Poetry With A Mission

...a thought provoking poetical exercise.

Husbands And Wives

They have given their life to you — therefore, you owe it to them to respond,
Appropriately, that is, bearing in mind here, that only love can bond.
Yes, as their life-long partner, you have a duty to treat them correctly,
For it’s all about sacrifice, not about expecting, not about ME.

You see, because you are their life-long partner, you’re effectively their life,
Therefore, you will either fill their life with joy or much misery and strife.
But it's terribly cruel and very unfair to cause them pain and despair,
When they could’ve had a lovely spouse, who, for them would truly love and care.

Four very important things to remember, and hey, well before bedtime too,
“I was wrong,” “I’m very sorry,” “Will you please forgive me,” and, “I love you.”
Otherwise your marriage won’t be a happy one, or simply will not last,
And why these four things should always be forthcoming — and hey, I’m meaning fast.

As a very early ballad conveys: “The angry words spoken in haste,
Such a waste of two lives” — and in far too many lives, such words are oft traced.
And that sad ballad continues, “It’s my belief that pride is the chief cause
In the decline in the number of husbands and wives.” Here I'd like to pause.

What exactly is pride? It’s that dreadful self thing, you don’t want to lose face,
You being far more concerned with that little ME, and oh, how oft that’s the case.
Well, friend, you should be bigger than that — after all, marriage is for adults,
It certainly not for the likes of someone who self interest exalts.

The way that you treat your partner — in other words, your husband or your wife —
Not only displays the real you, but also affects your very own life.
Yes, it’s not just their life that you spoil via such, it’s not just them that you hurt,
And this why I would give self the boot, for that way, heartache you will avert.

Oh, how partners need to bury self — otherwise, their marriage will just fail;
Sure it may not actually break up, but a joylessness will prevail.
It's often said that it takes two to tango, and in marriage that’s so true,
However, that should never stop you from doing those things that you should do.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded 4th February 2016

This poem contains a degree of Christian content necessary for the purpose.

2.  Then Came Planet Earth

And God was pleased with His work, man and woman the pinnacle, crowning glory,
They innocent, pure, and their love-centred marriage a true fairy-tale story.
And oh, how stunningly beautiful their bodies, every inch a work of art,
And their sexual relationship off to a selfless, tender, polished start.

But then came their fall and lustful groping, aggressive probing and smutty pen,
And going by movies, women tearing their clothes off, they as sex-obsessed as men.
And soon, human vitality sapped by licentiousness and lack of control,
And within society, this whole degrading, porn-fuelled scene taking its toll.

Oh, how man has sunk, women raped by eyes that objectify them, but oh dear,
They aiding this scene via their sexy attire, state of undress-cum-what they bare,
And via those photo shoots they consent to, cameras capturing their teasing shame,
And husbands committing adultery in their heart, women open to blame,

Don’t take my hubby, sort of thing, but excuse me tempting yours — it all a game.

Yes, then came planet Earth and the spoiling of it, sex hot, raw, crude and steamy;
In other words, it divorced from love, or such corrupting the love of many.
And thus many still gorgeous bodies assaulted by sex toys, fetishes and
Sleazy hands; and why there’s less respect for women, more sex crimes in every land.

No, it’s not always a power thing, but a horny thing that’s out of control,
Men constantly fed and stirred by what can only debase them and take its toll.
And this why morals have largely been despatched, but not by those who know better,
Those men who don’t listen to those selfish, callous promptings that shout, “Go get her!”

Or is it, go get him?

Oh, how many women have been claimed by more than one man, such invasion proof,
She effectively his (or how many?) — and what husbands really know the truth?
Well, I mean to say, waiting for the right one and only one isn’t cool now,
Or seemingly so, and why in these times it’s more a case of when, where and how.

Okay, so we know better apparently, though not going by what is seen,
Broken hearts, sexual diseases, ravaged bodies, minds that are far from clean.
And why we’re kidding ourselves, for all we’ve done is hurt ourselves, stamped on the rose,
And now we’re left with nothing but thorns and more fodder for poetry and prose.

By Lance Landall

It would be a good idea to check out my article Are Women Blameless? which can be seen on my page, Time To Face Things.

3.  Don't Ruin Either Life

The attitude and behaviour of your spouse can make or break your marriage, so choose carefully,
Otherwise, that lifelong happiness that you desire won’t be realised, it exiting quickly.
And such being why it’s better not to marry until you have found the right one, for one thing’s clear:
Misery and heartache are more oft the result of bad choices, and especially so here.

And don’t forget the old vice versa thing, lest you be the saboteur, their life thus spoilt by you,
And why you need to take a good look at yourself too, lest they end up with a partner they rue.
Yes, how dare we examine them before we’ve examined our self; and let’s hope we pass the test,
And where we don’t, we not short-changing them, for our unworthiness will soon become manifest.

So many, if not most, don’t really know their spouse until further down the track, such oft too late,
Many paying dearly having made the wrong choice, oft thanks to impatience-cum-failure to wait.
Yes, many fearing they’ll be left on the shelf, their low self esteem-cum-lack of confidence their foe,
All of which sees them ruing their marriage; or their disillusioned spouse soon shouting, “Cheerio!”

Hence why it’s better to remain single than ruin either life, such showing character and strength,
And bearing in mind that ignoring such advice is why marriages oft don’t last the full length.
And thus we or they thereby exposing an unsuitability when it comes to marriage;
All why we should tread carefully, and act unselfishly, not putting the horse before the carriage.

By Lance Landall

4.  Losing It Can Cost

It’s so easy to lose it (even over minor things), but it’s never worth what it can cost,
And sometimes that cost is heavy indeed, for as a result,  prized relationships can be lost.
Yes, it’s so easy to damage something precious, we taking our eye off the ball, mind elsewhere,
And to be honest, it usually on ourselves — yes, that age old and problematic sphere.

And often adding to such, the one who’s been hurt not forgiving, forgetting or moving on,
Or they sulking, not talking, responding with that age old “treatment,” silly childish carry-on.
All of which delays reconciliation, and adds to the regret of the one who lost it,
And who’s oft truly repentant, struggling with inner demons — but no — here, take another hit!

The truth is that neither benefits, and both can suffer more, and all so very pointlessly,
Hence why it doesn't pay to lose it, nor respond with that “treatment” — punishment, effectively.
However, lose it folk can, and those who sulk just as many, the cost either light or heavy,
But any cost is a loss that each can’t afford, and why much is to be said for maturity.

Yes, it’s so easy to lose it, but always remember that there’s a cost, a price that one pays,
Be it immediately or over time — and in-between, those oft very unpleasant days.
Yes, unnecessary days, and unpleasantness that could’ve been avoided, oft easily,
And bearing in mind what it may have cost before, for there’s no fool like an old fool, believe me.

By Lance Landall

5.  Flawed Unions

There’s a certain undeniable truth that here I’ve chosen to remind of, and it being: That
When any man and woman live together just like a married couple, they’re exactly that.
In other words, despite no legal documentation, they’re still as married as one can be,
They sharing the same bed and home, and therefore, they shouldn’t treat that union less seriously.

You see,

Either they’re committed to a permanent relationship or they’re not, and if they aren’t so,
Then neither should’ve wasted their time on that union, as such flawed unions, deeper cracks soon show.
At the end of the day, any easy way out can’t help but decrease one’s determination,
And one’s loyalty too, and why just living together is a far-reaching miscalculation.

Yes, the reason being: That couples who live together as opposed to getting married-cum-wed,
Can hardly have the same commitment in mind, hence why either's soon seen in someone else’s bed
— Well, in so many cases, that is, and I'd imagine most —
'Cause rather than weather the storms that can hit any relationship, they seek another port,
Forgetting that calm seas don’t make a good sailor, nor marriage, hence why their next union comes to nought,

Marital muscles require effort.

When someone truly loves someone else, they want that union secured-cum-anchored in every way,
And when squalls appear, they man the sails rather than some lifeboat — the latter oft seen to dismay.
They having thought that living together would suffice, their union just built on sand, foolishly,
For though as married as one can be, they failed to see, they weren’t truly wed, unfortunately.

Yes, such being a truth that isn’t all that new, but wisdom that’s been passed down throughout the ages,
For the sad result of the repudiation of legitimised marriage fills many pages.
Sure many legitimised marriages fail too, but at least they’ve a better chance, better start,
For just living together leaves a door ajar, one that should’ve been shut and locked via the heart.

And the reason why is, because loopholes aren’t where the answer lies, but rather, in one's mind and heart,
For there, no hint of such self-interest should be found, as such is how relationships fall apart.
And why only each other’s best interests should be sought, such reinforced by security,
A permanence sealed in the mind, living in the heart, and declared by that public ceremony.

In other words, marriage in all its fullness, a union that one’s children can rely on too,
For far too often kids are the victims of a broken home, a love neither genuine nor true.
So shun that “Lets live together” approach, for when kids come along, that doors ajar, mockingly,
And oh, when someone closes it behind them, more sad results are unleashed on society.

By Lance Landall

6.  The Battle Of The Sexes

Men and women weren't meant to hurt each other, this an obvious deduction, surely,
'Cause why should they, and what would be the point, other than for selfish gain — such naught but folly.
Yes, the latter having been proven again and again, and one thing is perfectly clear,
Men and women were designed to compliment each other, such enhanced by the clothes they wear.

And so, men looking like men, and women like women, thus attraction being guaranteed,
He acting masculine and manly, she feminine and ladylike, in thought, word and deed.
'Cause Nature intended that such be so, and as is clear for anyone who wants to see,
Both men and women balanced and matched — and for their well-being sake, working in harmony.

All why when men and women scrap, they undermine each other, subtract from each other,
Hardly strengthening their manhood and womanhood, their roles as husband, wife, father, mother.
All why far too oft we see the sad results of such — the battle of the sexes, it’s called —
And why in every relationship, marriage and home, mutual respect should be reinstalled.

No, men and women weren't meant to hurt each other, physically or emotionally,
But were meant to bring out the best in each other, thus not competing, scrapping childishly.
And 'till this finally registers, the battle of the sexes will continue to rage,
Fuelled by those men and women, who, to be honest, need to get with the play, and act their age.

At the end of the day, success comes by working with rather than against — plain sense, really, 
And more so regarding those romantic relationships — and yes, that means maritally.
But only where one puts selfishness behind, just concentrates on what is best for the two,
Those couples wanting their relationship to work, and those general relationships too.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded 13 February 2020.

“Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There’s just too much fraternizing with the enemy.”

Henry Kissinger

7.  The Mystery Of The Sexes

It’s an undisputable fact that men and women are very different, hence all those books on sale,
Each trying to explain why men and women think and act so differently, why marriages oft fail.
But no matter how well such is explained, and how the sexes can better click, those books  keep coming out,
And the reason is, 'cause understanding the other sex better isn’t what it’s really all about.

I’m not implying that men and women shouldn’t try to understand each other, 'cause of course they should,
But rather, that they never truly will — no, I’m not being facetious — because I wish that they could.
Thus 'till men can magically become women for a spell, and visa versa, such will always be,
And why it’s more about acceptance, learning to work in with those differences-cum-forget about “me.”

While books have their place, and are one way to make a killing — excuse my sarcasm — there're no magic tricks,
'Cause great relationships come down to ones attitude, willingness, and thus are less about the mechanics.
All why despite those clever books, men and women still won’t fully understand what makes each other tick,
'Cause the answer’s found in one’s heart and mind, not in glossy pictures, fancy written words, rhetoric.

Though the answer's found in one’s heart and mind, that’s seldom where people go looking, such not seeming to suit,
'Cause such demands the confronting of oneself, given that within us (not our spouse), lies the offending root.
Well, usually so, but people looking everywhere but there, and often at the other sex,
Who, just as foolishly are staring in return — they too in need of a different set of specs.

Thus it’s more how we look at things, go about things, that determines the outcome of a relationship,
And why when we take our eyes off the ball —- selflessness — we slip or fail, not having taken ownership.
'Cause men and women will never truly understand each other, though should they, there'd go much attraction,
Women finding themselves less drawn to men, and men no longer finding women such a distraction.

Yes, long live the mystery!

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded 6 February 2020.

8.  Your Spouse Isn't Your Property

Dear husband or wife, I realise there’s nothing worse than betrayal, it cruel indeed,
Hence that uncovered affair that sees anger arise and one’s wounded heart bleed.
Yes, we’re talking adultery, a sexual fling or full blown affair,
Which oft sees the wounded seeking revenge, and thus how in wrongdoing they share.

Though having exchanged vows, and even promised the Earth, (some blinded by feelings),
Your spouse isn’t your property despite that marriage certificate or rings.
Therefore, though you’ve every right to feel betrayed and stung, and anger standard fare,
You’ve no right to assault them, and they’re also the parent of those kids you share.

So mind how you go, as one wrong’s quite enough, and good examples should be set,
For though one of you has erred, there is still the other who hasn’t, don’t forget.
But where both err, what’s left for those kids who need to know how one should deal with such?
And given that your spouse isn’t your property, hence that unseen, “Do Not Touch!”

At the end of the day, nobody owns anybody, nor should act that way,
And why one can only forgive and move on, leave that one who chose to betray;
Though the latter too oft a wrong decision that makes a waste of many years,
And that ignores cries of genuine repentance and any progressive stairs.

By Lance Landall

9.  For Better Or For Worse?

You have a duty to look after yourself once you marry,
Though one should do that anyway, for that is acting wisely.
But once you marry, there’s not just you to think of, and therefore,
When married, those things about you that aren’t the best, don’t ignore.

Your partner has married you for life — therefore, it’s only fair
That you take care of yourself (and give some thought to what you wear).
To think differently than this, is to just think selfishly,
And to thus fuel the fires of discontent, eventually.

No person, once they are married, should foolishly think or say,
“They should accept me as I am,” for that’s a cop out, doesn’t pay,
And more so, if since you’ve married, you’ve gone backwards in some way,
Due to laziness, thoughtlessness, 'cause that’s sure bound to dismay.

“For better or for worse" means, where it is beyond your control,
'Cause the truth is, friend, things beyond your control can take a toll.
But should you, via your own foolishness, be the cause of such ill,
Don’t be surprised if your marriage soon nose-dives, because it will.

By Lance Landall

10.  Sex Ain't Love

For some strange reason, many equate sex with love, and I guess that's why they’re jumping in and out of bed,
Aside from plain promiscuity, fuelled by all the sexual nonsense that people are being fed.
While sex is part and parcel of a loving relationship, it's hardly love, and never will be,
'Cause sex is sex, love is love, and the one thing that true love doesn’t do is, use sex self indulgently.

So many who're looking for love, and a love that is true, seem to think that they will find such in a bed,
When the truth of the matter is, that’s hardly where love's found, and why later, so many tears are oft shed.
'Cause love is not an act, but more an attitude, though one that reveals itself in selfless, loving acts,
And not in bedroom encounters that have more to do with self, lust and confusion, and that twist the facts.

So many who're willing to jump into bed, can't see that they’re just being used — in fact, even abused,
Hence why those relationships that are formed via such encounters, oft leave many empty, angry and bruised.
'Cause like a pair of shoes that have been tried on, they’re soon discarded, or conveniently called upon,
Given that commitment seems like a foreign word to many, who their clothes more often remove than don.

Or so it seems, 'cause much of such amounts to nothing more than animal acts just parading as love,
Or to put it another way, behaviour that's motivated far more by what’s lower than above.
All why any man or woman shouldn’t sell their body so, 'cause those who do, effectively sell their soul,
And via their foolish doing so, simply become naught but another person’s (oft used) watering hole.

By Lance Landall

This poem was tweaked 6 February 2020.

Though sensual feelings are part and parcel of our make up, it's only when they come under the higher powers, and are employed at the appropriate time and place, that they are in tune with love.

11.  Sex For Sex Sake

Once upon a time, sex was seen as belonging to marriage; a permanent union built on loyalty,
Where as well as enjoying the pleasure of making love, one was also able to raise a family.
And there, midst that security, both planned and unplanned kids could grow and thrive — and yes, marital health as well,
'Cause there in that home, due to self sacrifice and commitment, both the couple and kids would happily dwell.

Well, times have changed, and sex is no longer seen as belonging to marriage, and nor a relationship,
But as something to be had on a whim, and with whoever takes your fancy — condoms at one’s fingertips.
Yes, sex for sex sake, hence those multiple partners, those one night stands, and those sad consequences that have come,
'Cause consequences are inevitable when in the other direction society swings the pendulum.

When we use our body so recklessly, who knows what we may thereby bequeath, leave as our legacy,
Let alone what we may suffer personally, 'cause there’s always a price attached to promiscuity.
And the first thing that such will cost is our soul, 'cause our soul and body are one, and our very privacy,
That being, our whole self, an intimacy best kept for just one, who thereby, also lays claim to our body.

But no one can lay claim to our body if it's been shared with others, 'cause others have rifled its booty,
And thereby have left it empty of its intimacy, its secret chambers now soiled permanently.
'Cause where the newcomer may go, others have been there before, and have thus left a part of themselves behind,
'Cause their causal entry didn’t just sack those inner chambers, but in passing, signed the guest book in our mind.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded 6 February 2020.

12.  Never Kiss And Tell

The world is full of people who kiss and tell, or who go and air their family’s dirty laundry,
In other words, people who let the world know what the world shouldn’t hear — betrayers, effectively.
Yes, folk who selfishly or thoughtlessly spill the details on someone else, and very foolishly,
For things have a way of kicking back, and such can also make the talebearer look rather silly.

Whenever we speak ill of our spouse, current or past partner, or some member of our family,
We act like cads, backstabbers and evil gossipers, and show our own flaws or immaturity.
For it could be that we have played a part, which people can often wonder, and quite naturally,
But what self-respecting person would provide such easy fodder for some potential enemy?

For after all, any such negative press can be used to our disadvantage, undoubtedly,
And we, via such, can convey that our life’s not all that happy, which some folk may relish joyfully.
And hence how we can give ourselves away when we may not want to, or thereby, simply invite ill,
All because of those things about our spouse, those things about someone in our family, that we spill.

And hence why none of us should ever kiss and tell, nor go airing our family’s dirty laundry,
And why a problem that’s shared is often a problem that’s doubled, a chink in our own armoury.
And why parents should mind what they say about their own children, and visa versa, obviously,
And why partners should mind what they say about each other, for there are opportunists aplenty.

By Lance Landall

13.  No, Opposites Don't Attract

To say that opposites attract is to fly in the face of sense and evidence to the contrary,
'Cause in all spheres of life we’re attracted to things we like, not things we don’t — well, not typically.
And as far as relationships go, even more so, though here there are certain variables, clearly,
Hence why we see many getting wed who are opposites, and thus oft destined for trouble, sadly.

Yes, too many opposites marry, 'cause people tend to fall into relationships, as it were,
Such often being a case of who they think they can get, as opposed to want, be that him or her.
And “Why?” being the likes of low self-esteem, fear of being left on the shelf, lean pickings, maybe,
Yes, any number of reasons, hence why many are mismatched, some making the best of things, rightly.

Curiosity's oft confused with attraction, some intrigued by the mysterious, perilously,
'Cause oh, how curiosity sees gets many into trouble — drawn but not attracted, you see.
Hence how they embark on a path they shouldn’t, get pregnant, and are stuck with someone, regrettably,
And thus they cursing their folly, 'cause some only show their true colours when they're married, unfairly.

Yes, that opposites attract is a myth, fuelled by those cases that folk string together that they see,
Or that Hollywood spins; but given it’s all about making things work, opposites can be happy.
'Cause the truth is, there will always be differences between partners, though the less the better, for
The less like each other they are, the more likely that one of them will be exiting their front door.

Hence the high divorce rate we’re seeing these days, and those words we hear, which hardly come as a surprise,
Yes, “irreconcilable differences,” which their failure to get on, is seen to advertise,
'Cause opposites seldom get on — and yes, they do say “Love is blind” — and with such, I have to agree,
Given the folly of those opposites that wed,
and then there’s selfishness, the other problem, sadly.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded 6 February 2020.

14.  Where Opposites Do Attract

I don’t know about you, but I like women to talk, act and dress like women, and visa versa too,
That is, I like men to talk, act and dress like men, for either acting otherwise is to act askew,
Because men are hardly born feminine, nor women masculine, but rather, as they were meant to be,
Hence why men are attracted to women, and women to men, both being different sexually.

And where they’re not attracted to each other, but to those of their own sex, it means something's gone amiss,
All why an abhorrence of such is understandable, and thus shouldn’t be put down to prejudice.
After all, how can two males mate, or two women? — no, we know they can’t, and why despite legislation
Such unions won't truly be accepted by the majority, 'cause it’s clearly an aberration.

Having said that, and despite ones abhorrence of such, we should never treat such people differently,
And by that I mean, treat them any less than we would anyone else, thus acting inhumanely.
In other words, by all means denounce same-sex sexual acts, but don’t mistreat the individual,
'Cause at the end of the day, it seems many are born that way, and such feelings cannot exactly quell,

Something having somehow gone astray.

But returning to where I began (such but a digression), men and women are clearly opposites,
All why men acting effeminate, and women masculine, neither natural appeal nor Nature fits.
Even dressing up in the clothes of the opposite sex, just for fun, is something that's hardly right too,
'Cause such conveys something that's unwholesome, even unsavoury, and sanctions what one's better not to do.

There’re those times (and perhaps many) where a man is mistaken for a woman, and visa versa too
(Where a woman is mistaken for a man), which, to be quite honest, is hardly a flattering view.
All why men and women should only wear that which enhances their gender, and as much as possible,
'Cause there’s nothing worse than that question, “Was that a woman or a man?” given that it’s oft hard to tell.

And, let me add, a woman doesn’t have to dress sexy to enhance her gender, but femininely,
Otherwise, all she’ll do is turn herself into an object of lust, become the butt of crudity.
'Cause naught gets men talking more unseemly than the teasingly sexual, such hardly for the woman’s best,
'Cause rather than being drawn to her, they're drawn to her body, of which many one night stands attest.

In other words, it’s simply all about men being men, and women, women, acting naturally,
The way they were clearly designed to, so apparent in their thinking, their ways and their anatomy.
And this is where opposites do attract, this is where opposites were meant to attract, naturally so,
'Cause men and women were designed to compliment each other, which anyone with a lick of sense would know.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded 6 February 2020.

15.  Working Together

We’ve only the one life, so please don’t take someone else’s life and mess it up,
Demanding, pushing, marring, paining, wrecking; trying to train them like a pup.
For no one’s ours to treat as if they are, a ring not changing a single thing,
’Cause one’s partner isn’t for locking up, and if they were, they would cease to sing.

And there would go their love, because love is only forthcoming when it is free,
And when it’s not, unhappiness and resentment the upshot, eventually.
Hence why all must have the freedom to walk away at any time, say Goodbye,
Not that I’m encouraging such, but such being a right that we can’t deny.

Yes, such we’d use in our own defence should we be treated just as unfairly,
And why there must be a mutual agreement, no one acting forcibly.
And neither spouse trying to put their stamp on the other, acting selfishly,

But rather, selflessly, for nothing’s a greater blessing come matrimony.

By Lance Landall

This poem has been done with a touch of humour.

16.  Two Halves Make A Whole

Men and women are like an apple split in two, each one being the other half,
And thus never a whole apple until they’re placed together — now, please don’t laugh.
For as fruity as such seems, such helps us to get to the core of things, that being:
That men and women are each half of a whole, despite they not always seeing.

Yes, ever since that fated day when bites were taken unlawfully back then,
Things have never been quite the same between those two halves, here called women and men.
They each forgetting that two halves make a whole, and thus should learn to get along,
Instead of scrapping and parting-cum-so often getting things terribly wrong.

Though of the same tree, so to speak, they acting like they're completely different fruit,
As if an orange or a lemon, for example, confusion at the root.
And thus each branching out in different directions, even getting the pip,
Rather than growing together, seeking an amicable relationship.

By Lance Landall

17.  Where's Mister Or Miss Right?

Many are waiting for the right one, as if only that one would ever do,
When there’s a number that we could be happy with, and to whom we’d say, “I do.”
Yes, there's not just one, but far more, the trouble though, being finding them, and so,
Off we go a searching, and who knows where they’ll be, or whether in time they’ll show.

And for most, despite there being many right ones out there, the right one’s not found,
We unable to give our list of desired traits to some globe trotting sniffer hound.
And so, we having to accept some mere mortal, unless we’re very lucky,
And lucky many are, the right person living in the same territory,

Or coming their way, miraculously.

Yes, because what’s the chances of that, and why our expectations should make sense,
Mister or Miss right hardly found by simply peering over the neighbour’s fence.
And even trips afar not always proving fruitful, hence why some don’t marry,
That simply how life is, and why over “Why?” it’s rather pointless to tarry.

We’re not in the Garden of Eden where perfection would’ve glowed from any,
But rather, in a world where a perfection of sorts, would hardly fit many.
And so, out of one to ten, say, we more likely having to settle for eight,
Even seven, ’cause for the right one, we could well have to wait and wait and wait.

However, it's better to still be waiting than end up with the wrong one, who,
Much misery might bring with them, they far from eight or seven, and more like two.
While not seeking perfection, we shouldn’t lower the bar too far, lest we find
That sound advice, warning, sense, wisdom and objectivity we’ve left behind.

By Lance Landall

18.  Something Stupid

“And then I go and spoil it all by saying something stupid like I love you,” so a certain song goes,
One made very popular by Frank and Nancy Sinatra, and once commonly heard from radios.
While such may make for a popular song, there's certainly nothing stupid about saying “I love you,”
At least when it comes to loved ones, that is, 'cause such encouraging words as these, are far too often few,

And are often better said than playing hard to get, lest before they’re said, someone special gets away,
And so it is with our loved ones too, 'cause the very last time that we may see them, could well be today.
All why this thought we need to take on board, 'cause such words as “I love you” can’t be said too much or too strong,
And hence why I can’t altogether go along with the sentiments being expressed in this  song.

It’s often because of the lack of such weighty words as “I love you,” that relationships go astray,
'Cause such are what nourishes the feelings of others — and when those words aren't there, those feelings wilting away.
And as I said, one who might have stayed, might leave for sweeter pastures, not having heard the desired sound,
'Cause such is what they're waiting to hear — and when those words aren’t there, they feeling there’s no point in hanging 'round.

Yes, there is nothing stupid about saying “I love you,” but something foolish about not saying so,
Unless one’s not worried about the outcome, but hey, regardless of such, such caring words should still flow.
Frankly, I’ve not been one for the playing hard to get scene, not that one should go too far the other way
(If you catch on), but when it comes to “I love you,” and those don’t ignore times, such I wouldn’t wait to say.

By Lance Landall

This poem was upgraded 29 April 2020.

19.  Some Things Should Always Stand

The needs of men aren’t fully understood, ’cause women see things differently,
And when poorly treated, are less inclined to operate as generously.
Thus the past calling the shots rather than wisdom, and husbands looking elsewhere,
Their wife getting hurt once again, but she having foolishly played a part here.

Hence why some things should always stand regardless, sex a need that should be fulfilled,
Otherwise, in the direction of more pain and trouble, men will be propelled.
It most unfair that they be deprived or too restrained by an attractive wife,
Who, thereby, will hardly encourage her man’s affection, nor enhance her life.

By Lance Landall

This poem has been penned because oral sex has become epidemic amongst
the promiscuous young and is linked to throat and mouth cancer.

20.  "I Did Not Have Sexual Relations With That Woman"


Famous words from a past American president, words that were far from true,

And that still aren’t true, ’cause oral sex is sex alright, though not in some girls’ view.
They wanting to remain a virgin whilst meantime yielding to demands, and so
It’s only in their mouth that some boy’s penis is foolishly allowed to go.

They as askew in their thinking as that president looking for some loophole,
One belonging to a world of fantasy and fiction, some burrowing mole.
’Cause whether it be the vagina or mouth, it’s still entering the body,
Erect and with intent, permission having been given, and perilously.


Not only linked to cancer of the mouth and throat, but as sex as sex can be,

And more so, it not just entering, but mouthed too, albeit disgustingly.
No, not too many showers beforehand, not that that necessarily stops
What some poor girl or should-have-known-better woman eventually cops.

And when all is said and done, they hardly virginal, because one thing is clear,
Such girls are indeed having a sexual relationship right then and there.
And thus there goes that special intimacy meant for marriage alone, one boy,
Which, come the right boy, will have robbed those two of a deeper happiness and joy,

A penis a penis, an orifice and orifice 
so, I'd mind that boy.

Surely you get my point, other boys having entered via a different means,
And torn the hymen of her soul, though she could’ve said, “No,” shunned those unzipped jeans.
And now, her future spouse at the end of the cue, her lips having been elsewhere,
She reminded when those same boys pass, who, her name and compliance no doubt share.

By Lance Landall

According to www.netdoctor.co.uk:
“Today’s high rates of oral sex are linked to the rising incidence of throat and mouth cancer.”
That same website also contained this:
"According to the American Association for Cancer Research, more than 50 per cent of all oral
cancers are now HPV related."

See notes underneath the poem above.

21.  All's Not Acceptable

No, all’s not acceptable come a couple’s intimacy, sexually,
Despite any contemporary voice that’s saying things to the contrary.
And here I’m referring to oral sex, which no man should demand or expect,
But rather, every woman’s right to be treated honourably, should respect.

The plain truth is, that a man’s penis was meant for one place and one place alone,
Not a woman’s mouth, such acts having more to do with that debased red light zone.
A place where men sink as low as their infamous desires, and where woman lose,
And why anything that’s deviant or born of lust a woman should refuse.

Such practices stem from the mind and not the heart, unless one’s heart is ill too,
For nothing should be used out of order, and nor should sex emulate a zoo.
In other words, it shouldn’t be reduced to an animal act, love elsewhere,
Such being the sad case with oral sex, for each others lips and heart should be near.

In other words, a man should retain his dignity, and also a woman hers,
Their intimacy loving, considerate and noble, lest ill somehow stirs.
And it does where men desire and are granted a lustful opportunity,
One that has more to do with using and abusing — so women, don’t agree!

Yes, for not only is oral sex an unhealthy practice, but degrading,
And why from such the injurious is seen to spring, and with it, trouble bring.
For such has more to do with porn than selfless giving, thought, love and decency,
And thus why it’s risen with the steady decline that’s plaguing society.

By Lance Landall

Funny how the Bible says, “...and let the marriage bed be undefiled...”

22.  This Woman Who's In Your Life

This woman who’s in your life was never meant to be abused,
And neither was she meant to be just an object to be used.
So, don’t call your wife sexy, for that’s an insult in itself,
Reducing her to something that's found upon a porn shop shelf.

Yes, pretty you may call your wife, and very attractive too,
But wrong focus on the body will just harm the both of you.
To a woman it’s essential that she’s loved for who she is,
And not forgetting that her needs can be different to his.

Tragically, and wrongly so, many men abuse their own,
Thus forgetting that a woman should be seen as just on loan,
For they’re entrusted with her safety, along with her well-being,
But judging by appearances, this, many men aren’t seeing.

She’s something that you treasure, and that you treat with tender care,
For she needs your sensitivity, and sympathetic ear.
Her feelings are not for crushing via some thoughtlessness from you,
And nor should you deceive her by saying anything untrue.

She should constantly be shown that she’s the only one for you,
So, give her your full attention, show that you value her view.
Often tell her you love her, show it via things you say and do,
Always making her feel desired, that your love for her is true.

Never break her confidence, nor betray her trust in you
By selfishly indulging in unfaithfulness that you’ll rue.
And never say things in public about her that are unkind,
Nor violate her physically, or manipulate her mind.

Treat the bedroom honourably, as even there, self is wrong,
For restraint and discipline — here as well — rightly belong.
Sex isn’t just for pleasure, as it can also bring forth life,
And the last thing any child needs is your relationship in strife.

Sadly so, many women’s eyes can reveal deep hurt within,
And their bodies some nasty bruises that no love from them would win.
But hurting that’s internal, pains more than those bruises showing,
Oh, if only many men could see all the damage they’ve been sowing.

No, macho isn't manly, that’s just a Hollywood affair,
For real manliness is shown when self refuses to appear.
Yes, the dignity of manhood has no childish intention
To go making its own desires the focus of attention.

Remember that she’s your equal who deserves the same respect,
For treating women differently will wrongly them afflict.
It’s oppressive domination that causes revolutions,
Whereas, that love that’s free of self, is where we find solutions.

Man’s value is no greater, and nor is his contribution,
And accepting this, helps bring any needed resolution.
For it’s only by the right things that we fan the flames of love,
And never by mentalities that just push and pull or shove.

So don’t ever take for granted one who gives their love to you,
For nothing is so precious, and so complimentary too.
Yes, every woman’s heart responds to the use of certain keys,
But especially that one that just her alone seeks to please.

By Lance Landall

Regarding "So, don't call your wife sexy," refer to my poem "That Word Sexy"

Feminism in its attempt to do away with the sexual double standard between men and women has made
sexiness a desirable trait. In the past, if a woman was called sexy she would have taken it as an insult. Many today
accept it as a compliment. The result: women are dressing, acting, and talking sexier. This has no doubt
helped to open the door for the flood of increasingly explicit and violent pornography that has been sweeping the world.
Many women don’t seem to understand or fully appreciate that visual stimuli affects a man in the
same way as tactile stimuli affects a woman.

23.  This Man Who's In Your Life

Many men (just like many women), have had a damaged background,
Thus, patterns of wrong behaviour in their relationships are found.
But there're also problems in general, along with personal faults,
That both partners marital happiness often hampers or halts.

A man’s lot isn't easy, as a certain drive that lies within
Requires constant vigilance, a serious degree of discipline.
For what’s presented sexually outside the marital realm,
Can sometimes (and even happily married men too) overwhelm.

Yes, it’s so easy to condemn men when unfaithful they have been,
But while such isn't excusable, it’s no wonder that it’s seen.
And women can bring upon themselves this sorry state of affairs,
When, via their sexy appearance, they create those desiring stares.

And hence why the question could be asked, “Are you married women dressed
In a sexual way that another man's eyes will thus arrest?"
For where might condemnation lie, should another wife's husband stray,
Or if your own much loved husband were to likewise, you too, dismay?

But a lot of men’s unfaithfulness can be traced to other things,
For there are many areas from which marital trouble springs.
After all, a man (just like a woman), needs a lot of thought and care,
As a lack of attention here, can see loyalty disappear.

Sometimes it’s those (not so little things), like repetitive nagging,
For such hassling will inevitably have his spirits sagging.
Sometimes it's the wife’s appearance, for disinterest it can convey,
Yes, that he’s not worth the effort, her attire can suggest or say.

Sometimes the one who wears the trousers, as the old expression goes,
Is a controlling woman, (who via such), her marriage often blows.
And sometimes (unjustly so), conjugal rights are foolishly withheld,
Creating (resented) frustration, which just sees more problems build.

And it must be said, that women too, unfaithfulness can display,
Thereby hurting those decent men who their wife would never betray.
And a man's loss can be even greater, when they lose their kids too,
Through unjust courthouse rulings, or some wrong thing that their wife might do.

And yes, it’s also true that there’re men who’re physically abused,
Though it’s usually women — who of such wrong — have them accused.
Hence when it comes to relationships, one's behaviour makes or breaks;
Behaviour that is largely determined by those choices one makes.

It’s patently obvious, and it's an indisputable fact
That men and women differ greatly in the way they think and act.
And hence there's a need for each wife to truly understand her man,
And where such thought has been shown, far less husbands have got up and ran.

Oh yes, a man (just like a woman), will respond to certain things,
Which must be implemented if a wife wants those things that such brings.
A woman who displays commitment, should soon see the right results,
For patient application here, most marital problems soon halts.

Therefore, give your husband that love that in marriage both are due,
Showing that you care about his needs, his hurts, aspirations too,
Yes, show unselfish dedication, and faithfulness that always pays,
And you will find that your husband won't be one of those men who strays.

By Lance Landall

24.  For Adults Only

(In a manner of speaking)

"Extra! Extra! Read all about it! Husband and wife have been seen who’re happy!"
Yes, you may well laugh, but how many marriages are a success, in reality?
After all, how many husbands and wives put each other first, act unselfishly,
Realizing that’s the only way a marriage succeeds; and preserves the family?

If the wife is a nag, and the husband’s always away — at work or out with the boys —
Then that’s a marriage heading for disaster, 'cause such, a relationship destroys.
If either partner is domineering, possessive, obstructive, or sulky too,
Then someone’s living with misery, and greener pastures will probably pursue.

If the wife withholds sex without good reason, or if the husband is more into lust,
Then that husband may soon commit adultery, and the wife’s love change to disgust.
If either partner lets themselves go, or has a problem communicating,
Then someone’s interest will soon wane, and success and hope, someone will be frustrating.

If the wife won’t respect her husband, and the husband doesn’t show the love he should,
Then arguments, disloyalty, infidelity and divorce are the likelihood.
If either partner has unresolved baggage, won’t admit they’re at fault, nor say, “Sorry,”
Then someone will suffer most unfairly, and there will often be controversy.

And so it goes, for one’s marriage can’t afford such assaults; that injurious word or deed;
But who has the right to mistreat their partner anyway (who might be better off freed)?
And hence why some marriages shouldn’t take place, and hence why many do not succeed,
And hence why the sound advice of others, one should seriously consider, heed.

Yes, marriage should be treated like a delicate flower, very sensitively,
For even little things can do serious damage, and leave scars permanently.
No, marriage isn’t for the uncommitted, those who’ll leave should the going get tough,
Nor for the starry-eyed, besotted by fantasy, 'cause their chances, such will snuff.

Marriage is not a playground for children, but rather, it’s a gym for the mature,
Those who don’t enter marriage lightly, nor pick their partner causally, but make sure,
Those who seek to give rather than get, but who will get if they give (undoubtedly),
'Cause what goes round comes round — and in marriage, this is very much the case, believe me.

By Lance Landall