathy,
And why you need to do some soul searching, rightly use your masculinity.

You simply can’t have it both ways, Will, knocking violence whilst acting it out,
Taking some protective high moral ground whilst indulging in a foulmouthed shout.
Yes, your profession's full of hypocrisy, double standards, dishonesty,
Because it oft says one thing and does another, indulges in fakery.

Pretence is hollow, and playing other people is but a waste of one’s life,
And a form of adultery too where one’s all over someone else’s wife.
Tinseltown both superficial and artificial, and all why I’d quit, Will,
Playing the role of fools, villains and skewed heroes laying the grounds of some ill.

But regarding your meltdown: We’ve got to get past this stuff, love first and foremost,
’Cause it’s quite askew thinking of her but not thinking of him (Chris Rock, the host).
Oh yes, love is for all, and love choosing the right way, using both heart and head,
Which we all need to remember, Will, when each morning we arise from our bed.

But glad that you apologised, Will. However...

By Lance Landall

This poem was penned on 30 March 2022.
For further on role playing, see my poem A Despicable Profession which
can be found on my page There's More To Be Said, second poetry garden.

"All actors, in some way, suffer for their craft, with the very act of losing oneself
inside another being coming at a high price."
 Betsy Sharkey, Los Angeles Times, 31/12/2010


28.  Turning And Returning

When we’ve taken an unfortunate path, sometimes the only way back is to
Swallow our pride, say how sorry we are, and reconciliation pursue.
And yes, hurdles there may be, even shut doors, but that’s oft the price to be paid
When due to this or that, or in a blaze of glory, some path we’ve poorly weighed.

For the hot-headed and impulsive, there’s pretty much always a price to pay,
Aided and abetted by other malcontents that they’ve gathered on their way.
These fuelling the fire, quick to assure that the right decision’s been made, but no,
Such paths having always been the way of folly, from which pain’s oft seen to flow.

One having made returning very problematic, thus giving up, maybe,
Too much damage having been done, which sense could’ve avoided so easily.
But sense having gone out the door, or we confusing love with that path we took,
Too busy crossing the road to dubious greener pastures to bother to look.

Maybe hurt having got in the way, even anger too, all why we said things,
Things we shouldn’t have, true or otherwise, but oh, how a boiling kettle sings.
We unable to press rewind, nor erase, sad words lingering in the air,
And more damaging when aired publicly, given hurt and anger oft don’t care.

Such reminds me of a Christian parallel — yes, that sinner who spurns Jesus,
But no one finding the way back blocked here, because Christ is out searching for us.
Yes, He having taken the hit, yet not holding it against us, hence His grace,
We only having to return and say, “Sorry,” despite that dreadful disgrace.

Oh yes, sometimes we really put our foot in it, but we can always turn back,
Though not always to quite the same scene given that destruction from our attack.
But better that than continuing on the same path, and amends should be made,
Where possible, that is, most not as gracious as Christ, friendships lost, friendships frayed.

Oh, how painful too when we’ve kind of locked ourselves into things that we regret,
Thus the way back hindered, we caught between, or even entangled in some net.
But we knew better, we thought — oh, how the wounded wound too, but turn back one can,
And where love, wisdom, regret and true sorrow meet, dear friend, that’s always the plan.

However, many leave things too late, or don’t return at all, and what a shame,
Their loss being more or total, and it’s always pointless apportioning blame,
'Cause at the end of the day, we get to choose which path we’ll take, and may it be
The right path, the best path, thus saving ourselves and others from much misery.

By Lance Landall

29.  Pressure, Pressure

People can make mistakes under pressure, cut corners too, and soon can come flack,
Like that phone call to their boss, their ears getting chewed off, or they getting the sack.
And the sad thing oft being that they’re decent people who have a family,
And thus the impact of that phone call even larger, and when it needn’t be.

In other words, some folk pushing it all the way as if there’s been a crime, and
Flack flying in all directions when some mistakes are easy to understand,
And best not made too bigger thing of, more a quiet word or two in their ear,
A little “next time” warning, perhaps, lest their spouse and kids the brunt of such bear.

By Lance Landall

Alternative poem.

30.  Something That's Never Ever "Me"

Though love’s a very tiny word, it’s pleasing to the ear, and very regularly heard, but sadly, it's oft tainted by association, a mistaken and unworthy relation — yes, it’s either confused with infatuation or physical attraction, or used in connection with sullied affection, an introverted and oft perverted collection — yes, backstreet Sally, silicon alley, censored material, the bare it all serial, promiscuity and pornography, those one night stands, those lusty weekend plans, and out of which, devoid of a stitch, arises nothing but self gratification — in other words, an aberration, for here, there’s no association, other than in the mind of those more out than in their clothes, who, completely mistaken, and sense having forsaken, thus muddy and taint love’s good name, for sex and love are not the same, and love knows nothing of self, for self is but its selfish self — another’s best interest is not its aim.
So, what exactly is love then, so oft expressed by voice and pen (those very flawed efforts of women and men), but the loosing of oneself in another’s good, not thinking of some return, allowing lust to burn, and nor love should, for love when pure and true, not only right and good seeks to do, but forgoes its own desires, and to more noble heights aspires, where on behalf of others (our fellow sisters and brothers), it selflessly proceeds, seeks to fill another’s needs, and on their behalf, willingly pleads or intercedes, even bleeds, for genuine love’s not some feeling, some mutual wheeling and dealing, nor some shared physical revealing, but rather, a choice and action, unsullied by some chemical attraction, and completely devoid of any adulteration or degradation — in other words, something that’s tied to honour and dignity, and yes, chosen and carried out lovingly and feelingly — and at the core of it all (the hardest call of all), love's something that’s never ever “ME.”

By Lance Landall

Contains Christian content or degree.

31.  "But God's A God Of Love"

Oh dear, such is said by many wanting to do the opposite to what God’s said,
Thus His Word taking a back seat to feelings that don’t want to accept what they’ve read.
“But God’s a God of love,” they keep repeating, despite Him saying, “Take up your cross,”
And how the Spirit gives strength to bear what we must, less we suffer eternal loss.

But no, those itchy ears go looking for those people who’ll say what they want to hear
The so-called enlightened whose new take on biblical passages we all should fear,
Because those who play with God’s Word, twisting it to suit, and any who embrace such,
Will find that their newfound joy is short-lived, and that the devil’s had them in his clutch.

Suffering, going without, and even persecution are our sad lot to bear,
The cost of a fallen world, yet we knowing that our Saviour will always be there.
Yes, He is a God of love, but He’s not waving magic wands, nor changing His Word,
His followers having to wait till His return, and meantime, press on undeterred.

Such proving who’s genuine, prepared to tough things out, and every Christian should know
That if God waved a magic wand or changed His Word to suit, few would be seen to grow.
And with this, many following Him simply because of His bending to their will,
Thus rogues getting to Heaven where a God of wisdom, order and justice wouldn’t dwell.

By Lance Landall

Giving In Return:

When someone gives you something, and you give them something back in return (then or later on), it’s not really from the heart, and therefore is disingenuous, because you’re doing it because you feel you should, given that they gave you something.
When you give them something back in return, it deprives them of the blessing of giving that Heaven rewards somehow, somewhere, sometime, given that what goes around comes around, as if a law of Nature.
Giving people something in return doesn’t encourage sacrificial giving; in other words, without being rewarded.
Such can even spoil, disappoint and make people feel bad, because they weren’t expecting, nor wanting, anything in return.
And it can put people off giving things to you, because they may feel that by giving you something, you’ll feel you must do something for them.
In summary:
There’s nothing wrong with giving people something, because giving is a noble thing, but giving something in return is a rather different matter, and needs careful consideration. Sometimes we may be able to return the favour further down the track when they’re in need.


32.  Why Winning Isn't Cool

Sandy was deep in thought, her dad both near and smiling as he observed the serious look on her face.
“Penny for your thoughts?” he chirped. Sandy’s head turned in his direction, eyes no longer staring into space.
“What’s so wrong with competitive sports, Dad?” she questioned. Her father sighed. “There’s quite a lot, actually,
Of which many are very ignorant, not having bothered to research, consider such carefully,

But,” he continued, “Bear in mind that competing and competitiveness aren’t always one and the same,
'Cause though we compete for jobs, we don’t really have a say in such, like involvement in a rugby game.
We all have to work to live, thus applying is quite different to competing, as in rugby,
Though having said that, there're those who when it comes to the workforce, adopt a similar mentality.

Hence those things we often see within companies, like those "Yes" men and back stabbers, let alone the lies,
Or embellishments (verbally or written), when regarding some position, someone duly applies.
But such are the acts of those who’re devoid of principles, or whose standards vary with the situation,
They being people who're prepared to bend, twist, falsify or cheat, using faulty rationalisation.

All in order to achieve some selfish end, here being preventing someone else succeeding somehow,
Hence those underhand tactics that have always played a part in competitive sports, even more so now.
'Cause competitive sports are all about achieving something via someone's loss, ensuring they don’t win,
Which is not only a flawed foundation upon which to build anything, but of callous origin.

That's to say, its linked to cruelty, for losing’s no fun on the sports field, hence those angry scenes we oft see,
Those protests over flawed refereeing, which makes a farce of things, and sees games won or lost unfairly.
Then there’re those crashes which see drivers out of a race, and someone wining who’s no where near as good as they,
Which once again makes a farce of things, 'cause they won more by luck than by skill — a hollow win, I say.”

“I’m not sure I understand what you mean by cruelty, Dad.”  “Well, Sandy, when we rejoice over our win,
We’re effectively rejoicing over someone’s sad loss, and oh, how some love to rub such a loss in.
But whether rubbed in or not, its still sad to see others losing, losing being a cruel consequence,
A consequence that leaves many bitterly disappointed, feeling like they’re victims of some offence.

And to be honest, they are the victim of someone’s self interest, such what the loser always is,
Not that they’re in the clear themselves, 'cause weren’t they trying to win, thus grab the cup from someone, hers or his?
And that’s the problem, 'cause its all about self at the expense of others, hoping that others won’t win,
And we doing all that we can to see that they don’t, but hey, not liking a taste of same medicine.”

“But doesn't some good come out of competitive sports, Dad?”  “Well, Sandy, it’s the basis of such that’s not good.
You see, it’s faulty at the core. Thus, you’re talking peripheral positives, and I don’t think we should.
If competitive sports are built on a corrupt foundation, and produce so much that's destructive,
Then surely that's reason enough for shunning such, and given that they're more negative than productive.

Otherwise, its like watching pornography to gain a sexual education, which one would gain,
But not a healthy education, and one that mixed with inflamed excitement would bring a load of pain.
Well, eventually, 'cause just like coming off drugs, losing a game, pornography has its downside,
And just like competitive sports, is based on a corrupt foundation; it ice-cream laced with pesticide.

Much that seems great on the surface (at least to some), and that seems to produce good results, contains much ill,
Which only the discerning see, and which only the receptive shun, knowing some things aren’t worth the thrill.
Yes, many win, but its always at another’s loss, so how can that really make someone feel good inside,
Unless they’ve convinced them self otherwise, ignoring wails and tears, behind which, even malice can hide.”

“Given what you’ve said, Dad, how come Christians are into competitive sports?”  “Well, Sandy, they shouldn’t be,
'Cause competitiveness is all about Me, the Christian message all about others, acting kindly.
In other words, the Christian message is all about putting others first, and thus clearly ourselves last,
And how the Christian way's very different, which means that where there’s hypocrisy, there’s not that contrast.

And by that I mean, that one cannot preach selflessness, self-sacrifice, putting other people first,
And at the same time rejoice over beating someone else via competitive sports, nor for winning thirst.
But whether one’s a Christian or not, competitiveness isn't something to endorse, and not for me,
'Cause I’ve seen and experienced the negative results of such, realise it’s packaged deceptively.”

“Speaking of negative results, Dad, I can’t help thinking of Clive, how worked up he gets watching some game,
Especially when the team he wants to win is looking like it might lose, and often it’s to his shame,
Given his ranting and raving, his cursing of certain players, who’re no doubt doing the best they can,
And I guess it’s the nature of competitive sports that some things don’t always go according to plan.”

“Yes, Sandy, and as for Clive, that’s exactly how competitive sports can affect some, most undoubtedly,
Given everyone wants to see their favourite team win, and the other lose, understandably.
'Cause at the end of the day, that’s what such is all about, Sandy, winning, beating, coming first, others last,
Which is why competitive sports is something that I don't follow or praise now, but have left in the past.”

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded on 16 December 2022.

“Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Phil. 2:3).

33.  That's Competitiveness For You

How could I in all sincerity, and whilst retaining dignity, even nobility,
Compete against another, my goal totally self-centred-cum-glorification of me.
Is that the kind of person I want to be, that I via my efforts, someone’s loss guarantee,
And I knowing how losing can leave folk feeling? Oh, what a sorry way to win a trophy.

Tell me, where’s the joy in that? I striving against my fellowman or woman, determined to win,
Which is why it’s hardly of Christian origin, and each winner no hero or heroine.
'Cause true heroes and heroines don’t give thought to themselves, and Christians are told to die to self,
And thus the former, and hopefully latter, not desiring such trophies that sneer from their shelf.

Oh yes, how the competitive scene is full of corruption, many winners having cheated,
And is it any wonder given that they're wanting to see their competitors defeated,
By them, that is — such hardly being a fine thing to desire, but oh, desire such many folk do,
And why they oft act underhandedly and callously — and when they lose, just as badly too.

Yes, each trophy like an apple that has a rotting core, 'cause winners create losers, sadly,
Such being the nature of competitiveness, it thus harming more than helping society.
Hence those angry fans in football stadiums, that bloodlust at boxing matches, that smashed racket,
Not to mention the brawls, fines-cum-punishment, and after match vandalism that costs a packet.

Yes, that’s competitiveness for you.

By Lance Landall

34.  Competitiveness

Our attempting to beat other folk in order to gain first place,
Is hardly to our credit, and not something that we should embrace.
There isn't a doubt in my mind — no, for it’s very clear to me
That a win via someone else's loss is a hollow victory.

You see, such flawed success is dependant on someone’s failure, friend,
And such I wouldn’t be proud of, and certainly wouldn’t defend.
For ensuring someone’s loss by doing everything that you can
To make sure that you win instead, isn’t the hallmark of a man.

No, the competitive spirit isn’t one that I’d foster, friend,
For it is such a selfish thing, and who knows where it may well end?
Such can bring out the worst in folk, both the competitor and fan,
And hence those sad things that we’ve seen since competitiveness began.

Many have become distraught, depressed, and even very angry
At their loss to someone else; thus upsetting friends and family.
Yes, such loss can lead to jealousy, or folk acting moodily,
And there have also been times when some folk have acted grievously.

In such territory, the terrible killer instinct is seen,
Which is a clear indication that it is not a healthy scene.
For anything that would fuel such, cannot be something that is sound,
And hence why greed and corruption with competitiveness is found.

Yes, wherever there's competitive sports, aggression will occur,
For by its very nature, competitiveness such will soon stir.
After all, its object isn’t friendship, but rather, rivalry,
And hence why the desire to win can injure friendships rapidly.

Such also creates stress, physically and emotionally,
Which can clearly take a heavy toll, and so very pointlessly.
Our body isn't meant for thrashing, nor our mind, I might add too,
Hence sooner than later, they may shout that such wasn’t wise to do.

Just like we see with gambling, so many folk get hooked on winning,
And naturally, their first flush of success, being the beginning.
The adrenalin that flows from such, gives them an addictive rush,
And euphoric at their win, words promoting such sports, quickly gush.

But just like coming off a drug, they soon find that there’s a downside,
For when others win instead of them, downward their emotions slide.
But so sure that they will win again, or at least have a good chance,
They’re back for another fix, another win — yes, the gambler’s dance.

Sadly, competitiveness is simply striving against others,
That is, it’s putting ourselves first, which simply selflessness smothers.
Therefore, competitiveness is not a path that I would follow,
For it’s enslaving, addictive and flawed — in other words, hollow.

By Lance Landall

You might also like to read my Christian poem The Folly Of Winning which
is found in an orange box titled so, Christian section, second poetry garden.

Time For A Reality Check:

The Rugby World Cup, 2011, won by the New Zealand All Blacks (and deservedly so in the scheme of things), once again reminded me of the ills of competitive sports, and in this case, they being:
a) The underhand tactics such as cheating, eye gouging, stomping, head butting, crutch grabbing, the feigning of injuries, the deliberate, unsporting and malicious targeting of certain players on the field, and so on.
b) The wrong (alias bad) calls made by referees, or their oversights, which result in a team winning or losing, and which effectively makes a farce of things, especially where a team has won by only one extra point.
c) The angry exchanges and even fighting that occurs between players and teams.
d) The callous, childish yelling, screaming and booing that comes from the fanatical fans of either team, the irresponsible throwing of items, the venting of their anger at seeing their team lose (often displayed afterwards in  various streets, and fuelled by alcohol intended to drown their sorrow).
e) The pre-match derogatory comments made by certain members of each team towards their opponents.
f) The shady behind the scenes goings-on, so much a part of competitive sports these days given that big money is at stake, and hence the tremendous pressure and pressures exerted on players.
Such all being the result of people competing against each other (and what with human nature being the way it is) — in other words, attempting to win by ensuring that another person doesn’t, hence all those negatives that we see.
As far as rugby goes, a visitor from Norway who had never seen rugby before, commented on how violent such a game was. And I have to agree, hence the constant flow of injuries that are seen, and the serious punishment their bodies take. I guess New Zealanders have got used to such, and thus its violent nature failing to register anymore like it did in the mind of this visitor from Norway.