Regarding Judging Others

 

Introduction

An orange title and bolder content denotes an alternative poem  of mine.


"Life mocks the careless observer."
The Author






POEMS



 

1.  Don't Stop Judging!


“You shouldn’t judge,” they say indignantly, which is clearly an absurdity, for anyone who ceases to, soon sees things going askew, and is it any surprise, for the cost of one’s demise, is often failure to weigh — in other words, not commonsense display, or lest you think I’m fudging, I'm talking about JUDGING!
Oh yes, how we need to weigh what folk are doing or saying, for when we don’t, that’s how we can end up straying, and ignorance can’t claim, nor on others place some blame, for if such we haven’t weighed, what a huge blunder we’ve made, for we’ve been given a brain, one designed to spare us pain, but only when we actually use it, and in judgment regularly sit, rather than choosing to abstain.
Yes, whatever you do (and this includes me too), don’t stop judging! — just make sure you do so correctly, and that is, without bias, not self-righteously, but impartially, objectively, and thus with an inner sense of your own fallibility (our flawed humanity), thus acting thoughtfully, fairly and compassionately, and minding any hypocrisy, though such still shouldn’t stop you, given that commonsense never goes askew, when weighing what others say and do.
To put it another way, it’s our duty, and more so if we've a wife and family, for such demands responsibility and accountability, weighing what might affect them injuriously, which means observing and pondering, checking and researching, lest via not doing so, trouble duly spring.
And where others are acting wrongly, we may even need to approach them — that is, in order to warn and spare, (never to condemn), for love cares enough to do so, and clearly knows that here also, duty one must never forgo, lest those we cease to warn, even greater trouble spawn, which on to others, and not just them, may duly flow, and we thus somewhat guilty too, through our failure to say or do.
Yes, don’t stop judging, for you’d be a fool, given that the ability to weigh, is your most important tool.
Now why don’t they teach that in school?

By Lance Landall





2.  To Judge Or Not To Judge?


Too many are too quick to say that judging others isn't right,
When neither is that statement when it's not balanced with further light,
Because it’s only wrongful judging that's in need of condemnation,
Not rightful judging that prudently weighs up the situation.

You see,

Judging is simply assessing any given situation,
Which thereby enables us to make a sound evaluation,
Because it’s only by this method that appraisals can be made,
Thus determining our actions according to how such are weighed.

And the same applies to people too, and whatever they might do,
As we need to determine whether we should do that same thing too.
After all, is what they are doing harmful, is it wrong or right,
Could others be affected, and thus will it good or bad invite?

It may also be that what they’re saying needs scrutinizing too,
And so, does it contain some error, is it right or quite untrue,
Could their words lead us astray, or have us put other people wrong,
And could it be that they're deceiving us, just stringing us along?

Yes, good judgment is needed daily as we make our way through life,
Because wrongly-made assessments can bring about much grief and strife.
And it’s not just we who may suffer, others being affected
By our errors of judgment, or when judgment we have neglected.

Hence why we often hear people say that there is a time and a place,
And why sometimes when we’re judging, confronting others we must face,
Because not confronting offenders just condones and aids their wrong,
Depriving them of growth and learning, which wrong-doing can prolong.

And therefore, when we don’t deal with such wrong, clearly love we don’t show,
Because genuine love knows everyone needs discipline to grow.
However, if you’re told when judging that it’s none of your concern,
And there's nothing that you can do, the hard way they’ll just have to learn.

But it’s always how it’s done, of course, and it's also how it’s said,
Because wrong approaches oft simply put things back and not ahead.
And just love should motivate you, both for them and those affected,
Yes — love’s sense of right and wrong — which it knows shouldn't be neglected.

But sadly, some are judging blindly, or in a self-righteous way,
Or because of some prejudice they’ve let their judgment go astray.
And some are simply judgmental, or they’re spitefully fault-finding,
While others judge selectively, or their own business aren't minding.

Thus, because of such wrongful judging, some don’t want judging at all,
Which effectively would mean that wrongfulness would just have a ball.
And that’s precisely why it is that wrong things must be arrested,
And why we're seeing more today that this world with wrong’s infested.

So then, when you need to judge, please see that it is done correctly,
And to anyone who has wronged you, please always go directly.
But first, make sure you’ve judged yourself, and well before you head their way,
Lest your very own sad condition some hypocrisy display.

And when and where such judgment takes place, humbleness should rule our heart,
We aware of our own failings, and letting mercy play its part,
Because by the way we judge others, we could also be judged too,
Hence why love in its wisdom always chooses the right thing to do.

By Lance Landall


This older poem was upgraded 17 November 2017.




3.  More Than Half Awake


It’s funny how people will say that we shouldn’t judge anyone, and yet do
Come strangers asking for money, their eyes searching those strangers for any clue.
Yes, something that says they’re genuine or not, and thus judge that person they do,
And not without good reason, but there shouts hypocrisy, ’cause oft we have to.

Yes, there are beggars and there are beggars, if you get what I mean, some con men,
Thus where we don’t exercise due prudence, we can get fleeced again and again.
And thereby aiding the rise of such rascals, and why sound choices we must make,
Carefully weighing things up, making that judgment call, we more than half awake.

By Lance Landall


You may also wish to read my Christian poem Of Course We Should Judge! orange box, Christian
poem list section.






GENERAL MATERIAL



APPROPRIATE JUDGING


1)
When choosing people for some position.
For example: When appointing staff, choosing a babysitter, voting someone in as a member of parliament.

2)
When seeking help or advice.
Are they trustworthy, reliable, is their thinking sound, mature, well balanced, unprejudiced, unbiased, correct?

3)
When purchasing.
Is the seller telling the truth? Could the seller be mistaken, misinformed?

4)
When choosing a marital partner, or close friends.
Would that person be a suitable partner or would their lacking, differences, or issues be destructive to the marital relationship and our personal well being?  Would the close friendship of a particular person be to our detriment in any way?

5)
When determining whether what someone is telling us, should be accepted, rejected, considered or perhaps even reported.

6)
When determining whether someone’s action in general could be injurious to us, others, or even themselves.

7)
When acting in the capacity of leader, or when in a position of authority.
Is our child, employee, member, advisor, complainant, telling the truth?  Is some source correct? Could any fault lie with us? Is some action the right one?

8)
When requested to advise a person on a suitable course of action, the suitability of another person, content, material or product.

9) When making choices on behalf of others.


And Church Wise


9)
When called upon to choose people for church office, or when voting on the choices made by others.
In such a case we have to consider whether the beliefs they hold, their behavior, ability, attitude, background, maturity, responsibility, etc, is satisfactory for such a position, and is in accordance with Scripture.

10)
When considering the actions of another church member.
Does their action warrant biblical church discipline (see Matt 18:15-17). Should it be copied or avoided?  Should their action be mentioned to someone who may be adversely affected by it?  Should they be approached about it? Could it be harmful to the common good?  Could it mislead, endanger?

11)
When determining whether words spoken by someone regarding biblical matters, contain error or truth.
If error is being spoken, should they be approached, corrected? Should others be informed?

12)
When determining whether an action occurring, where others are involved, is suitable for your involvement or presence. Does it violate your conscience, godly principles? Does it put man before God?


“ ‘If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother’ ” (Matt 18:15, NASB).

“ ‘Do not judge according to appearances, but judge with righteous judgment’ ” (John 7:24, NKJV).

“ ‘And why do you not even on your own initiative judge what is right?’ ” (Luke 12:57, NASB).

“ ‘You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye’ ” (Matt 7:5, ESV).

“...And I [Paul] have already passed judgment on the one who did this…” (1 Cor 5:3,4, NIV).

“Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, will all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another...” (Col 3:16, NASB).

“But those who rebuke the wicked will have delight, and a good blessing will come upon them” (Prov 24:25, NKJV).

“Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him [before rebuke comes judgment]” (Luke 17:3, NKJV).

“Preach the word! Be ready in season and out of season. Convince, rebuke, exhort, with all long-suffering and teaching” (2 Tim 4:2, NKJV).

“All scripture is inspired by God and is useful for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that every one who belongs to God may be proficient, equipped for every good work” (2 Tim 3:16,17).

“Mortal, I have made you a sentinel for the house of Israel; whenever you hear a word from My mouth, you shall give them warning from Me. If I say to the wicked, “You shall surely die,” and you give them no warning, or speak to warn the wicked from their wicked way, in order to save their life, those wicked persons shall die for their iniquity; but their blood I will require at your hand [failure to utter the warning may result in their rushing headlong to destruction, hence their blood will be required at the watchman’s hand. God depends upon the co-operation of human beings in His work of salvation]. But if you warn the wicked, and they do not turn from their wickedness, or from their wicked way, they shall die for their iniquity; but you will have saved your life” (Ezek 3:17-19).


Christian Quotes:

“Nothing can be more cruel than the tenderness that consigns another to his sin. Nothing can be
more compassionate than the severe rebuke that calls a brother back from the path of sin.”
Dietrich Bonhoeffer

The real problem isn’t that we judge, but that we do so blindly and arrogantly. By not confronting people [because we are afraid of upsetting them] we may deny them the opportunity needed to learn and grow, with the result that they may come unstuck further down the track. Compromise can always be identified by false sympathy for the sinner. In the name of acceptance and love, false sympathy fails to help a person recognize and address sin squarely and thus denies the person the very thing needed, the transforming grace of God.
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INAPPROPRIATE JUDGING

1)
Falsely accusing.

2)
Spiteful fault finding.
Jealousy or guilt based, making yourself feel better by putting others down.

3)
Unjust criticism.
Embellished, not altogether correct. Over harsh.

4)
Prejudiced, biased, selective judging.
Choosing to ignore what suits, lacking impartiality, treating differently two people who have done the same wrong, operating with a mind already made up.

5)
Acting from a judgmental spirit.
Not motivated by genuine concern or love, obsessed with others wrongs.

6)
Careless, indifferent judging.
Not making an effort to find out all the facts you can, lack of thought/feeling for others.

7)
Self righteous, hypocritical judging.
Accusing someone of adultery when you’re guilty of stealing, a holier than thou attitude.


See my poetic story A Classic Case which is near the top of my poem list page.





SHOULDN'T JUDGE?

Well,

just hire anyone as a babysitter;
too bad if they’re irresponsible, unreliable or a paedophile.
Just marry whoever you fancy;
too bad it they have roving eyes, serious hang ups or violent tendencies.
Just go by what anyone says;
too bad it they’re deluded, misinformed or a charlatan.
Just do as anyone does;
too bad it what they’re doing is wrong, foolish or thoughtless.
Just put your trust in anyone too;
too bad if they’re a cowboy builder, bogus doctor or false prophet.
And hey,
as far as an employee goes, don’t worry who you hire;
too bad if they’re never on time, are inept or lazy.

Yes, there’s always a time and place.





WHY WE SHOULD TAKE MORE CARE

The following was shared with me:

It was a costly mistake. The trusting parents went for a brief walk leaving their new baby in the care of their watchful pet dog. They returned to find the baby’s crib upside down and empty, its blanket in scattered bloody shreds. The family's pet—a previously tame and loyal pit-bull—innocently wagged its tail in welcome, unaware of the bloody evidence on its mouth and paws. Betrayed and outraged, the husband shot the dog dead. Soon after, in one dark corner of the room, he found their baby—alive, well and without a scratch. In another corner lay a dead wolf, face pointing to the shattered glass window. CAUTION: Never rush to judgment! Do not judge according to appearances!





REGARDING TOLERANCE

We can’t “tolerate” other folk unless we disagree with them. Or to put it another way, we don’t “tolerate” those who share the same views as us. In other words, we don’t “tolerate” something that we accept or are plain indifferent towards, and the reason why is, because it requires nothing of us.
Tolerance is something that’s reserved for those whom we consider wrong. Tolerance, (by definition), implies disagreement or dislike. Given that tolerance requires a disagreement and an initial objection, it surely follows that the least tolerant person is the one who accepts everything. Why? Because such people aren’t required to overcome any internal objections. Hence why much that masquerades as tolerance today is hardly genuine tolerance at all, but rather, cowardice — yes, such folk frightened of becoming unpopular in the eyes of our relativistic culture. In the context of church discipline, many so-called tolerant memberships that fail to discipline erring members, simply betray their impotence or lack of backbone.
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