Poetry With A Mission

...a thought provoking poetical exercise.


Someone Doesn't Like You?

We can’t make others like us. Either they do or don’t, and that’s how it should be,
For any forced friendship will have the forced person responding resentfully.
And it’s the same with love, as forced love isn’t real love, but simply just pretense,
A love that isn’t worth having, and let’s face it, such love just doesn’t make sense.

Those who try to force or cajole folk to like or love them, have issues within;
Low self-esteem or an insecurity most likely being the origin.
Such folk can be very controlling or manipulative, unknowingly,
By that I mean, they don’t seem to see they’ve a problem psychologically.

That is, an emotional problem that they need help with professionally;
Sessions of counseling for some issue that’s deep-seated psychologically.
And unless they receive such help, they’ll continue to hurt others and themselves,
And the issue, or issues, will remain on potentially explosive shelves.

We shouldn’t and can’t expect folk to like us, and where they don’t, just let them be,
For every one of us has a right to pick and choose our own company.
Therefore, if somebody doesn’t like us, we shouldn’t take it personally,
For at the end of the day, we’re hardly matched to everyone’s personality.

It’s great if someone likes us, but if someone doesn’t, we’ve no cause for dismay,
For such is perfectly natural, and who would want it any other way?
Some folk don’t recognize nice people, or they simply haven’t got to know us,
Hence why worrying about whether they like us or not isn’t worth the fuss.

Getting upset because someone doesn’t like us is acting immaturely,
It’s a childish response, even selfish, and acting dictatorially.
Would you like your right to choose who you can like or not, taken away from you,
And would you be upset if you were forced to like someone you didn’t care to?

If someone doesn’t like us, perhaps that’s because they’ve got good reason not to,
For something in us may need changing, and if they mentioned it, would we say, “Thank you?”
Often it’s us who has the problem and not them, yet, who do we choose to blame?
So let’s give things a little more thought before we some so-called offence proclaim.

By Lance Landall

Be My Friend, Or Else

Have you ever pulled back from being personally involved with someone — that is, with good reason, obviously,
Only to find that they can’t take rejection, no doubt due to some kind of issue — perhaps insecurity?
And because they can’t handle that rejection, they hound you, or somehow try to make your life a real misery,
Thereby saying, “If you won’t get involved with me again, I’ll keep bothering you, or punishing you — you’ll see.”

Such being one more good reason why you no longer want to be involved with them again — that is, personally,
For if that’s the kind of person they are, and how they act when someone pulls back from them, you’ve acted correctly.
In other words, you can’t afford to have such manipulative people in your life, for such only injure,
And why it’s not always wrong to distance yourself from someone — that is, someone who acts just like a saboteur.

Yes, our love must have its boundaries, otherwise folk will walk all over us, and such would be wrong to allow,
For love knows that such wouldn’t be good for them either — and this, something that such saboteurs need to learn somehow.
And why we sometimes should confront such saboteurs, thereby letting them know what they need to know, but lovingly,
Both for our own sake and their sake, for such is simply acting wisely, fairly, helpfully and transparently.

Should such folk be given another chance?

Well, if that’s the kind of person they are, (given they’ve got some serious issues), bear the following in mind:
That should you have to distance yourself from them again, those very same sad consequences you’re likely to find.
And who wants a double dose? No, it’s often better not to go there again, if at all, unless it’s clear they’ve changed,
Thereby loving them from a distance, as it were — not letting them manipulate you, nor your life rearrange.

By Lance Landall