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INTRODUCTION

Yes, things worth pondering.
Any of the articles found below may be added to or enhanced at any time.

"Tomorrow's joy is today's preparation."
The poet, author



1.  Why It's LOVE That Works:


Because it’s never a threat.
Because it softens rather than hardens.
Because it thinks the best and not the worst.
Because it’s open and not closed.
Because it’s trustworthy and dependable.
Because it listens rather than talks.
Because it soothes and not troubles.
Because it heals and not wounds.
Because it encourages and inspires.
Because it’s gentle and not rough.
Because it’s sensitive and not thoughtless.
Because it’s a giver and not a taker.
Because it’s truthful and wise.
Because its focus is outward and not inward.
Because it’s patient, tolerant, flexible, compassionate, merciful and forgiving.
Because it seeks to reconcile.
Because it’s graciously forgetful, a present help, a forward thinker and believer.



2.  Where The Rubber Meets The Road:


Mercy can’t develop without the undeserving.
Forgiveness can’t develop without the violator.
Tolerance can’t develop without the provoker.
Patience can’t develop without the irritator.
Courage can’t develop without the intimadator.
Growth can’t develop without the challenger.
Perseverance can’t develop without the frustrating.
Endurance can't develop without the testing.
And acceptance can’t develop without the spoiler.



3.  Some Plain Sense:


If it’s wrong to do something, don’t do it.
If people aren’t loving, make sure you are.
If you don’t like hypocrites, don’t be one.
If you want good kids, be a good parent.
If you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it.
If you’ve been given good advice, use it.
If you’ve made a mistake, admit it.
If you can’t change what’s done, accept it.
If you don’t like arguments, don’t create one.
If you’ve been hurt or wronged, don’t wallow in it.
If you want a long life, don’t shorten it.
If you don’t want trouble, don’t invite it.
If you don’t like bigotry, make sure that your mind is open.
If you’ve learnt the hard way, don’t go there again.
If you want forgiveness, prove your contriteness.
If you don’t like the state of the world, do what you can to improve it.
If some risk may cost, make sure you can handle the cost.
If you can’t get someone to see sense, let them live with the consequences.
If you want people to treat you well, make sure that you treat them well.



4.  Right From The Cradle:


Instil in your child not only respect for others (and indeed all living things), but the preciousness of human life.
Teach your child to view any kind of violence or abuse with contempt.
Help your child to take pride in them self.
Cultivate in your child an open, enquiring mind.
Teach your child to be lawful and to show due respect to authority figures (who, despite some misusing their position, are there for good reason).
Help your child discover the joy of giving, sharing and helping.
Give your child sound principles and standards to live by.
Teach your child that all are equal (regardless of rank, race or gender).
Help your child to remain the individual they are.
Teach your child to look for the best in everyone.
Help your child appreciate the differences in others.
Help your child reach their full potential.
Praise your child regularly and be generous with affection.
Help your child see the counter productiveness of selfishness and wrong doing.
Teach your child that looking after their health will not only lead to longevity and less pain, but that they’ll thereby be lesser a burden on others and will spare them self the embarrassment of certain medical procedures.
Cultivate in your child a desire for what’s wholesome, beautiful and beneficial.
Teach your child to be fair, patient, tolerant, impartial and compasionate.
Help your child to show thought and care for those who’re less fortunate in any way.
Help your child become self-sufficient but not afraid to ask for help.
Teach your child to be honest, transparent and a seeker of truth.
Teach your child to stand up for what they believe in, regardless of ridicule or loss.
Teach your child to keep promises and agreed times and places.
Teach your child the value of a good work ethic.
Help your child see the value in wisdom and sense.
Teach your child the thoughtfulness of etiqette.
Teach your child to think deeply, study well, and research widely.
Teach your child to look after things and to also respect what belongs to others.
Put in place certain boundaries that your child is not to cross without consequences.
Help your child realise that challenges are good for us, and that adversity handled well leads to growth.
Teach your son to be sensitive to a female's needs, and to also be protective of her.
Teach your daughter to be savvy regarding males who aren't as they seem, or who've selfish or ill intent.
And lastly, and above all, BE LOVE'S EXAMPLE.



5.  Real People:


Think for themselves.
Say what they think-cum-call a spade a spade.
Aren’t afraid to show their feelings-cum-bare their soul.
Are no one but themselves and in every way.
Choose their own path.
Follow no one.
Do their own research and study.
Check things out for themselves.
Shoulder blame.
Accept due criticism.
Admit their failures and failings.
Learn from their mistakes.
Are receptive and open to change.
Ask for help.
Listen to advice.
Rise to the occasion.
Speak out and stand up.
Refuse to retaliate or stoop to ill.



6.  When It Comes To Your:


Life — value, seize and enhance it;
Mind — guard, edify and arm it;
Heart — cleanse, soften and open it;
Soul — beautify, enrich and deepen it;
Body — protect, maintain and tend it;
Passions — filter, refine and control them;
Desires — examine, temper and ennoble them;
Diet — lessen, balance and improve it;
Beliefs — test, weigh and review them;
Trials — accept, bear and surmount them;
Wealth  — share, share and share it;
Marriage — nourish, honour and defend it;
Partner — love, respect and uplift them;
Children — praise, guide and hug them;
Family — treasure, contact and support them;
Others — befriend, help and benefit them.



7.  Some Things That Young People Need To Know:


And that is,

That though we might be convinced otherwise, we really don’t know what we truly want until past those tender years.
That parents can be the victims of their background too, and why understanding is called for.
That though the years seem to pass slowly when we’re young, they rush when we’re older.
That asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness, because it takes courage.
That wisdom is predominantly found where there’s older heads.
That though authority figures may err, they’re there for good reason.
That one gets out of life what one puts into life.
That disappointment and pain are either our servant or master.
That you should treat the elderly with respect and thought, because one day you’ll be elderly too.
That someone you treat rudely or badly could turn out to be a possible future employer, father-in-law, benefactor, neighbour, surgeon or judge, say.
That welfare is a hand-up, not a La-Z-Boy recliner.
That where it counts, appearance matters.
That education opens more doors and opportunities.
That bullies have it coming to them.
That drugs are a waste of money, the equivalent of a hacker, a cruel master, and a potential danger to both you and others.
That it’s never smart to follow the herd.
That showing off has a way of backfiring.
That your worth isn’t decided by others.
That your future health is largely determined by the way you treat it now.
That trouble always follows folly.
That trust only comes with responsibility.
That racing hormones are cause for caution.
That it’s not about looks or brains, but what you do with what you’ve got.



8.  Five Rules Worth Observing:


Stay inside the law.
Steer clear of troublemakers.
Never raise a hand to anyone.
Don't fight fire with fire.
Don't say something that isn't true.



9.  Too Many People:


Take rather than give,
Hoard rather than share,
Mourn rather than accept,
Rush rather than wait,
Drift rather than plan,
Speak rather than listen,
Accuse rather than check,
Argue rather than debate,
Fume rather than say,
Hinder rather than help.
Force rather than encourage,
Knock rather than praise,
Hate rather than love,
Frown rather than smile,
Complain rather than rejoice,
Shuffle rather than stride,
Follow rather than lead,
Lord rather than serve,
Slumber rather than watch,
Recline rather than act,
Buckle rather than stand.



10.  A Very Short But Intriguing Dictionary:


Truth
Something that many choose to bend, stretch, ignore or refute.
Compromise
Something that's often applied where it shouldn’t be.
Falsehood
Something that nowadays is commonplace.
Evidence
Something that is sometimes planted or manufactured.
Folly
Something that plagues humanity.
Liberty
Something that when exchanged for security inevitably ensures slavery.
Privacy
Something that modern technology laughs at.
Discipline
Something that’s often missing when it’s called for.
Virtue
Something that gets in the way of what many like to bare.
Wisdom
Something that only the wise and hindsight truly appreciate.
Wealth
Something that only a minority know of.
Criticism
Something that’s seldom desired but often warranted.
Taste
Something that has as much to do with the head as it does the tongue.
Justice
Something that people either long for or dread.
Loyalty
Something that often has a used by date attached.
Humbleness
Something that’s often talked about but seldom practised.
Pride
Something that some have too little of and others too much of.
Praise
Something that's too often showered on those who really aren't deserving of it.
History
Something that's often repeated.
Maturity
Something that doesn't always come with age.



11.  Eighteen Ways To Limit Trouble And Problems In Your Life:


Show respect for authority.
Don’t upset people pointlessly.
Don’t retaliate.
Don’t act recklessly.
Don’t try to please everyone.
Don't cut corners.
Think before you speak or act.
Choose the right time and place.
Choose your friends carefully.
Walk away from a fight.
Avoid potential trouble spots.
Use protective gear where advisable.
Drive defensively.
Follow instructions.
Mind your own business.
Don't come between a man and his wife.
Only use a credit card when you’ve money to cover your purchase.
Never show off.



12.  Life:


You’ve been born.
This is fact and reality.
You either making the best or worst of it.
This world’s an opportunity.
You either running with it or fighting it.
Your lifespan is limited; too short to mess up or mess around with.
Either you’re in charge or fate is.
Right doing your friend.
Wrong doing your foe.
Foolishness and recklessness shortening.
Sense and care lengthening.
A positive attitude an advantage.
A negative attitude robbing and hindering.
Initiative encouraging success.
Thoughtfulness guaranteeing returns.
Friendliness opening doors.
A smile attracting.
A frown repelling.
Healthy living warding off illness.
Contentment and acceptance ensuring peace.
Forgiveness healing.
Revenge sure to kick back.
Anger destructive.
A good sense of humour easing things.
A purpose giving meaning to life.
Vanity setting you up.
Brawling a waste of time.
An open mind a blessing.
A closed mind a curse.
Sense an asset.
Wisdom worth its weight in gold.
Observation enlightening.



13.  Regarding Someone Else's Life:


It’s theirs, not yours.
You’ve no right to take it, and if you do:

You’ll lessen respect for its sanctity thereby threatening the sanctity of your own.
You’ll be accountable for the blood on your hands.
You’ll bring shame on your name and family.
You’ll place yourself amongst the evil, disturbed, deluded and conned.
You’ll make a personal statement that’s self-condemning.
You’ll cause others untold grief.
You’ll become a burden to the tax payer via any court proceedings and imprisonment.
You’ll add to humanity's soiled reputation and treachery.
You’ll poison your own heart.
You’ll prove yourself a coward.
You'll leave others fearful of you.



14.  Eight Keys:


The key to life is attitude.
The key to success is perseverance.
The key to marriage is commitment.
The key to youthfulness is humour.
The key to health is diet.
The key to happiness is self forgetfulness.
The key to growth is receptiveness.
The key to learning is attentiveness.



15.  Here's Another Way Of Saying Things:


Push LOVE and TRUTH out the door and in skips
coldness, darkness, falsehood, deception, treachery and hopelessness.
Push LAW and BOUNDARIES out the door and in skips
anarchy, evil, corruption, villainy, insolence and contempt.
Push MORALS and PRINCIPLES out the door and in skips
depravity, degeneracy, thoughtlessness, dishonourableness, scandal and shame.
Push COMPASSION and MERCY out the door and in skips
insensitivity, callousness, unfairness, abuse, cruelty and injustice.
Push WISDOM and SENSE out the door and in skips
folly, error, misfortune, hurt, injury and regret.
Push ETIQUETTE and THOUGHTFULNESS out the door and in skips
rudeness, cheek, disrespect, offence, unsophistication and embarrassment.
Push CHARITY and KINDNESS out the door and in skips
selfishness, miserliness, greed, indifference, hardheartedness and meanness.
Push TRANSPARENCY and HONESTY out the door and in skips
crookedness, skulduggery, deceit, pretence, lies and fraudulence.



16.  Given The Future That We're Facing:


And any coming global economic collapse, here's some sound advice.

Avoid taking on debt of any sort.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
Live simply.
Don’t get too used to comfort.
Learn to rough it and go it alone at times.
Focus on needs and not desires.
Don’t automatically believe all you hear, read or even see.
Accumulate little except that which might stand you in good stead.
Mind who you put your trust in and don’t expect.
Be as prepared as you can be for changes, situations and disappointments.
Avoid unnecessary risks and stress.
Don’t do anything unlawful.
Keep your body free of injurious substances that could result in impairment and expense.
Avoid following the crowd and any single individual.
Remember that your savings aren’t actually in the bank and that they could be withheld at any moment.
Avoid business partnerships and unhealthy relationships.
Get the right balance when it comes to work, rest, play and family.
Be active in the promotion of rights and less governmental control.
Don’t waste or trash what you may have cause to regret later on.
Look after what you have so that it lasts longer and has more resale value and that as a result will cost less to repair or replace.
Make sure your decisions and choices are the right ones.
Exercise routine benevolence for what goes around comes around.
Treat everyone as if one day you’ll be dependant on their compassion or mercy.
Lose yourself in some worthy cause.
Invest in a not too expensive hobby.
Appreciate what blessings you have while you still have them.
And learn to appreciate and enjoy the little things in life.



17.  Reasons:


For Caring

Caring shows that we have a heart and a conscience.
The greatest happiness and satisfaction comes from losing ourselves in others.
Every human via their very being is precious, and worthy of time, effort and love.
We’re all linked by origin and lineage; we’re one big family.
We’re all suffering in one way or another.
We all know how easy it is to err, and that many are paying terribly for their error.
Caring will place us on the side of right, light, and hope.
What goes around comes around. In other words: If we don’t show care towards others, care may not come our way when we need it.
Pulling together is the only way we can improve the lot of humanity, cut back the damage we’ve done to our planet, and lessen damage in future.
We’re all in the same boat (Earth), are facing the same apocalyptic scenario, and time wise have the same narrow window.
Caring means that less people will feel neglected, which can translate to less anger, crime and assaults.

For Taking Care

Our lives are only capable of lasting a certain length of time. By not taking care of ourselves we might decrease that period.
By not taking care of ourselves we might suffer from miserable health problems, and at an earlier age, and as a consequence, for a longer period of time.
By not taking care of ourselves we might create unnecessary problems or misery for our loved ones, affecting their quality of life.
By not taking care of ourselves we might add to the already overtaxed medical system and budget blowouts depriving others (even ourselves) of assistance when it’s needed.
By not taking care of ourselves we might add to the already stretched and under funded organisations (and resources) involved in attending to us, such as search and rescue.
Overusing and mistreating any organ or member unnecessarily, or sustaining unnecessary injuries (via the likes of certain sports, fun activities, etc), might see us pay a price that may well out weigh the pleasure we get.
By not taking care of ourselves we might be less well off financially due to certain expenses incurred, be that due to doctor or dentist visits, travel expenses, etc.
By not taking care of ourselves we might influence others who’ll possibly suffer similar woes, adding to the burdens their loved ones and society have to bear.
By not taking care of ourselves, or in general, we might display a lack of wisdom and common sense that portrays us poorly.
By not taking care of ourselves, we might also show a recklessness and disregard for others that could leave them suffering, and once again, such not saying much of us.
By not taking care of ourselves we may not be able to do certain things any more that we currently love doing.

For Being Yourself

It’s being yourself that makes you very special, the unique person that you are.
The world will be all the less for you hiding behind someone else, because such stifles your individuality.
We can never be someone else no matter how hard we try.
Trying to be someone else may upset that person you’re trying to be.
Everyone is human, faulty, has their own issues, uses the bathroom! So don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re no better or worse.
Trying to be someone else leads to confusion, emotional illness and stress.
Trying to be someone else is somewhat acting dishonestly, deceitfully.
You might disappoint those who like you the way you are.
Not being yourself holds you back from contributing in your own unique way.
No matter how little you think of yourself it won’t alter your value. Your worth is based on your very existence.

For Putting Others First

Because when we don’t put others first we display that sad behaviour that’s always been a curse to humanity.
Because when we secure the rights of others we secure our own.
Because what goes around comes around — a seemingly invisible law. Thus we may not be thought of.
Because such beautifies one’s character
Because that special inner feeling that comes from such can’t be experienced by other means.
Because if there is a God (as I believe), and our destiny is largely decided by our selfishness or selflessness, it would behove us to.
Because it sets an example that can only but prove a blessing.
Because it rights rather than wrongs.
Because we never know whether that person that we don't put first may be a future employer, benefactor, father-in-law, etc, and what then?
Because there's no better way to be loved or well thought of, not that such should be the motivation.



18.  Could This Pertain To You?:


When he was young,

He wasted precious time and now he has little time left.
He indulged and neglected his body and now it’s paining, preventing and costing.
He played around and now he's infectious.
He filled his head with rubbish and now it’s really messing with him.
He sneered at education and now he's wishing he had a better job.
He didn’t give his parents much thought and now they’ve gone.
He didn’t give much thought to others and now they’re not giving much thought to him.
He mistreated many and now what has gone around has come around.
He didn’t choose his partner wisely and now his thoughts and eyes are elsewhere.
He didn’t raise his children well and now he's visiting a penitentiary.
He pursued the reckless and extreme and now he's a burden his loved ones have to bear.
He sought the selfish and unworthy and now he's living with loss of respect and dignity.
He spent his money instead of saving it and now he's dependant on benevolence and charity.
He played the big man but now he's reduced to childlike needs.
He laughed at good advice and now he's giving it.
He laughed at the elderly and soon will be one of them.
He hung around with those who were just like him and why it took him so long to see.
In other words, He foolishly built on sand and now the tide has come in.

O was it her?



19.  Where One Should Speak Out:


Where freedom of expression or civil and religious liberty are under threat.
Where others may be endangered or wrongly influenced.
Wherever there is prejudice, racism and bigotry.
Where someone is being wrongly maligned (bearing in mind that one day that someone could well be you).
Where truth is under attack or injured.
Where an injustice is occurring (and because every injustice ignored sees injustice grow).
Where there is anyone who needs us to speak on their behalf.
Where there is physical or sexual abuse.
Where threats against any life is made.
Where there's corruption and foul play.
Where there's tyranny and oppression.

And,
Because you may not get another opportunity than the one that comes your way.
Because it shows that you have a mind and will of your own, an inner strength.
Because it builds character, courageous muscles.
Because it encourages others to, sets a valuable example.
Because it’s cowardly to not speak out.

Altered and added to on 11 September 2020.



20.  These Will Serve You Well:


An inquiring, questioning and open mind;
A healthy distrust of the modern media;
Little faith in majorities;
A refusal to bow to peer pressure or the herd mentality;
A refusal to idolize or worship anyone;
Personal vigilance and diligence as opposed to trusting in others;
A natural caution when it comes to the ideas and plans of others that somehow impact on lives;
An awareness of the propaganda from vested interests;
A wariness of “signs and wonders”;
A level-headedness and realistic outlook;
Little interest in popularity;
A healthy individualism;
And a sound moral compass.



21.  Keep This In Mind:


That those who’ve an evil agenda, and who do not have your best interests at heart,

Malign anyone and deny anything suggesting or saying otherwise.
Seek to silence opposition, destroy or withhold evidence, remove opportunity and avenues for complaint, and appoint those who will bow to their wishes.
Use circumstances or situations to their advantage.
Make promises they won’t keep.
Make ambiguous statements.
Say things that they know you’ll want to hear.
Avoid answering questions directly.
Twist the truth.
Bend or change the rules, interfere in due process.
Feign ignorance regarding certain underhand activities, or point to anyone or anything rather than themselves.
Hide behind popular causes, religion, positions of authority and institutions.
Create problems behind the scenes that they then profess to have the answers to, thereby receiving approval to implement those answers which further their plans.
Provide fake evidence.
Are often charismatic, influential, wealthy, very educated, or benign seeming.
And usually tell you that they do have your best interests at heart.