Time To Face Things



“Until men and women know, understand, accept and appreciate the differences between them,
there will always be conflict and disappointment.”
The Author

Frank content, and not for the solidified mind.

Don't confuse my poem numbers with my article numbers given that poems can appear before, in-between, and after any article on this page, and hence the double index in the blue box to the right.

1.  When Will Men Get It?

Men are turned on by the visual, but women are turned on by love, and so,
If you want good sex, husbands, love your wives — in other words, thought and kindness show.
Yes, it’s pretty much that simple — happy wife, happy sex — something men should know,
Women not turned on by nudity, but that sensitivity men should show.

So, forget that macho nonsense, that male stripper thing, such nothing but a game,
It childish and unintelligent, hardly the stuff to ignite a flame.
Women not aroused by such, despite some buying into that silly scene, and
Just adding to the folly of it, rather than taking a more mature stand.

And wives should also remember just how much the visual stirs men, and so,
They minding lest they foster that horniness from which disappointment can grow.
Men finding it hard to keep their hands off their wife whose sexy attire oft stirs,
And thus how women make things harder and worse, and why more so, their husband errs,

Because too much arousal occurs. However,

An activated male motor aids a man’s loving care (where his heart is pure),
Men having been designed that way, but love first and foremost always being the cure.
Yes, happy wife, happy sex, she feeling wanted for herself, not her body,
’Cause our body’s merely a thing, just a vessel for one’s personality.

In other words, that person we are, and thus we putting people before things,
Love before sex — and via doing so, it’s not long before that pretty bird sings;
Women basking in their husbands love, they only too happy to oblige, and
This how a woman is truly aroused herself, just like Mother Nature planned.

Yes, love turns women on, love that’s free of lusty eyes and erring groping hands,
Because lusty eyes and erring groping hands have more to do with one night stands.
Hence that, “Hello, I know what he’s after,” sad sigh, it all to common, frankly,
Hence why love’s candle oft merely flickers rather than burning passionately,

Husbands letting their wife down badly.

But Hollywood would have us believe anything but the truth, and why we see,
Half naked women acting just as horny and aggressive sexually,
And love having nothing to do with it, it more like an animal affair,
And the irony is, many women who’d agree with me, still sit and stare.

Yes, funny what many condemn in real life, but accept when it’s acted out,
They effectively condoning such a lie, when love is what it’s all about.
All why sex outside of a lasting relationship is a travesty too,
It nothing but selfish gratification, something that true love’s not into,

So when will women get it too?

In summary, men and women operate on two different levels, so,
It’s not about what men expose, but about that love and care that they should show.
Otherwise, they’re wasting their time, the visual not doing it for women,
But just for men, who, thinking the opposite, get it wrong time and time again.

Yes, “Get it off!” some women yell, and some are even viewing pornography too,
But in the general scheme of things, such is hardly what women are into.
There may be exceptions, some women more like men, and some men more like women,
But men are still men, and women are still women, who, aren’t aroused quite like men,

At the drop of a hat, or should I say robe, and they wanting it there and then.

By Lance Landall

This poem was added to on the 20 April 2018

2.  Begin When He's Very Young

If we want a man to treat a woman right, he should’ve been taught as a boy,
Lest via ignorance, falsehood or abuse, he lessen or steal his partner’s joy.
And so, each boy shown how, why, when and where, just what’s expected of a man,
Because manhood’s nothing to do with callousness, nor a mattress in a van.

So teach him to hold his tongue, restrain his brawn, and discipline his desires,
’Cause not one single women, emotional and physical abuse admires.
Yes, such behaviour not the hallmark of a man, but a brute, a selfish one,
Who can’t be trusted with the care of a woman, and nor her daughter or son.

So begin when he’s very young, mind what he reads and views, who he listens to,
And those mates that he teams up with, because woe betide any overlooked clue.
Yes, boys will be boys, hence why they need firm and guiding hands, a good role model,
Otherwise, there’s a good chance some woman will be the recipient of ill.

Yes, a screwed up man can mess a woman up too, and that means double trouble,
Or when it comes to peace and happiness, he bursting some good woman’s bubble;
And such disillusionment not doing men any favours in general,
The feminist movement clear evidence, because in time, things always tell.

Men and women are different; this being something men should respect, and so,
Just exactly how a woman should be treated, every man needs to know,
And needs to follow through on, love, care and tenderness going without saying,
’Cause everyone should be shown such — though here, a woman’s rights I’m conveying.

The truth is, that most men haven’t been educated, shown from the get go,
And so, with whom might blame lie, and is one truly guilty where one doesn’t know?
We quick to blame the man, but who didn’t teach him as a boy, show him the way,
And might some women be aiding and abetting, ’cause they’ve got their part to play,

They needing to be taught too, lest they be the cause of something going askew.

By Lance Landall

3.  Know Where It's At


You can strut the stage jerking your howling guitar and almost mouth the mike too,
Have women screaming at your suggestive gyrations; and no doubt bed some too.
Yes, you can have the crowd falling at your feet and lost in your hypnotic beat,
And it won’t make you a man, for men aren’t made on a stage or under a sheet.

Yes, you can use your little head instead of your big head, tell bawdy jokes too,
And in-between use that foul four letter word, have others applauding you too.
Or you can even stand before a crowd as their president, mayor or MP,
And it won’t make you a man, for men aren’t made by their roles in society.

Yes, you can wear a suit, have a flash title, big pecs, biceps and tight abs too,
Have a black belt or brown belt, tote a gun, wield a knife and use your bare fists too.
Or you could build your wife a house, fill it with this and that and some big trip plan,
Bring home the bacon as regular as clockwork and it won’t make you a man.

But a loving heart will, principles and standards that won’t have you budge from right,
That path that spurns ego, self and folly, steers one towards truth, goodness and light.
And thus you not turning to ill, anything that’s dubious or unworthy.
But rather, you leading by example, sound both inwardly and outwardly.


You can dress as if to kill, smoulder sexually, better other gals too,
Paint your pretty face, cover yourself in bling and no doubt take a man down too.
Yes, know how to wrap a man around your fingers, get what you want and quickly,
And it won’t make you a woman, for women aren’t made by such ability.

Yes, you can use your body instead of your brain, act like one of the boys too,
Guzzle beer, also swear, do the clubs, have your moment of fame and fortune too.
Or you might gain some high position, become a princess, some celebrity,
And it won’t make you a woman, for women aren’t made by status or money.

Yes, you can wear designer clothes, drive a Lamborghini and have the goods too,
Give as good as you get, wear a soldier’s uniform and compete with men too.
Or you could have your own business, help hubby with that house, keep it spick and span,
Even be a dutiful housewife, hostess, and it won’t make you a woman.

But a loving heart will, principles and standards that won’t have you budge from right,
That path that spurns ego, self and folly, steers one towards truth, goodness and light.
And thus you not turning to ill, anything that’s dubious or unworthy,
But rather, you leading by example, sound both inwardly and outwardly.

By Lance Landall

1.  Are Women Blameless?

This article is an attempt to provide some fairness and balance.

There are women that are saying that they have every right to dress how they wish — in other words, as sexually as they like in public, that it's their body and they can do what they like with it, and that one can’t and shouldn’t link sexual assaults to such — in other words, that the blame for such assaults lies entirely with the male attacker. Or to put it another way, the women so dressed are completely blameless.
My personal response to such?
What one may be permitted to do, isn’t always what’s wise to do, and under some circumstances, perhaps not even right to do. Thus, where one doesn't use wisdom, are they free of any blame should ill of some sort come their way?
In my mind, those women who make such a statement, come under the following:
1) They have their head in the sand, are unaware of just how sick society has become.
2) They have a very narrow focus, a seeming inability to understand and grasp the broader issues surrounding such.
3) They simply don’t wish to face reality because it doesn't suit.
4) They simply don’t wish to accept any responsibility for some part that they may have played in some way.
5) They simply do not understand what it’s like to be a man, which, while understandable, given that they’re not men, doesn't excuse insensitivity, thoughtlessness or folly. Though a man can’t truly understand what it’s like to be pregnant, for example, such wouldn’t excuse any insensitive thoughtless behaviour towards his pregnant wife. In other words, he should endeavour to try and understand what it must be like, and seek to make his wife’s pregnancy issues as bearable as possible.
A man’s sex drive is very powerful, and most unlike a woman’s, thus when women titillate a man, it can be akin to playing with a time bomb and not just a couple of matches. The sex drive in a man can also vary in intensity from one man to another, some men having a sex drive that’s seemingly impossible for them to live with.
Many women don’t seem to understand or fully appreciate that visual stimuli affects a man in the same way as tactile stimuli affects a woman.
When a man views a picture of a naked woman, his sexual arousal is instant, and commonly strong.
When men view pornographic material, their sexual arousal could be likened to the intensity of a woman’s approaching climax. Hence why many men feel the need to masterbate.
A man is also designed in such a way that as soon as his key is turned via sexual stimulus, his motor is ready for action. In other words, a man isn’t meant to be aroused to go nowhere. Thus sexiness in public can be somewhat like dangling a steak in front of a hungry lion and then pulling it away. And such is why there’s an undercurrent of frustration that’s running through the male realm, be it conscious or subconscious, given what men are constantly being teased with.
And hence why sexual arousal in any form should be kept to the marital home where any such needs can be taken care of without undue delay.
Even quarter revealed breasts (aided by push up bras designed to titilate) can be stimulating to the male eye, and a man’s radar is highly attuned to such. That’s the way he’s made. A woman's breasts are generally (even overwhelmingly) a man's strong interest of sexual desire, hence the original Playboy magazines that in time progressed from bare breasts to the naked crutch as well, a man's next interest, and obviously so, because that's where his aroused state wishes to end up, ultimately — intercourse.
This is all why mens locker rooms and so on are often plastered with Playboy type pictures.
Don't forget that we're talking openly here, and from a certain perspective.
With all the sexual content that’s around today, one could say that a man’s radar is on high alert, overload, in fact — men (in the public domain) picking up on more than what was ever intended for them to see outside of marriage (and certainly without relief). For the young male whose hormones are racing, it can be a real battle.
Okay, moving on:
Anyone who knowingly leaves a bulging wallet in their car (which they're at liberty to do) with the windows down on both sides, and then goes for a walk, would be considered a fool, and I’m very sure that most people would say, “Well, you’ve only got yourself to blame.” Sure no one should have taken it, and clearly they’ve committed a crime, but the fact that someone did take it, and thereby did commit a crime, is somewhat irrelevant (it could be argued) given that if the wallet hadn’t been left in the car like that, no theft-cum-crime would have occurred. As I said earlier, what one may be permitted to do, isn’t always wise to do, and under some circumstances, not even right to do. Why unnecessarily put temptation in someone's way? Is that not a wrong in itself?
Bearing all this in mind, let’s face some hard facts:
1) The world contains many predatory men. It's interesting how during wars many soldiers will rape where they feel they can get away with it. And they certainly don't do it just because their victim is the enemy. Hence why a soldier is only as good as his conscience, his moral stand.
2) The world contains many oversexed men.
3) The world contains many men who have deviant desires.
4) The world contains many men who are tanked up on pornography, enter addiction, obsession and compulsion.
5) The world contains many men who have some kind of sexual dysfunction — hang up.
6) The world contains many men who're angry with women, some even having a hatred for women. And why might that be? Well, perhaps they've been wrongly accused of some sexual assault (rape), been left for another man when having been a good husband, or been badly treated by either their mother (who may have abandoned them as well) or their wife.
7) The world contains men who're very jealous of those gorgeous and sexy clothed (or is it unclothed?) women that other men have and are happy to strut in the face of other men.
8) The world also contains many sexually frustrated men, and there can be a number of reasons for their frustration. Many men can't get a woman, be that due to poor looks, ineptness, bad traits, etc, which when coupled with porn, doubles their frustration. Many men can become very frustrated by the constant sexual stimulation that daily comes their way, and thus are sorely tempted by such, even when married; perhaps their needs not being met due to marital problems, the wife's ill-health or even death.
The consequences of all this?
1) Frustration and temptation can see even a good man fall from grace and do what he normally wouldn’t do — in other words, go too far with his advances, or sexually assault a woman outright.
The truth is (whether it's accepted or not), that there's an undercurrent of unfulfilled sexual frustration running through the male kingdom given what men are constantly being confronted with without immediate relief, or relief at all.
2) The interest of predatory, oversexed, sexually obsessed, compulsion driven, pornography fuelled men, or those with some sexual dysfunction, is strongly kindled by public sexiness. After all, it’s the real walking talking deal, not just a picture, and the reality is that such men graduate from this to that. Much like with drugs. The sexual serial killer, Ted Bundy (1946-1989), conveyed that as a youngster his future path was first fuelled by the likes of Playboy magazines, which back then, were nothing like what’s seen today. And now, the sexual is everywhere, and more blatantly so.
Those who say that porn isn't connected to crime are away with the fairies.
And bear in mind that many of these men are men that one would never suspect.
Given all the above, a sexually (sexy) dressed woman walking about in public, and especially given today’s climate, is acting somewhat akin to someone walking through a pride of lions — some having eaten, some having not eaten, and some plain greedy, undisciplined, annoyed or nasty.
Now tell me, who would willingly choose to walk through a pride of lions, and if they did, I wonder who they would blame if they were attacked — the lions or them self?
Such is the reality whether one chooses to accept such or not.
Go surfing and there's the chance of a shark attack, and you having known that.
Why play Russian roulette? Someone's number is going to come up somewhere.
Sure a man should never sexually assault a woman even if she is dressed in a way that inevitably teases, but the fact is that many men WILL having been excited by such behaviour, and given any underlying issues mentioned here. Thus, a woman AUTOMATICALLY ups the chances of being sexually assaulted when she dresses sexually. And if things keep going the way they are, and given how many women seem to be pushing the envelope, men will only get worse.
Yes, when women, via such sexiness, make themselves an object of lust rather than an object of beauty, such assaults are clearly going to be an obvious outcome in a world that's far from perfect, morally bankrupt, and sick to boot.
Therefore, better out of sight and out of mind, or at least, thereby less in the mind.
So what has sexiness really done for women?
It has placed them in greater danger of an assault, it has made them an object of lust rather than an object of beauty, it has effectively degraded or downgraded them as a consequence, and thus has lessened many a man's respect for them, and therefore, now has men seeing them as more an object than the person that they are. In other words, the focus has gone from the person to the body, and from the protective caring of a man's heart to the threatening self centeredness of a man's mind.
The sexual aside, and given that it’s hardly the same world anymore, women should always mind that they not pointlessly put themselves at risk. It never ceases to amaze me how women will still go walking in the bush, down dark streets at night, and through the likes of bushy, tree laden parks and river trails on their own. It’s as if they’re not getting the message despite the daily reports of attacks and rapes occurring in these very same places. Sure it’s their right to walk when and where they like, but sense is ones greatest ally.
When I'm out on my bike and riding along near the river, I often see women on their own. I've warned my daughters not to. A while back a man came out of his backyard, which backs on to the river bank, and attacked, sexually assaulted  and killed a woman who was out jogging. I wasn't surprised and said that it no doubt wouldn't be the last time. And sure enough, another woman was badly attacked and sexually assaulted. Fortunately she didn't lose her life but will live with the scars for the remainder of her life. Yes, it was their right to walk when and where they liked, but both woman paid very dearly.
Women need to REMEMBER this: All those crimes we read about, hear about, and may even witness, are simply the tip of an iceberg. And the reason why is,
1) Because many women don’t report sexual assaults because they perceive it as shameful thing, don’t want to go through the trauma of court and reliving things, and don’t want to see their family landed with it too.
2) Thousands and thousands of women across the world go missing each year. Many, if not most the victims of foul play; their bodies never found, their killer never caught (given who knows what happened to them), or they languishing in some room (to put it nicely) where they’re held prisoner as a sex slave for who knows how long.
3) There are clearly many women who have narrowly missed out on being sexually assaulted, raped, or murdered, without them knowing it.
The truth is, there are far more bad men in the world than there are in prisons.
And here’s a few tips for women visiting other countries:
Never travel alone, but always with someone else, and preferably with more.
Never hitchhike.
Never do the following alone — Go out at night; Go off with someone; Go on bush walks, to remote places, or where few or no people are around.
Know that country’s emergency number.
Keep people posted as to where you are at all times.
Be very observant of all that’s going on around you. 

Upgraded 29 December 2019

4.  How Can Men Take Women Seriously?

“We’re so tired of being sexualised, seen as objects,” they’re saying today,
When they’re also sexualizing themselves, indulging in hypocrisy.
They dressing to kill, oozing sex, furiously spinning a man’s radar, and
Participating in the raunchy and pornie, those movies that should be banned.

No wonder they’re being sexualized, seen as objects, so why all the tears?
Their cruel teasing of men causing frustration that’s simply been building for years.
And frustration usually ends in something, because when men see the sexy
They hardly see the person, just the body, and can’t help note hypocrisy.

If they don’t want men groping them, say, wrongly assaulting them sexually,
They shouldn’t pressurise any bladder that could explode upon society.
All why “It’s my right to dress as I wish to” falls on deaf ears, ’cause all men see
Is women flaunting what turns a key, revs a motor, even redlining it,


So how can men take women seriously, men geared to notice that body,
And notice they will where it’s half naked and flaunted, stirring excitedly.
And it’s all the man’s fault, apparently, and a puppy’s too where there’s a fresh steak,
One waved in front of its nose, dear me, men and puppies acting naturally,

Hence that path some take.

Yes, that puppy barking, that man aroused too, his camera having gone "Click!”
And there in his mind that image replaying, the OFF switch very hard to flick.
Some woman having sexualised herself, made it easy for men to think
She might have sex in mind too, and miscalculating men destined for the Clink.

Of course we know men shouldn’t err regardless, but once stirred, many are prone to,
They kind of fooled by such confusing signals, as if possibly she’d want to.
And thus a little persuasion needed, perhaps, when that’s not how it is here,
But simply women publicly parading what privately they wish to share

With only their boyfriend or their husband, that is, which isn’t exactly clear.

And so, if they don’t like strangers ogling them, nor want to be objectified,
They shouldn’t dress so, nor behave so, because those two worlds are sure to collide.
Such sexiness blinding men like those headlights blind possums, but aren’t women blind too,
Who, the very things that work just as much against them as for them, still pursue?

By Lance Landall

5.  Dear Young Women Of Today

Dear young women of today, please don’t be fooled by what you’re being fed, those lies,
Each one designed to mould you their way, and fleece you of money, hence their disguise.
You meaning nothing to them, except where they profit from you, too often too,
Hence why I wouldn’t have a bar of it, it all something wide eyes can see through.

So just be yourself, a natural woman who doesn’t follow the crowd, nor
Bows to peer pressure, current foolish trends, that sexiness that’s become a bore,
It in ones face, shallow, empty and even crass, and why you need to realise
That much you see in theatres and on TV is all part of those same lies.

Women have more to offer than just their bodies (designed for marriage alone),
Hence why they shouldn’t give in to selfish demands despite any lustful groan.
And why they should pursue their own path, not copy boorish lads and their ways,
Nor degrade their femininity by things that men may do, the current craze.

Your best interests are better served by helping men to see differently,
To be what and how they should be, and you do that via retaining dignity.
And where they don’t lead, you should, standing alone and apart, confident and true,
Telling both errant men and the deluded, lying world just what they can do.

The answer’s not found in boys, shops or the stage, but in that path you take, and so,
It all coming down to the heart and mind, and which in your words and acts will show.
You setting a foundation that will make happiness more likely to follow,
Rather than hurt and disappointment, that “I told you so,” bitter to swallow.

So please don’t be fooled by what you’re being fed, those lies that beguile and blind,
Hence that repeating of mistakes of the past, of which parents often remind.
The young always singled out by charlatans and profiteers who stalk their prey,
And hence why I have penned these words of warning to you young women of today.

Yes, mind slick operators and their carrots (be they some business man or boy),
Who, not only ogle what they’ve fashioned so, or encouraged, but rob of joy.
Young women dancing to strings that suit agendas of every kind, sad to say,
They steered and manipulated via today's music, movies, mags and fashion,

And hence why they stray,

Because at the end of the day, there's not the same wholesomeness in things today,
And mostly quite the opposite, society in a sad state of decay.
And so, not just your mind but that body of yours being sacked by predators,
Those whose aims are selfish, misguided, and/or corrupt — and yet, where are the roars?

By Lance Landall

6.  How My Heart Weeps

Oh, how my heart weeps, for soon, where will we find the unsoiled woman, but gone,
Both her younger mind and innocent body having been cruelly set upon.
She having been ogled for sexual potential, as if just a body,
And her mind having been manipulated to yield — and who’s saying sorry?

Freedom, some call it, but freedom for who, those guys who’ve always wanted their way,
Those guys who’ve always tried it on, those guys that girls should’ve seen coming their way.
Hence why my heart weeps, girls defrauding themselves by saying, “Yes,” ’cause soon is seen,
Those guys moving on to their next conquest, and oft some kid showing where they’ve been.

I’m just moralizing, you say,

No, I’m simply tired of seeing young girls pawed, okay, kneeling to base desires,
And thereby they stoking those consuming coals on their own destructive fires.
Guys just using them, but when it comes to marriage, “No, not those ones, not at all,”
They wanting what they call a decent girl — yes, I know, it nothing but a gall.

Young girls lied to: “Saving yourself for the right guy, marriage, is old fashioned!” — well,
It’s surely better than being used, just another horse on some carousel.
One that young women (and even older ones) need to get off, they worse for wear,
And when it comes to that horse ride, it’s usually them who’s paying the fare.

The failure of women to understand how men are stirred by a whiff of sex
Is a constant source of trouble for them, hence their need of a new pair of specs.
Yes, God’s advice looking more protective than restrictive, and as for Him, well,
He no fuddy-duddy, misusing things always resulting in certain ill.

Letting folk use us just leads to lowered self-esteem, depression and anger,
And sexiness simply fuelling lust, like petrol on a fire, yet still girls err.
And used they’ll continue to be whilst they still indulge in promiscuity,
Hence why my heart weeps, for soon, where will we find the unsoiled woman, but gone,

Set upon, with her authority.

Oh yes, how my heart weeps, so many nice young girls plundered, their good father sad,
He knowing full well that in this sex obsessed world that there’s both good men and bad.
And those good fathers teaching their sons better, but where will better girls be found?
All why young women shouldn’t become horses on that grubby merry-go-round.

By Lance Landall

You may wish to read my poem: Okay, So You've Messed Up Already, which can be
found in the orange box titled The Sparrow.

7.  Girl Power

Whatever “girl power” may be, I know what it should be, what it needs to be,
And that is, the strength to say “No” to those demands that are selfish and lusty.
No girl letting some boy do what she doesn’t want him to do, and saying so,
Despite any pressure from him or others, that he and they may clearly know.

“Girls can do anything,” I hear said, but if they can’t say, “No, take a hike,” then
They not only hole their “girl power” ship, but declare that sad weakness to men.
And that’s where the term “sissy” really belongs, not with saying, “No, take a hike,”
’Cause saying “Yes” makes that whole “girl power” thing look like a rather wobbly bike.

If we don’t take the tough path when we’re young, chances are we won’t when we’re older,
And hence why I can’t stress enough the importance of young folk acting bolder.
And here, those girls being pressured, because once they say, “Yes,” the weaker they’ll be,
And thus “girl power” meaning nothing, they slaves to their own inadequacy.

Life’s all about standing up and standing tall, not because ones a girl or boy,
But because right is right and wrong is wrong, and as far as girls go, they not some toy.
Hence why they shouldn’t play that game either, because that’s how they’ll share in the blame,
Sex not where it’s at, but love and commitment, our choices how we lose or gain,

Invite joy or shame.

Coping flack and losing friends because of a noble stand is par for the course,
How we grow and become our own person, not someone else’s obedient horse.
And so, if girls don’t want to be used, sex before marriage should be refused, and
“Girl power” then a reality — and soon despatched, that selfish one night stand.

By Lance Landall

8.  Say "No" Or "Go"

Many women have brought trouble on themselves by not saying, “No,” to some man,
Allowing him to do or get what worked against her, aiding some selfish plan.
Hence why women should make clear what they will or won’t accept, thus raising the bar,
Even minding those little things, which in time, might see some man going too far.

And this also applies to young girls dating, or simply hanging out with boys,
Given that succumbing to certain desires can see them treated like toys.
In other words, hurt, set up for misery-cum-a baby and poverty,
After having been badly used, which some people might rightly call treachery.

Such women quickly blame the man when they should’ve said, “No,” or told him to go,
And which would’ve helped that man to grow, or which would’ve helped that young lad to grow.
And in later years, many males wishing that woman or that girl had said, “No,”
’Cause such kicked back at them too, and thoughtfulness being a two way street, you know.

So, dear woman, mind that sweet talk, and that though he may tick most boxes of yours,
There could well be a hidden knife or two in them, which later, much pain could cause.
Yes, he may well look the part, act the part, but that’s how it is with conmen too,
And why females should do their homework and keep some distance, lest things go askew.

By Lance Landall

9.  Tinder's Young And Dead

Yes, young and dead, another victim of Tinder, that one night stand carry on,
And why now (after he’d got his way so quickly, then taken her life) she’s gone.
Yes, she taking a risk no woman should, knowing nought of him but what he’d said,
Most very lean with the truth, hence how many women end up battered or dead.

Though men shouldn’t batter or kill, there are men who will, and they don’t advertise,
Hence why women shouldn’t rush, evil often hiding behind a pack of lies.
Devil’s aren’t two horned, except in ones imagination, and why looks deceive,
Many women falling for that same old package, serpent they shouldn’t believe.

She dying in that hotel bed after some bizarre fetish, it all so sad,
And he in prison after more lies — and left behind, a grieving mum and dad.
And more grieving mums and dads they’ll be until women decide to say, “No,”
Or at least wait until the truth of some interested guy they better know.

Once in bed and pinned to the bed (and worse where cries can’t be heard), what can they do?
Sex given before they really know whether his intentions are false or true.
But doubt falling on all who’re too quick to give or take, for where’s the sense in that?
Better men and women controlling their desires, sex hardly where it’s at.

Yes, you can do with your body what you wish, sex it up, yield it, and so on;
And despite the selfishness and sickness that’s out there, that’s where many have gone,
And paid a price, ’cause some things that we’ve a right to do aren’t always wise to do,
And can simply play into the hands of someone who isn’t thinking of you.

And so, young and dead, all because of the right to do something that wasn’t wise,
Yet, so many going on about that right, forgetful that she’s not alive.
Choice not just about rights, but sense, thus her life sacrificed for a one night stand,
Of whom she really knew nothing at all, and for whom no wedding she had planned.

And so, going on about her right to act so, simply encourages more,
Who, rather than having learnt to put sense first, tempt evil to add to its score.
Yes, much like standing near the edge of a cliff where someone might bump or push us,
And yet (should we survive), those who bumped or pushed would be the object of our fuss,

Thus point lost, at what cost?

By Lance Landall

10.  Far, Far Too Young

Mind your young daughter, she thirteen years old, say, but ’round town with boys her own age,
They all far too young to be dating, and are sexually active I’d wage.
Yes, she far too young, and dressed to stir, those boys soon pressuring and begging her,
She deflowered before she really understands it all — a babe, as it were.

Yes, it’s crazy — and you mum and dad should be doing all you can to stop such,
She far, far too young, such oft fuelled by movies, and predators ready to clutch.
But surely you know this, so what’s going on, such freedom a danger to her,
She thinking she’s acting like an adult — oh dear — and thus why she’s seen to err.

Yes, she’s not just stirring those young boys her own age, but older men as well, who,
May well ignore the age of consent, or who those innocent young girls pursue.
But are you listening mum and dad? Is it just modern life, you think? — oh dear,
’Cause I’ve news for you: Your inaction or approval hardly shows love and care.

She may be well endowed, but emotionally she’s still a child, and you know,
Such endowment at her age kind of sets her up, and more so when it's on show.
But young girls are encouraged and influenced to dress sexy now, sad to say,
A certain adultness coming too early, and how they stray, and how boys play.

By Lance Landall

11.  Too Soon, Too Young

One reason why so many marriages are failing is, because they were begun far too soon,
Only to become songs that wouldn’t make the charts, for certain notes were out of sync with the tune.
Yes, too young to truly know what they wanted, though convinced that they did know — plus, love is oft blind,
And hence why when further down the track — the truth of the matter — so many couples thereby find.

At the end of the day, maturity counts for a great deal, but such takes some time to acquire,
And hence why one is far better to wait until they are much more grounded, lest it all backfire.
And hence why it's wiser to wait until those hard to control hormones have subsided somewhat,
And those unrealistic romantic notions have given way to sense, and then to tie the knot.

With every year that passes by, we can find ourselves looking at things very differently,
And in time we can wonder why we liked or did the things that we did, oft embarrassingly.
And likewise, if we have married too soon, can discover that our choice of partner wasn’t wise,
And hence how the fire that once burned in the hearts of two people gradually flickers and dies.

Too often the seeker isn’t worthy of the one they find, and are seemingly unconcerned,
Which many worthy ones who have been sought by such unsound seekers, have only much later learned.
And hence why tying the knot too soon and too young can result in much misery come divorce,
For young minds and young hearts are far less likely to pursue a much wiser and unselfish course.

By Lance Landall

12.  Oh, Mandy, Mandy

Mandy wanted a husband, but gave herself to the boys,
They not into commitment, but simply playing with toys.
And she providing the pleasure, so play with her they did,
Until they found another playmate, and her, farewell bid.

Oh, Mandy, Mandy, why haven’t you and other girls learnt
That emulating a sex toy is how one just gets burnt.
Such users and abusers only eyeing the pantry,
And those obliging girls like you, always very handy.

By Lance Landall

2.  When A Woman Dresses Sexy:

Sex becomes the focus and thus how a woman misdirects the interest of a man. Attractive highlights the person, sexy highlights the body. Attractive knows restraint, sexy pushes the envelope.
She reaches for the “tools of the trade” rather than relying on her own merits; lessens the gap between the fitting and unfitting.
In the eyes of men, she soon becomes identified as an object, a plaything, a vehicle for the fulfilment of lust and thus something simply to be used, and thus less valued and respected.
She moves what was meant for the marital bedroom to the street where she may become some man’s fodder [fantasy] for masturbation or an unfulfilling marital relationship.
She may draw an unacceptable-cum-unhealthy interest from her teenage sons whose hormones are racing.
She opens herself up to men who’re only interested in seducing her, using her, and should she suffer a moment of weakness (especially if he’s attractive), or a rough patch in her marriage, she may well succumb to such attention.
She, via such sexiness, can’t truly be sure why a man (suitor?), is drawn to her. In other words, is he drawn to her because of her character, personality, or more her body?
She heightens the interest of predators whose sexual compulsions are naturally attracted to greater sexiness, and thus ups her chances of being assaulted. Though men should never assault sexually, women aren't helping the situation by such sexiness.
She places temptation in the way of married men and indirectly may well aid discontent in their marriages thus doing other woman no favours.
Rather than gaining greater respect from the male kingdom, she decreases such by virtue of the fact that she has lowered herself to a more common denominator — in other words, has become an object, a vehicle for sexual gratification only, and she now a teaser who’ll hardly say “Yes” to every “Please may I?” eye.
She, via such sexiness, appeals to the lower nature rather than the higher nature.
She even runs the risk of her husband becoming overindulgent, sexually distracted and thus less attentive to her as an individual.
Public, daily sexiness is overstimulating males sexually thus leading to both a conscious and subconcious undercurrent of  sexual frustration amongst men.
Women need to remember that men do not see women like women see men.
Men are instantly stirred by any sexual or sexy image which may replay over and over again in their mind.
Men are mentally, emotionally and physically different. And hence not only their greater need of sex, their greater vulnerability to temptation, but why they're more prone to sexual issues.

"It's funny, you know, but a woman in a bikini is effectively a woman in her bra and panties, just different material."
A woman's comment.

Yes, it is funny, isn't it, because if a woman was to walk down the street to the shops in her bra and panties, she would quickly be arrested. But change the material and there wouldn't be any problem.

Bearing sexiness in mind, a slight digression: I was reading a book where it stated that pushup bras make a woman's breasts look like butt. Yes, there's something very unnatural (even fake) about such a look.

"Feminism in its attempt to do away with the sexual double standard between men and women, has made sexiness a desirable trait. In the past, if a woman was called sexy she would have taken it as an insult. Many today accept it as a compliment. The result: women are dressing, acting and talking sexier. This has no doubt helped to open the door for the flood of increasingly explicit and violent pornography that has been sweeping the world, and has also made women more vulnerable."
One truth is, that the more women are objectified via the likes of advertisments say, the more dissatishfied men will become that none really match up to the fantasy they see.
Note the following two excerpts from the article: Gay Marriage, Distant Consequences, by Brian Fitzpatrick:

In Sex and Culture, a study of 86 human civilizations ranging from Rome to Tahiti, J.D. Unwin found that a society’s destiny is tied inseparably to the limits it imposes on sexual expression.

In The American Sex Revolution, Sorokin wrote that “both men and society are degraded” as a culture becomes “sexually obsessed.” “The members of such a society are habituated to look at the opposite sex as a mere instrument for pleasure…to these individuals, talk of human dignity, religious and moral commandments, and rules of decency is just bosh…the society degrades the values of womanhood and manhood, of motherhood and fatherhood, of childhood and venerable age, of marriage and family, and even of love itself.” Divorce, desertion, and deviance become commonplace, when “what used to be considered morally reprehensible is now recommended as a positive value; what was once called demoralization is now styled moral progress and a new freedom.” 

Note the following too, by Ruth Webb:

"Just as the ancient empires of Greece and Rome collapsed when every indulgence of the flesh took over, we in our society today need to heed the warning."

The sexual revolution has discouraged commitment and romance. Males can now get sex without marriage far more easily than they could in times past. They're also feeling able to enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabitation rather than by marriage. And the findings are that cohabitating men tend to be less committed to the relationship.

And here's something else to ponder on:

Firstly, when women display their breasts to any degree, they immediately attract the sexual interest of men, because men are stirred by such, (to surely state the obvious). After all, this is why Playboy magazine first introduced pictures of women baring their breasts, and that being sufficient enough to excite the male viewer.
And so, with this in mind, it might be worth your while dwelling on the following account by a male who was watching the news on TV one evening, where a women, who was attending an Oscar ceremony, was revealing her bountiful breasts to a considerable degree; such seemingly being a case of who can go the furthest these days.

“It was so revealing that I couldn’t help feeling that she might as well bare it all having gone so far — a wide, (almost nipple to nipple), and navel low, rectangle piece of fabric missing, the dress obviously designed that way.
I felt like there was a certain intimacy happening between her and I, because she was revealing so much of her erogenous territory to me, and what surely her husband alone should see, or if single, what only her bedroom mirror should see.
I felt like I was somehow partaking of her sexually, she obviously wanting me to see and enjoy her breasts, and as much of them as possible. Otherwise, why would she be displaying them so? 
I was only allowed to look, not touch, but her sharing such with me, via the TV at that time, drew me into some kind of implied or suggested sexual happening, even permission of some sort, albeit from a distance. At the end of the day, she would surely be aware that her ample revealing was making some kind of statement, and what other statement would it be but a sexual one of some sort, breasts hardly like arms and legs, but also performing a sexual function.
To be honest, I wasn't really paying all that much attention to her, but that frustrating statement she was making.
I hardly knew her, and yet, I was privy, as it were, (right there in my lounge), to a good portion of revealed titillation that can raise a man’s heart rate."

The following, in its context, could be said:  "Femininity is power, sexiness failure."

It's also worth remembering the old saying: "If it's not for sale, take the sign down!"

This article was upgraded 14 December 2018

3.  The Dangers Of Porn:

"There is no protection against the kinds of influences that are loose in a society that tolerates pornography."
Ted Bundy, serial sex murderer.

1) Those grubby images will be forever stored — and once in the head, a plague, resident and usurper in the marital bed.
2) Porn objectifies woman, uses them, and even turns them into prey — men regarding them with less value and respect.
3) It hardens a man’s heart, lessens his tenderness when it comes to sex, and in general.
4) It messes with a man’s head, creates warped views.
5) It drains.
6) It exploits a man’s weaknesses.
7) It causes selfishness.
8) It degrades both those involved and those viewing.
9) What begins with a high, simply ends in negative feelings, as with drugs.
10) Porn results in a pattern of hopeless addiction and escalation, the need for greater stimulus growing. Soft-core becomes hard-core, fantasy becomes a reality must, and hence the escalation in sexual crimes — and how many more Ted Bundys? Such particularly arousing dangerous emotions in the immature, young, disturbed and criminal classes.
11) It creates unfair and unrealistic expectations.
12) It creates sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction.
13) It destroys men, marriages and homes — porn damages trust.
14) It damages one's ability to have a healthy relationship with women in general and a potential partner.
15) It’s sex without intimacy, sex without emotional closeness, and therefore, ultimately creates an emotional distance in relationships. 
16) It leads to men not being able to get aroused by their wife because the brain can’t associate arousal and release with a person anymore. Hence the need to recall those images, the brain having become rewired, its chemistry altered. The visual stimulation of pornography coupled with the secrecy that usually goes with it, is a very powerful  combination, a certain and abnormal high that one can't really achieve when having sex with an actual person. Hence how it makes normal, healthy sexual intimacy seem boring, and even without the secrecy.
17) Porn addicts have to go through the same difficult recovery process that drug addicts go through.
18) It masks needs that should be met through human connections.
19) It can jeopardize one's work, has men constantly replaying those same images throughout the day.
20) It’s mental adultery, unfaithfulness.
21) It dirties manhood.
22) It competes with one’s wife who hasn't a hope of beating the competition.
23) It takes something good and badly sullies it.
24) It effectively turns men into perverts, licentious creeps and peeping toms.
25) It leads to unhealthy masterbation.
26) The porn industry is riddled with disease and corruption — porn is linked to prostitution and sex trafficking.
27) Porn affects one's ability to think and function normally, it causing a shrinkage of those brain regions used for motivation and decision making.
28) It creates a surge of chemicals as destructive to one's health as prolonged adrenalin is.
29) It has men sizing up the body of every passing woman as if she's a piece of meat.
30) It lessens a man's sensitivity to sexual violence against women.
31) It can have men thinking very cruel and violent thoughts regarding what they would actually like to do with women if they could get the chance, such not far removed from those deadful things that were done to women in the Nazi concentration camps. And that's the truth of it, because men who're bad in the first place, become even more so after a diet of porn; and good men can become terribly corrupted.
32) Porn affects society, not just individuals.
33) Porn's fantasy figures make things harder for those women who're not so well endowed and who struggle with low self-esteem already.
34) Porn goes against the biblical “one flesh” principle, violates God's seventh and tenth Commandment, violates the Christian's marital covenant, and the covenant a Christian makes between God and the rightful use of ones eyes.

"Pornography is the theory, and rape is the practice."
Robin Morgan

So how does porn work?

It creates an intense feeling of physical excitement accompanied by guilty feelings given its most unworthy, scandalous nature and shock value; that fusion of feelings and thoughts even akin to feverishness. Hence why it can be draining. When men get inflamed so, it acts like a toxin in their body, thus leading to ill health.
Those pornographic images, scenes, are replayed over and over again, are regularly in ones thoughts, day after day, week after week, year after year, and are even added to via ones imagination.
In time, more daring and disgusting images are needed to get the same rush, the same affect.
a) Those images are taken into the marital bed, and there, ones wife is encouraged to join in acting out those same scenes or that same behaviour, as far as ones wife is willing to oblige, that is.
b) Where ones wife is unwilling to oblige, or where one knows ones wife would be thoroughly disgusted by such, those images, scenes, are replayed in the mind whilst having sex, one even imagining ones wife in the thick of it.
Where a man has no wife, and feels that he has no access to women, obsessive masturbation is the order of the day, which not only can result in possible damage to his organ, but ill health too.
The incendiaryness of porn, especially when it comes to certain people, types, can lead to sexual assaults given how inflamed the mind and body can become — fantasy having to meet its ultimate in reality, porn having created a need that requires urgent and repeated fulfilment and release. And those fantasies, by the way, can be very sick.
For example: A woman, or women, being chained, shackled, or held in certain positions while a man, or men, have their perverted, shocking and violent way — that woman, or those women, forced to accept whatever is done to them, and forced to accept whatever those men want done to them, such being porn's ultimate fantasy, of course, a sex slave. And then comes snuff movies where women are raped and killed.
And hence those accounts on the six o'clock News, (no doubt the tip of an iceberg), about a woman, or women, having being held in dungeons, as it were, some man's basement — and this, I would imagine, where some or many of those missing women have ended up.
After the rush of viewing porn is over, one can be left feeling contaminated, low, drained and guilty.

"I've met a lot of men who were motivated to commit violence just like me. And without exception, without question, every one of them was deeply involved in pornography, deeply consumed by the addiction."
Ted Bundy

"As we have been talking, there are forces at loose in this country, especially this kind of violent pornography, where, on one hand, well-meaning people will condemn the behavior of a Ted Bundy while they’re walking past a magazine rack full of the very kinds of things that send young kids down the road to being Ted Bundys. That’s the irony."
Ted Bundy
Both quotes being from when he was interviewed by James Dobson just before his execution.

In the context of the marital bedroom, sex is a wonderful, enjoyable, magical thing, a special and deep intimacy that two people of the opposite sex only share between them. It’s something that cements their relationship, binding them together with a special cord that’s not meant to be untied, nor marred or slowly shredded by the inappropriate.
But outside the context of the marital bed, and that committed, permanent relationship, (procreation pointing to its seriousness), such sex simply falls into the category of nothing more than irresponsibility, lust, a means to a selfish end; it a drug-like fix, a hollow and even animal act that takes or leaves.
When sex becomes an anytime with anyone you fancy thing, it loses its specialness, its important place and role, even becomes degraded, and nothing more than a momentary physical buzz that thwarts its main intention, and that being, to strengthen a deep, close and enduring relationship that provides security for both the couple and any children that they have.

Check out these porn statistics:


Oh, a note about:
and bearing in mind that a penis is also a urinary track,
that we aren't living in a world that's pure and sterile, free from bacteria or other living microorganisms, and that the genital area can be a hotbed of bacteria:

When oral sex is indulged in
(and more so where there's promiscurity) there’s a risk of:
a) Infections.
b) If the other person is infected with the sexual diseases (STD) Gonorrhoea, Syphilis and Chlamydia, there’s the risk of them transmitting them to the throat; along with HSV which can cause pharyngitis, an inflammation of the throat with ulcer formation.
This information was drawn from www.netdoctor.co.uk which also stated:
“Today’s high rates of oral sex are linked to the rising incidence of throat and mouth cancer.”
That same website also contained this:
According to the American Association for Cancer Research, more than 50 per cent of all oral cancers are now HPV related – though many others are caused by tobacco or alcohol.
This problem is also confirmed in the book "What's Happening To Our Girls?" by Maggie Hamilton.

"Porn is sex's dirty cousin."
The Author

Drawn from various sources.
Upgraded 18 September 2018

This poem has been penned because oral sex has become epidemic amongst
the promiscuous young and is linked to throat and mouth cancer.
See notes under the heading ORAL SEX which are found near the end of the above article.

13.  "I Did Not Have Sexual Relations With That Woman"


Famous words from a past American president, words that were far from true,

And that still aren’t true, ’cause oral sex is sex alright, though not in some girls’ view.
They wanting to remain a virgin whilst meantime yielding to demands, and so
It’s only in their mouth that some boy’s penis is foolishly allowed to go.

They as askew in their thinking as that president looking for some loophole,
One belonging to a world of fantasy and fiction, some burrowing mole.
’Cause whether it be the vagina or mouth, it’s still entering the body,
Erect and with intent, permission having been given, and perilously.


Not only linked to cancer of the mouth and throat, but as sex as sex can be,

And more so, it not just entering, but mouthed too, albeit disgustingly.
No, not too many showers beforehand, not that that necessarily stops
What some poor girl or should-have-known-better woman eventually cops.

And when all is said and done, they hardly virginal, because one thing is clear,
Such girls are indeed having a sexual relationship right then and there.
And thus there goes that special intimacy meant for marriage alone, one boy,
Which, come the right boy, will have robbed those two of a deeper happiness and joy,

A penis a penis, an orifice and orifice 
so, I'd mind that boy.

Surely you get my point, other boys having entered via a different means,
And torn the hymen of her soul, though she could’ve said, “No,” shunned those unzipped jeans.
And now, her future spouse at the end of the cue, her lips having been elsewhere,
She reminded when those same boys pass, who, her name and compliance no doubt share.

By Lance Landall

This poem has been penned because oral sex has become epidemic amongst
the promiscuous young and is linked to throat and mouth cancer.
See notes under the heading ORAL SEX which are found near the end of the article that's just above poem 13.

14.  All's Not Acceptable

No, all’s not acceptable come a couple’s intimacy, sexually,
Despite any contemporary voice that’s saying things to the contrary.
And here I’m referring to oral sex, which no man should demand or expect,
But rather, every woman’s right to be treated honourably, should respect.

The plain truth is, that a man’s penis was meant for one place and one place alone,
Not a woman’s mouth, such acts having more to do with that debased red light zone.
A place where men sink as low as their infamous desires, and where woman lose,
And why anything that’s deviant or born of lust a woman should refuse.

Such practices stem from the mind and not the heart, unless one’s heart is ill too,
For nothing should be used out of order, and nor should sex emulate a zoo.
In other words, it shouldn’t be reduced to an animal act, love elsewhere,
Such being the sad case with oral sex, for each others lips and heart should be near.

In other words, a man should retain his dignity, and also a woman hers,
Their intimacy loving, considerate and noble, lest ill somehow stirs.
And it does where men desire and are granted a lustful opportunity,
One that has more to do with using and abusing — so women, don’t agree!

Yes, for not only is oral sex an unhealthy practice, but degrading,
And why from such the injurious is seen to spring, and with it, trouble bring.
For such has more to do with porn than selfless giving, thought, love and decency,
And thus why it’s risen with the steady decline that’s plaguing society.

By Lance Landall

Funny how the Bible says, “...and let the marriage bed be undefiled...”

4.  On Reducing Rapes

1) Remove pornography — because it leads to addiction, obsession, and violating compulsions that can become uncontrollable.
2) Stop perpetuating the myth that rape is always a power thing — because rape can simply be the result of inflamed desires that eventually won’t take no for an answer. And this being Ted Bundy's own experience, by admission, (he a serial rapist, killer, born in 1946 and executed by electric chair in 1989).
3) Remove both the sexual and violent content so often wed to and so commonly associated with movies and TV programmes — because such has women seen as objects, decreases sensitivity, and also leaves replayed impressions on the mind that can lead to copycat scenarios.
4) Encourage abstinence before marriage and frown on promiscuity — because “boys will be boys” and inevitably pressure their dates, and there’s a fine line between pressure and rape.
5) Remove alcohol from the equation — because:
a) Alcohol affects that area in the brain where judgments are made, and thus has men acting under the influence.
b) There are men who will take advantage of a woman who's under the influence.
6) Help women realize that sexiness is a neon sign which highlights them in the sights of both porn fuelled attackers and outright predators who're even more attracted to such titillation.
7) Help women realise that predators like places where there’s no one about but their intended victim, and they also prefer the cover of darkness.
8) Help women realise that though their body is theirs, and that though they’ve a right to wear what they like, that prudence is a good friend, one that can spare them unnecessary pain and suffering.
9) Help women realise that when they’re dating that such is wiser done where others aren’t far away.
10) Help women realise that it's somewhat hypocritical to protest over "violence to women" whilst watching such on TV or in the movies, much of it where there's also sexual content, be it wed to that violence or not.
11) Help the women who're involved in the porn industry, and those related Hollywood movies, realise the explosiveness of what they're doing, and that they must take some responsibility for the consequences.
12) Help women to realise that two realities are:
a) That the looser they are, the less men will respect their wishes, because men will assume that they're not as concerned about things.
b) That some men who get fired up over what they perceive as teasing, think that such teasers need to be taught a lesson, hence their offending.
13) Shift the focus from blaming men to helping men.
14) Realise that rape is not going to go away given the kind of world that we're living in, and therefore, that following these points or rules that I've placed here, is the only way to at least cut rapes back.
Educating people is all very well, (as I'm trying to do here), but education isn't a magic wand, and changed hearts and minds being the only real answer, which, though such is occuring in the lives of many, it clearly won't occur in the lives of all.
Yes, there's no excuse for rapes, but there are reasons why they're occuring, and it's those reasons that need addressing.

Upgraded 27 April 2017

5.  Breast Implants

What your plastic surgeon is hardly likely to tell you, or will downplay:
Silicone implants are one of the most dangerous things that you can have placed in your body.

Remember this: That there's a lot of people getting a lot of money out of this. We're effectively looking at another tobacco scenario.

Yes, so much could be said about the dangers of breast implants, but for brevity sake:

When it comes to ones body, implants are an unnecessary FOREIGN OBJECT and ones body will invariably react to such — and I meaning, in very negative ways. To put it another way: One's body will always treat breast implants as an enemy.

But breast implants, in themselves, are actually a very dangerous form of cosmetic surgery, and a very costly long term thing to embark on. It should also be noted that it is harder to breast feed as a result, and that it's also harder to detect breast cancer as a result, and that the implants may rupture from the pressure of mammograms.

A woman will face multiple operations, (and thus more scarring), given that the implants have a limited lifespan, (10-15 years), and therefore need to be replaced every so often. Meantime, it is very common for them to rupture and the silicon within can migrate leading to very serious health issues. Such silicon has been found in the brain, spinal fluid, ovaries, liver and other organs. The sad thing is that women aren’t always aware that their implants have ruptured, such meantime injuring without them knowing. And this being why women with implants have to mind any external pressures that might be applied to their chest lest their implants rupture either immediately or with time.
A study found that even among those women who had never complained of any perceived trouble with their breast implants, MRI scans showed that two thirds of them had ruptured implants on at least one side.
Because women can't always be sure whether their implants have ruptured or not, such is an argument, I guess, for  regular replacement even where everything seems fine. One woman may get a good distance, 20 years maybe, without any apparent problems. Another woman might have a rupture within five years or less, or other problems. Complications are known to become more and more common for each year that the implants spend in a woman's body.

As a result of breast implants, women can suffer from chronic breast pain and breast and nipple numbness.

When breast implants are removed and not inserted again, for whatever reason, a woman’s breasts will be all the worse for the trouble, the breasts having been bruised, knocked about and stretched via the pressure and weight of the implants and any ongoing surgery that occurred. The larger those implants get each time, (as a woman may desire, and having stretched more), the worse they make the situation. When a woman falls pregnant, and her breasts fill, they can look as if they're about to burst. After all, there's hardly any room for the milk given that the implants have effectively removed the breasts ability to naturally stretch? All this also adds to the general stretching I've mentioned, let alone any unnatural look. And by the way, when a woman with implants is in a bikini, such are easier to spot given that such breasts oft present themselves differently, less naturally, even oddly.
And a woman's breasts that are fitted with implants will not feel the same as natural breasts, but harder, and more so when she's lying down given that that is when the breasts normally flatten out, so to speak, and which those implants can't the same.
Reconstruction surgery also leaves its negatives. And there can be a loss of breast tissue leaving a woman worse off than she was before she embarked on implants.

There is also the possibility of medical complications.

Scar tissue will form with its own set of problems, let alone any pain. This is called capsular contracture. As a result the implants can  harden and thus their shape alter for the worse.

Bacteria and mold can not only be present in the implants but be released from the implants into ones body causing serious infection.

Ruptured and leaking breast implants can cause a host of auto-immune diseases.

Yes, here's a few more things that can happen after having implants inserted:
Fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, scleroderma, multiple chemical sensitivity disorder, biotoxicity problems, muscle pain, swollen glands or lymph nodes, unexplained fatigue, hair loss, etc.

Breast implants, otherwise known as silicone implants, are very prone to the leakage of cancer causing neurotoxic agents.
Here is what I understand is found in silicon breast implants:

Methyl Ethyl Ketone
Isopropyl Alcohol
Denatured Alcohol
Urethane7 Polyvinyl Chloride (Liquid Vinyl).
Lacquer Thinner
Ethyl Acetate
Epoxy Rexin
Epoxy Hardener 
Printing Ink
Dichloromethan (Methylene Chloride) 
Metal Cleaning Acid
Lofol (Formaldehyde)
Talcum Powder
Color Pigments as Release agents
Oakite (Cleaning Solvent)
Eastman 910 Glue (Cyanoacyrylates)
Ethylene Oxide (ETO)
Cabob Black
Hexanone 2
Acid Stearic
Zinc Oxide
Naptha (Rubber Solvent)
Benzene-Known Carcinogen

And this why many women have become very ill, have even died, for all I know.
Women with implants can pass these toxic chemicals onto their baby when they’re breast feeding.
Saline implants are no better given that they still have a silicone shell and also have their own issues, valve and deflation problems among them.
And as for Gummy Bear implants — cohesive silicone implants — they're no more safer to ones body than any other type. Those chemicals that make up the implant will leech out over time whether there's a rupture or not, aided and abetted by body temperature, movement-cum-rubbing, etc, etc.
A note about rubbing: It needs to be remembered that silicone implants are a free capsule. They're not attached to the inside of the breast in some way, and therefore, they're able to move, hence the rubbing.

The truth is, that there are, and is going to be, a host of women out there with disfigured breasts and terrible health problems. It’s just not worth it. Better small, soft, warm, natural and healthy, better a women be herself and not something that she really isn’t. At the end of the day, breast implants are really just fooling folk. They're not the real deal.

"Breast implants in France will now carry a warning after France's National Cancer Institute found a clear link between silicone implants and anaplastic large cell lymphoma (ALCL)."
News release from the Ministry of Social Affairs, Health and Women's Rights (ANSM), France.

And something else that women need to remember is, that it's harder to live with the loss of their implants, (where removed), than it was to live with their smallness.
And the crazy thing about all this is, that many women who're dissatishfied don't have anything to be dissatishfied with at all. It's a bit like someone not being happy with their lovely two bedroom house and going all out to get a four bedroom house, but at greater costs and with the potential for things to badly unravel.
Oh, movies, TV and certain magazines have a lot to answer for. Yes, fantasy figures for a fantasy world.

You might like to read the following books:
The Naked Truth About Breast Implants by Dr. Susan Kolb M D. F.A.C.S.A.B.L.H.M
Breast Implants — Everything You Need To Know by Nancy Bruning.

According to New Zealand's TV3 six o'clock news, 28 August 2017: So far, (as of this date), five women have died in Australia, and three in New Zealand, from cancer linked to breast implants.

Upgraded 28 August 2016

6.  Men And Women, Their Differences

Taken from the book True Sexuality by Ken Unger

Being a man or a woman constitutes a different way of expressing the humanity that both share equally.
The average man is taller than the average woman.
The male skeleton is usually stronger than the woman’s. The bones are thicker and heavier. The greater strength of its bone structure obviously equips the man’s body better than the woman’s to overcome physical obstacles and to carry loads. The man has greater steadiness, strength and stress resistance due to his stronger bones. The man’s hand is stronger and bonier pointing to the fact that the man is built to control the environment practically and creatively, whereas the softer daintier woman’s hand is more suited to taking in hand the environment and looking after and caring for it protectively. A man’s bones are more angular, more rugged in shape, while the woman’s have rounder, less sharply marked forms and blunter corners. Woman’s bones are not merely finer, thinner and more graceful, but also softer, rounder and less rugged in shape. The more angular shape of the male body is more fitted for resistance, assaults and pushing than the rounder female body.
The striated muscles in men are more strongly developed and constructed than women’s. They serve above all for dealing with external obstacles. Wherever we manipulate, model or effect the environment, the striated muscles come into action. The man’s superior equipment in this respect and his stronger bone structure indicate that by nature the male rather than the female is designed to overcome external environmental obstacles, to reshape and master the environment. The woman is also naturally active, and is particularly concerned with things in her immediate environment. But her activity does not involve her much in pushing forward and overcoming external obstacles, so much as in caring and nursing, in sorting, tidying and polishing. A woman’s muscles are particularly suited to their tasks. They are by nature less suited to strong contractions than to active compliance at the right moment.
The suitability of women’s muscles to their tasks matches a similar capability of women in the psychological realm. The woman’s psyche, just like her muscles, can adapt very rapidly to every internal and external change. The average woman adjusts mentally and physiologically to external circumstances with versatility and adaptability.
The relative lack of muscle in women, which incidentally is not culturally conditioned but is the result of hormonal differences, is compensated for by more fat. As a result of this, and the shape of the bones already mentioned, the woman’s body is rounder and the mans more angular. We may sum up by saying that the man’s bodily frame is fitted for remodelling the environment, while the woman’s bodily shape expresses her greater gifts in arranging and caring for a circumscribed world of the nearest and most intimate things.
A woman’s skin is much softer, more tender, and smoother than a man’s, giving greater sensitivity. Women are therefore more aware of the pleasures of touch. This greater sensitivity of the skin matches the greater sensitivity of women in the psychological realm, their ability to approach matters carefully, their greater adaptability and sympathy, their capacity to give and take and to go along with situations; whereas the man tends to try to alter reality by changing it.
A woman, in contrast with all highly developed animals, has the appearance of motherhood without being or becoming a mother. This fact shows that the woman is built for motherhood as the goal and fulfilment of her being. The capacity for natural motherhood matches the motherliness in a woman’s psychological make-up, which may be developed even if biological motherhood is denied her.
The sexual organs serve the purpose of procreation and the establishment of new life. They thereby point to the man’s natural function of begetting and the woman’s of bearing. They also point to the man’s appointment to fatherhood and the woman’s to motherhood. The design of the sexual organs has as its consequence that the man as begetter in the act of intercourse is the active, giving and life-creating party, while the woman as bearer is the passive, receiving and life-sustaining party. Female passivity, male activity, female letting-it-happen, male effecting it, female receiving, male outpouring, female being found, male seeking and acquiring characterize the physical interaction of sexual intercourse. While the man has the more leading role and makes the ultimate decision if and when the union takes place, the behaviour of the woman is that of loving subjection, which she fulfils through the offering of her body. The woman’s resting egg is penetrated by the male sperm, awakening and bringing it into development. While a man simply becomes a father through begetting, conception is for the woman only the beginning of a period of far-reaching burdens and demands. The physical contribution of the man is thus fleeting in comparison with the bodily processes which the woman undertakes in motherhood. While a man is more strongly equipped for creative or destructive remodelling of his environment, the woman is more strongly equipped for arranging what the man has acquired for her or she has received from him.
A man’s life is characterized more by spontaneity than a woman’s: a woman’s life is characterized more by receptivity than a man’s. Among examples of man’s grater spontaneity one may cite his greater drive, greater aggressiveness, greater desire for leadership [dominance] and his particular capacity for creative achievements in all fields of intellectual life, a sort of intellectual procreative ability and analogous to his biological procreativity.
Women have verbal superiority [linguistic, articulation, fluency, relating]. Men have spatial conceptualization superiority [technical, mathematical, scientific, industrial, discovery, inventing, philosophy, art, musical composition] and abstract thinking [chess]. The most brilliant achievements in the realms of philosophy, art, and musical composition and the pioneering discoveries in modern science are overwhelmingly the work of men. Invention is also predominantly a male preserve. Man is well known in his thinking to be the more creative, the woman is known to be more receptive when it comes to thought. This is confirmed by aptitude tests which have shown male superiority when it comes to comprehension and reasoning, while women excel in all rote-learning tasks.
Regarding total intelligence the sexes are not really different.
Women are more holistic, more dominated by their feelings and more emotional. She is in less danger than a man is of isolating her soul from her body or her thinking from her feelings. A woman has a more developed relationship to the world of persons, a greater readiness to submit to the leadership of others [to serve, to give others help and support when they are in trouble] and a greater sociability [the tendency to seek the company of others and take pleasure in it]. Man has a more developed relationship to the world of things, is more eccentric and his thinking is more strongly directed toward the conceptual and general. For men this carries the danger that their reflection may become autonomous and cut off from the real world. The greater receptivity of women is seen in her greater ability and willingness to imitate, her greater adaptability and suggestibility, her greater linguistic aptitude and her superior capacity to sympathize, which rests on their greater sensitivity to people’s expression of feeling.
Whereas male cells contain a Y-chromosome and an X-chromosome, female cells have two X-chromosomes. This difference involves all the cells of the organism; probably the real personal differences between the sexes are determined by this. Sexuality affects the whole of a person’s body and not only a part. It is also evident in different hormone levels, in the different constitution of the blood and bodily liquids, of the nervous system, of internal organs and brain structure.
Every person possesses to a certain extent sexually specific characteristics of the other sex. This goes for biological as well as intellectual and psychological aspects. So in this way there is neither a total man nor a total woman.

This article is repeated in my Christian section.

You might like to read the book Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps. Though not endorsing everything within this book, it does bear out (in its own way) much of what Ken Unger has conveyed.

15.  Men And Women

Though the likes of feminists would have us think otherwise, it’s painfully clear
That men and women are totally different, and designed for their own sphere.
One’s makeup needing to be to deal with pregnancy, for example, and thus,
Women designed for motherhood, and men for fatherhood — forget all the fuss.

As hard as they may try, women can’t be dads, and men can’t be mums, and therefore,
Kids needing to see that balance operating in their lives — it at the core,
Yes, just like that axle from which bike spokes spread, both mum and dad acting as one,
Yet each having their own roles, differently relating to daughter and son.

Femininity and masculinity aren’t accidents, but meant to be,
And all why in all our comings and goings that distinctiveness we should see.
Men acting like men, women like women, hence those knights and damsels in distress,
It not just fairytale stuff, nor cultural, but the truth, that sigh and caress.

A man’s natural instinct being to protect, a woman’s to seek help, which
(Given those children of hers), is thrown into chaos when those roles we switch.
Men stronger by design, testosterone propelled, made more for the rough and tough,
And why it all falls down when women wear the pants, throw their weight around, talk gruff.

The genders are enhanced by certain associations, their own spotlights, say,
All why when the roles are somehow reversed, something special is taken away.
And men all the less for it, women too, and why confusion’s reigning today,
Modern Eves reaching for apples too, which deep within them, have seeds of decay.

Men needing that pride that comes from their manly role, or less concerned they’ll be,
That “Women can do anything a man can” eating away destructively.
Men hit where it hurts, less sensitive to women as a result, and smarting,
Hence why many lash out, and from that dysfunctional home setting are departing.

There’s no point in fighting Nature, another word for creation, some would say,
That God-ordained design and order, which, with the fall of man, soon went astray.
And thus many kids no longer raised within that order and security,
But latchkey kids, fatherless kids, two mum or two dad kids, which shouldn’t be.

So, for all the social engineering, we’re no better off, but in a mess,
More break-ups, domestic violence, sexual assaults — and more to come, I guess.
Yes, things can hardly get better, because the path we’ve taken can’t improve things,
(As is seen), ’cause it argues with Nature, and a selfish, discordant song sings.

The truth is, everything comes down to love, and love’s not one to force its way,
Nor God, for that matter, who never made robots, Eve choosing to disobey.
That tree a test of loyalty given that sin had entered via an angel,
One who also argued with the order of things, and then became a devil.

When a man comes home from work, gets kissed at the door, and his meal’s on the table,
And his wife’s looking nice, that’s not corny, but a home that’s more likely stable.
Things got on top of, house bright, school kids having had time with mum, she more refreshed,
That frazzled, working mum and dad rushing home scene, a regret too oft confessed.

How glad my kids were of such a home, their latchkey friends looking on longingly,
Or getting into trouble, and a home dad not sitting as comfortably.
Men more designed for outdoors, and women for indoors, though such to be chosen,
Not forced upon a woman, because that’s how a warm love soon becomes frozen.

And these days many women needing that outside job, hence those centres for kids
Missing their homely, motherly affection midst all the other neglected heads.
Those precious, tender years together lost forever, ill feeling underneath,
(A known fact), which the modern life, or ambitious wife, is seen to bequeath.

Some call it traditional, others creational, but one thing’s very clear,
Men and women are in fact different, and operate best in their own sphere.
Submission to some, complimentary to others, couples halves of a whole,
Equal in worth and being, and just like in the workplace, naught wrong with some role.

Hence managers and assistant managers, both playing an important part,
Neither lesser or greater, and work well where there’s no murmurings in the heart.
Lucifer wanting to be like God, but just ending up lesser than before,
Discontent the cause of many ills, all why we should mind what’s kicked out the door.

If oft hard to tell men and women apart these days, they seeming to dress the same,
And act the same, which is how that confused state in the home and workplace became.
People suddenly “enlightened,” yet the darkness greater out there, and why’s seen,
Less joy and more misery, a man no longer a king, nor woman a queen.

By Lance Landall

7.  As I Believe It

Contains a couple of Christian thoughts and is best read after the article above.

Males have always been the dominant sex, and always will be, and this having everything to do with Nature and not nurture or culture, but it all to do with those aspects unique to, and clearly apparent in, each sex.

Men testosterone driven, women oestrogen bound.
So, men and women were clearly designed to compliment each other, man being the protector of the woman’s well-being and having both her and her children’s best interests at heart, and she responding to his manly loving care with a willing acceptance that works in harmony with that mutually benefiting path, of which, both fatherliness and motherliness are a part. It all a natural, holistic, balanced, happy scene. 
I personally find it intriguing how Nature concurs with the Bible and the Bible concurs with Nature. Surely that’s telling us something. Women are the weaker sex, the apostle Peter says (1 Peter 3:7), though not derogatorily so, but only in the context that women are somewhat dependent on that more stable, ironclad and shouldering masculinity that gives man his appeal — women more geared for raising children (lovingly sensitive), they more vulnerable by nature, less robust physically, more temperamental, all things nice like sugar and spice, and therefore needing to be tenderly looked after (child bearers especially needing support and security).
Hence why men are instinctively drawn to that damsel in distress.
I personally would have used the word "gentler" rather than "weaker."
However, despite that
more stable, ironclad, and shouldering masculinity, there's certainly a degree of truth to the old saying: "Women can live without men, but men can't live without women. This showing just how important women are, and hence that other saying: "Behind every great man is a great woman."
But getting back to what I was saying, this being why the Bible instructs men to love their wives like Christ loved the Church — with doting care; the dying Christ telling the apostle John to look after His mother for Him.
However, all this falls down when a man loses his nobility and goes from guider, lover and protector, to user, abuser and attacker.
Traditionally, and by nature again, women have always desired that chivalrous, noble, rescuing knight in shiny armour who battles against ill, but alas, that knight has become but a shadow of his former self, his helmet missing, his armour battered, his sword blunted, his horse having bolted, and he too concussed to know what’s hit him.
Sadly, it’s all looking pretty pessimistic, but any change only coming via a return to the original blueprint that saw men and women working harmoniously in a complimentary way, both having their own sphere and functions, it all clear, in sync, and amicable.
So how’s it all gone wrong?
Well, various forces have clearly been at work here, and among them:
1) The corruption of a man’s mind and feelings via the likes of pornography, debasing material (watched or read) that soon has women seen as playthings, objects, something more to be used than valued, and thus loving care retreating from the scene, a man’s heart becoming harder, desensitised, even cruel and evil.
War, oppression, greed, filthy lucre and selfish ambition have also hardened man.
2) The feministic belittling of men and their undermining of the sexes complementary roles and functions,  a man less valued now too, he simply a means to an end, perhaps; women supposedly now able to do anything a man can do, such stripping him of that mystery unique to manhood that makes him what, who and how he is, just as that mystery unique to womanhood makes her what, who and how she is.
3) Women have largely forsaken the love of home and children in order to reach the shallow pinnacles of ambition (the age old lie of greater heights), in order to build nothing more than sandcastles, and women have exchanged their natural feminine ways, talents (and even dress) for that cut and thrust of the CEO table, that rawness and raunchiness that was once the sole domain of the red-light district, or the result of intoxication, and for that errant macho behaviour that has more to do with immaturity than masculinity.
Yes, women cussing, swearing, boozing, ranting, wearing the pants or next to nothing, they acting just as embarrassingly horny, as disgracefully crude, and as childishly cocky, and they toting guns, driving big rigs, boxing, or grappling on the muddy, bloodied rugby field — yes, of course they can do the latter too, but it all a big turn off rather than a turn on, like those black and blue tattoos that now deface their gorgeous bodies too, and health problems that once stalked men now stalking them.
"Where are you, Mummy?"
"I'm under the car getting the %$@*# sump off. Tell Daddy to pour me a beer, will you."
No, it somehow just doesn't gel with Nature. Men for the rough and tough, women for the soft and tender.
Can't men be left with something that makes them feel they're men? Young boys wanting to be like their big rig handling dad. Hardly like their big rig handling pistol packing mama.
Men have always felt more manly doing those things that are more associated with masculinity.
Just as the more a woman exhibits herself sexually the more men will be attracted to her sexually (and therein lies potential trouble), so too the more feminine a woman is (both in dress and manner) the more men will be attracted to her greater difference from them. Just like good people stand out from the crowd these days. Crass people being two a penny.
But, sadly so, Maid Marion is just as soiled now (partly thanks to that macho girl power thing), the drawbridge is down, the guards have been drugged, the castle's been broken into, the king's been removed, and an impostor's flag is dancing in the ill wind, it surrounded by laughing gargoyles, eye-picking crows and commandeered cannons.

And so it goes, has gone, hence why we now see effeminate men and masculine women, disturbing look-alikes, both an insult to their sex and a confusion in the minds of young children given that the complimentary role models have degenerated into an empty farce
that’s if both are around, of course, mum doing what dad always did, dad doing what mum always did — and as for Gay marriages and adoptions — yes, it’s all a politically correct mess, a denial of what’s really right, and what really works best.
Yes, so much for snips and snails and puppy dog tails. Women toughing it out with the boys, giving back as good as they wrongly get, and barking orders just as loud. And no wonder many aren't worried about their figures the same.

And the result?
A far worse world for both women and children, less loving concern and respect on both sides of the gender fence, and cause for greater fear; men corrupted, their image distorted, their honour in tatters, their natural functioning hampered, and they feeling threatened and angry; their birthright stolen
enter domestic abuse, unfaithfulness, rape, depression and a self-destructing society that has little to be proud of and much to hang its head over.
And much damage (to both men and women) courtesy of feminism; mistreated women having thrown the baby out with the bathwater.
The truth is, there’ll always be bad men just like there’ll always be bad women.
Feminism’s no more the answer to the so-called battle of the sexes than nuclear arms are the answer to restoring peace and harmony in the world.
Once women could wrap a man around their little finger with their feminine charms (appealing to his heart). Now they’ve gone for sex, it seems (appealing to his loins), a sure sign of failure, and an even greater stumbling block for men.

Upgraded 15 October 2019

16.  Housewives And Working Dads

Though my mum was a stay-at-home mum, often found in the kitchen and laundry,
And seen knitting and sewing midst raising us all, or scrubbing vigorously,
I never thought of her as being any less than my dad, and, I must say,
Applaud what she achieved via her choice, ’cause we’re all the better for it today.

Oh yes, her contribution great, she no slave, servant, housemaid, nor forced-to wife,
But one my dad called “Tops,” ’cause that’s how much he thought of her (married all their life).
She considered his equal in worth and being, yet washing those pots and pans,
And happy to do so, equality not having been removed from her hands.

Dad a labourer, always busy, garden full, thus having less time for us,
But mum there, and we needed her — yes, those listening ears, that after school fuss.
And both mum and dad in harmony come those principled foundations one needs,
That ensure right behaviour, and that spares or saves the child who such wisdom heeds.

No, those differing roles not shouting anything about inequality,
Both grateful for each other’s efforts, not wanting things any differently.
Mum not ambitious, nor Dad pushing her, though struggle somewhat they did, but blest,
And we not really going without things, mum and dad always doing their best.

Well, for some people it hasn’t been like this, their dad a tyrant, mum abused
(They too?), hence those rants against men, and why that setting in itself is refused,
When it’s a man problem, not a setting problem, ’cause that setting works well elsewhere,
As it did in my parent’s case, yet, “Don’t go near that setting,” some people sneer.

We don’t do away with schools ’cause of errant teachers, such hardly making sense,
Nor dismantle the marital institution ’cause of some callous offence,
But rather, we deal with the errant teacher or spouse, thus acting sensibly,
Just as naughty children aren’t a reason for saying “No” to a family.

Even those traditional roles aren’t the problem, but the abuse of them, so
It more about education — yes, that loving thought and care that all should know.
At the end of the day, there’ll always be abusers, such but life on Earth,
And this being why that necessary education should begin at birth.

By Lance Landall

17.  When's A Woman Not A Woman?

I would mind that “girl power” thing, and that “girls can do anything” thing as well,
’Cause it’s that damsel in distress that stirs the knight in any man, and his skill.
The gentler sex attracting, not women who can look after themselves, thank you,
They seemingly not in need of what any chivalrous man would think to do.

And therefore, out with Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White and Repunzel,
And those princes too, because its hands on the hips now and a glare that can chill.
“How dare you insult us!” As if we can’t take care of ourselves!” Yet come some threat,
Aren’t they glad there’s men around, and all the more so if they’re brave, tall and thickest.

Well, women can’t have it both ways, not if they want to be as rough and tough, and
Giving as good as they shouldn’t get, the kind of women that most men can’t stand.
They either damsels or not, looking for some knight or guarding their own castle,
Just as intriguing and beguiling as ever, or no longer casting that spell.

So, when’s a woman not a woman? When she’s speaking and acting like a man,
When she’s out of sync with femininity, those gentler ways and Nature’s plan.
When she’s competing rather than complimenting, when she’s just as loud and mean,
When she dumps those happy-ever-after stories that no longer fit the scene.

And then you just have a nightmare, a kind of Jeckle and Hyde scenario,
A planet where there’s confusion, a kind of updated Rocky horror show.
No soft lights and candlelit dinners, no kneeling to say, “Will you marry me?”
It every man and woman for themselves, a Darwinian society.

By Lance Landall

18.  Amazon Women Belong In The Amazon

If you don’t act like a woman, why would you expect to be treated like one,
Yelling offensively, giving the fingers, and why one man up and thumped one.
“How dare he hit a woman!” she cried, “What a coward!” and I shaking my head,
And thinking, women just don’t get it, ’cause after all, she’d just made him see red.

She had come up behind him tooting and flashing her lights, gesturing wildly,
Then he was overtaken, she leaning out the window acting as badly.
And once past, she throwing nails in front of his vehicle, incredulously,
And then at stop lights, she got out and leaned against her side door defiantly.

He slowly walked towards her and thumped her in the face — yes, no surprises there,
And as he walked back, her just-as-bad driver reversed at him, intentions clear.
Then off they went, he still behind them, this time she throwing a chisel; then came court,
And that “How dare he hit a woman!” when on herself, the whole thing she had brought.

His car window shattered, I must add.

She acting like a rude, macho lout, dangerously and irresponsibly,
A baby in the car too, the female driver acting just as shockingly.
That man not seeing a woman but a threat, adrenaline pumping within,
He riled by being made a target, his manhood as if kicked hard in the shin.

If men shouldn’t hit women, why would that be, given that no one should be hit,
Unless women are more tender, fragile creatures, which in this case didn’t fit.
She hardly acting like someone deserving of manly protection, love and care,
But a woman who thought she could take care of herself, thank you, and hence her sneer.

Yes, such behaviour hardly brings out the best in men, but makes their heart go cold,
They seeing no reason for special treatment, she as rough, tough, fiery and bold.
No femininity present, just a competitor, confused image, which
From a protective, chivalrous knight to an angry beast sees such a man switch.

Yes, he goaded by that macho “Come on” stance, hence why I feel compelled to say,
If such women want to act like men, they should be prepared to take it like men, ay.
And if they aren’t prepared to, they shouldn’t play with fire, and should act their age too,
’Cause Amazon women belong in the Amazon, just like chimps belong in the zoo.

Rightly or wrongly, she simply got what she deserved, her behaviour shocking,
And this why we all should listen to both sides of a story before knocking.
He vilified by the snapshot that caught his punch, there far more to the story
(As there usually is), and the judge seeing that, acting accordingly.

She acting outside of the law, insulting and challenging someone’s manhood,
Putting other road users at risk, including that man’s life, and there she stood,
Saying, “I want people to know I’m not a bad person,” and my head shaking,
’Cause such is not a path that someone truly good is going to be taking.

Some women want it both ways, they wanting to be treated like ladies, and yet,
They acting as bad as renegade men, and no wonder why trouble they get.
Men deserving it too when they err as he did, but she the cause of it all,
And thus her punishment being greater than his, the judge making the right call.

Oh, how deluded we often are, her act revealing her true condition,
And that she shouldn’t have behaved so, being her only grudging admission.
His life turned upside down, and she having no right to turn it upside down, yet,
Still wanting sympathy, and why from many people, sympathy she won’t get.

Once such wasn’t the way of women, but something’s changed that, and hence why we see
Females who’re a turn off, anything but a picture of femininity.
Or a Jekyll and Hyde scenario, one minute sweet, one minute crazy,
Hence why many men don’t treat them with the same thought and care, understandably.

By Lance Landall

19.  Wonder Woman

Wonder Woman flies in the face of a man’s protectiveness, and to be frank,
She’s just another thug, whilst somewhat acting as if equal to God in rank.
Her supernatural powers (like those of Superman and Spiderman too),
Still resorting to very earthly means, that smashing and bashing that’s askew.

Yes, she’s just another violent offender — though here, in heroine guise,
Her same “End justifies the means” approach perpetuating the same old lies.
She needing no man to lovingly watch over her (like a good husband would),
But more than capable of thumping too, not that such is what anyone should.

Yes, all those Hollywood heroes are the same, very bad role models indeed,
’Cause within the hearts and minds of youngsters, they sow that same “Give it to ’em” seed.
And with it, a certain sexuality, that sex and violence fusion,
That rather than ennobles, simply fights fire with fire, and causes confusion.

It all seemingly designed to corrupt — fists, guns and zapping part of the scene,
Bad eggs aplenty, and a woman bashing men not something that should be seen.
Such simply demeaning men again, something that Hollywood’s very good at,
Men made to look like the usual villains, sexual predator or prat.

And so, who needs a Superman if there’s a Wonder Woman, though both askew,
And Wonder Woman a masculine, feminine combination, in my view.
And thus hardly appealing to any tenderness that resides within me
And governs my thoughts and actions where women are concerned, like I feel should be.

It’s my belief that underneath, most women want to be watched over, cared for,
But Wonder Woman needing none of that, and acting as if above the law.
She personifying that “A woman can do anything a man can” thing,
Which, in the hearts of  “Let me help you, Dear” men, hasn’t that buoying “Need you” ring.

It all seeming rather sad to me, woman power not in rants, guns or brawn,
But in their opposite abilities, those feminine wiles with which they’re born.
And also in their ability to say “No,” lest a fatherless kid result,
’Cause though men should be held accountable, one would think everything’s their fault.

No, Wonder Woman hardly doing it for me, but that damsel in distress, who
Knights in shining armour love to rescue — and yes, her best interests pursue.
Too many women busy tipping things upside down because of those bad men,
Which doesn’t work (hearts and minds not changed), and why the same old ill occurs again.

By Lance Landall

 You might like to also read this:

Ex-escort Says Women To Blame For Lack Of Good Men

She’s the former Aussie escort who famously spoke out about bedding 10,000 men, and now Gwyneth Montenegro has controversially claimed there’s a severe lack of decent men out there – and it’s due to women being too “militant”.
Melbourne-based Gywneth claims to have surveyed 60,000 women in an attempt to identify relationship profiles.
Gwyneth says her research shows profiles have changed significantly in recent years, with the most common male profiles revealing “a degree of displeasure or resentment toward women”.
And the former sex worker claims women are partly responsible for this.
"We’ve used female rights to ambush and complain instead of to negotiate and to talk,” she told the Daily Mail.
Gwyneth insists she’s a feminist, but also says that “feminism has its place”, and claims men nowadays are left “wondering why there’s so much hatred” towards them.
“We loudly picket and demand if we don’t get our way," she explained.
“We live in a world where it’s common place for women to cry rape in order to get back at a man.”
Gwyneth, who worked in the sex industry for 12 years and used to charge up to $1000 an hour for her services, says in her experience, men just want a woman they can love and protect
These days, Gwyneth is now trained in neuro-linguistic programming which helps people with personal development, and says men are too scared to be chivalrous for fear of abuse.
“I don’t want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this,” she told news.com.au earlier this year.
“However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated. They don’t know ‘should I open the door? Will I get yelled at?’”
 By Allison Yee, Yahoo news article, July 2017.

20.  Dear Feminist

Dear feminist, I’m guessing that you’ve had a bad run with men — well, certain men,
A father, husband, or just a rum lot, and hence why I have picked up my pen.
And the main reason being, that though I can understand any inner rage,
It’s really a pointless and hypocritical war that many of you wage.

The truth is, there are men out there who have suffered at the hands of women too,
And yet, most kind of taking it on the chin, despite relationships that they rue.
And women in general not making it easy for men, ’cause how they tease,
Driving men crazy with their sexiness, women not seeing for their own trees,

And they wonder why they’re objectified, objectifying coming with ease.

Yes, there’s rude women, nasty women, cold women, cruel women, loose women too,
And many treating men poorly, and there’s those mothers whose behaviour’s askew.
All why you should mind when you point the finger at men, many of them noble,
And yet, many of you taking them down, hence why your rants don’t altogether gel.

Enter that phrase “the other woman,” and sex being a man’s Achilles heel,
Many women using sex, or they starring in porn, hence how from wives they steal.
And so many women nagging and belittling men into relationships,
So how about some fairness, ’cause men too, could spend time on pity party trips.

I’m not meaning to be harsh, but just straight and honest, fault lying on both sides,
Humanity the problem, that sad fallenness that within us all resides.
Nothing gained by blaming things on men, nor women, but by changing hearts and minds,
Which we achieve by breaking down barriers, and not by forming sexist lines.

By Lance Landall

Some Things Feminists Have Told Us:

That women can do anything a man can.

Well, men always knew that, but prefer women to be women because that’s what they’re attracted to. And I don’t think many women would be that interested in dealing with waste, fixing sewer pipes, digging drains and so on, nor thrilled about opening doors for men instead.

That women can burn their bras.

Well, that’s up to them, but premature sagging is hardly to their advantage.

That women don’t need a man.

Well, try telling that to the vast majority of women who still desire otherwise.

That women can go out to work and leave their husbands at home to look after the kids, do the washing and housework.

Well, they can if they’re happy with a New Age man who doesn’t fit the manly image of protector, provider, load-bearer, handyman, and knight in shining armour who comes home to his princess after the stroke inducing stress of heated boardroom exchanges, demanding bosses, riled clients, deadlines to meet, boring, repetitious routines, overtime, and little if any thanks.

That women have as much right to wear as little as they want.

Well, be that true, say, such women have simply opened themselves up to being lecherously leered at, sexually pursued, stalked and objectified all the more.

That’s God’s a female.

Well, when His Son was on Earth, everyone saw that He was a man, and He said that anyone who’d seem Him had seen His Father, and that the Lord’s prayer begins with, “Our Father who art in Heaven.”

21.  Woman, Hold Your Head High!

Any person or organisation viewing women in a lesser light,
Rather than equal with men in worth and being, and just as clever and bright,
Is living in a draconian world that knows nothing of reality,
And indulging in territory akin to prejudice and bigotry.

Though men and women may vary in roles (looking at things realistically,
Given women make better mothers, and men make better fathers, quite clearly),
Neither one is beneath or above the other in any form or degree,
Just like housewives are no lesser than business women, but choosing differently.

Yes, men and women are different, there’s no mistaking that, but though that be,
Such has nothing to do with value, each human being a priceless ruby.
And those differences designed to compliment, not compete, nor disparage,
Both working together for the betterment of each, like a horse and carriage.

It’s like with machinery, different cogs but each needed, necessary,
Thus men and women all the lesser without each other — shot, actually.
Roles simply roles, both equal in worth and being, so woe betide that folly
That views women in a lesser light, makes a mockery of humanity.

By Lance Landall

22.  It's That Difference That Makes The Difference

Yes, it’s very clear to thinking men and women who don’t have crackpot agendas,
That there’s a complete and utter welcome difference between the two genders.
A man how he is, a woman how she is, and both hardwired for different roles,
The man for fatherhood, the woman for motherhood, and those halves making wholes.

Each complimenting the other, kids looking at each parent in different ways,
The father manly, the mother womanly, which Nature itself loudly conveys.
It having nothing to do with nurture, but everything to do with design,
And who would want it any other way? Not me! And nor this girly wife of mine!

So men, bear your manhood proudly; and women, bear your womanhood proudly too,
So that the gender distinctions and their uniqueness always be kept in view.
Neither overshadowing the other, but working in sync, like lock and key,
Acknowledging the beauty of masculinity and femininity.

Kids not meant to have two dads or two mums, but one of each, and nor missing one,
Nature once again shouting so, ones children rightly hearing, “Hi Dear,” “Hi Hun.”
Earth having gone mad, exchanged order for confusion, the wishes of a few,
Who want the majority to hold their same deluded, dysfunctional view.

It’s all about Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve, nor some sexless wasteland,
Nature knowing nothing of some Jekyll and Hyde, but two sexes that were planned.
There no third sex or anything else sex, like certain fools would have us believe,
But one big umbilical cord that stretches right back to an Adam and Eve.

By Lance Landall

23.  Go With What Nature Intended Be

Given the naturalness of masculinity and femininity,
And the beauty and complementariness of such, it’s very sad to see
A person that from a short distance has you puzzled as to their gender, and
Hoping it’s not as it a appears, no offence intended here, you understand.

In other words, it’s very sad to see a woman looking like a man, a male,
Or a man looking like a female, and thus your fears being right on the nail.
Oh, how women should look like women, and men like men, enhancing their gender,
Not degrading their gender, ’cause an appealing difference was meant to be,

And lest one might offend, though unintentionally.

By Lance Landall

8.  Women Rulers?

When Barack Obama was in New Zealand (March 2018) he stated that he would like to see women ruling the world for two years and that as a result there’d be no conflict (TV3 News 23 March).
To be honest, it baffles me how such statements can come out of such men.
Not only are women a same reflection of the sad state of affairs today, but history is strewn with, and has shown that, they’re just as capable of treachery, deception, cruelty, crime, corruption and degradation.
I could supply many examples from murderous queens, Jezebels and corrupt politicians to serial killers and unfit managers and mothers.
It’s not women that’s the answer anymore than men, but good people.
It’s not even more women that is needed, but more people who’re suitably qualified for the particular task and who’re of noble character.
If men outweigh women in this regard, or if women outweigh men in this regard, so be it. In other words, if this means that there's more men in parliament than women, or that there's more women in parliament than men, so be it. Lets keep the sexes thing right out of it. Such is nothing but politically correct, feminist nonsense. However, where men are better suited for some task or role, why not? And visa versa.
Who came up with the silly idea anyway, that a woman has to be a president, mayor, or CEO (or anything else), in order to prove anything?
The truth is, that women don’t have to prove anything at all, but simply be themselves, rejoicing in their femininity, their wonderful difference, their mysterious uniqueness and special attraction. And the latter is lost or marred by them trying to emulate or compete with men.
The differences between a man and woman are designed to complement, and this, in the home, church and society.
They both being equal in worth and being, but simply functioning in differing roles and ways at times, not because of force, but natural gravitation, instinct and sense.
And there being no inequality or inferiorness in this, except perhaps in the minds of those who’ve been fooled by the likes of feminist propaganda that has only served to make the lot of women worse.
And until this is recognised by all, there will be even bigger problems than those that have always existed between the sexes.
The truth is, that the sexes were meant to compliment and support each other, not turn on each other, not compete with each other, not do without each other, not harm each other, but bring out the best in each other.
And hence why men aren't meant to think and act like women, nor women like men, and why men will always be men, and
women, women.

9.  The Benefits Of A Woman At Home

A woman at home means that her school age children have someone to come home to, someone who’s always there — this preventing latchkey syndrome, lessening ill for idle hands made easier where parents are absent, creating a certain security, and giving her children someone to offload their school or general anxieties onto.

A woman at home frees up employment thus lessening unemployment.

A woman at home is good for neighbourhood watch — thieves and opportunists knowing that there are people about.

A woman at home provides stability for her working husband, who, just like the children, knows that she’s there — this taking strain off him, allowing him to concentrate more fully on his job, a career or business, which benefits both his wife and children.

A woman at home has the most important and greatest responsibility of all — raising sound, well-balanced, secure, happy citizens;  future doctors, mayors, policemen, etc.

A woman at home lessens certain stresses associated with both parents working who as a result of those stresses have less time for a number of beneficial and important things.

A woman at home is freer to help out in the community — helping new mothers, her or his elderly parents, giving neighbourhood support, volunteering, simply being there.

A woman at home can put more into the home from which wonderful memories can grow, and there’s nothing that beats that smell of freshly baked cookies that greets children who’ve returned from school; or that special dinner, attractively dressed, attentive wife, and titivated home that greets a husband returning from a frazzled day at work.

A woman at home has more time to deal with household emergencies and breakdowns, is there for repairmen, is able to take her children to appointments, visit school teachers, mind her sick child, and can check out appliances and so on needing to be researched and replaced.

A woman at home reflects the importance and wholesomeness of the home too often unnecessarily sacrificed for the so-called freedom of pursuing a career that in the scheme of things is but a shallow exchange; likewise material baubles.

A woman at home is freer to pursue hobbies and interests that not only are fulfilling and pleasurable but beneficial to both her husband and children.

A woman at home spares herself from the temptation of an affair so often associated with the work place.

A woman at home enhances the marriage given that she has far more time to concentrate on it and any issues related to it.

A woman at home is a role model for home skills that seen and learnt can prove a blessing in her children’s marriage and home.

A woman at home bonds better with her children and enhances their development.

A woman at home doesn't miss out the same on the likes of those first steps and so on.

A woman at home doesn't suffer from the same guilt trips that a working mother does.

A woman at home can better handle certain demands.

A woman at home is her own boss.

A woman at home is doing what a woman should be doing — raising her child herself.

A woman at home shields her children from the negative influences of day care centres where so many children are placed almost from the get go.

10.  Why Abortions Shouldn't Take Place

"I've noticed that everyone who is for abortion has already been born."
Ronald Reagan

Abortion promotes a culture in which human life is disposable. 
Abortion is not a safe medical procedure and can lead to future medical problems for the mother.
Abortion can cause psychological damage.
Abortions are something that no women was ever intended to have.
Abortion violates the Hippocratic Oath that doctors have traditionally taken.
Abortion hardly fits with being a culture of civilized human beings.
Women who abort their child in order to get their guy to stay with them often find that they are left alone anyway.
People need to take responsibility for their actions and accept the consequences. How many abortions being the result of promiscuity, one-night stands and short term relationships?
A child doesn’t deserve to die because his or her mother was irresponsible.
The sanctity of life should always be upheld and at every level. As Albert Schweitzer said: “If a man loses reverence for any part of life, he will lose reverence for all life.”
Abortion not only attacks the sanctity of life but lessens ones respect for it.
Life in the womb is equal in value to human life outside the womb.
The decision to abort doesn’t involve just one body, it involves killing another human being that has his or her own body.
Abortion is something that's hardly a right but a choice, one that's made without the consent of the other.
Whichever way one likes to look at it, abortion is still murder, the willful taking of a life; and life starting at the moment of conception.
All innocent beings should be afforded protection under the law.
Such unborn children are deprived of life simply based on their location [the womb] and their development status, and this being discriminatory, inhuman and cruel.
It’s been proven that foetuses feel pain during the abortion process.
Abortion is something that's reminiscent of a past time where the lives of children were taken in order to appease pagan gods.
Abortion desensitizes citizens to the beauty and fruitfulness of femininity.
Women who have abortions kill something that's actually inside them as opposed to something that's outside them.
As far as the Christian goes, abortion defies the very Word of God and its moral code for Christians.
And thus the only justification for abortion being when the life of the mother is at stake.

"At the moment of fertilization, a zygote is created. The zygote has DNA provided by both parents and, therefore, all of the genetic information to develop into more mature stages. The zygote period lasts about four days. He or she develops into a blastocyst for some 14 days, and then develops into an embryo. After nine weeks post-conception, he or she is termed a fetus. From zygote to delivered baby, he or she is a human being. There is no point during development when he or she matures into a human or somehow “turns human.” He or she is a unique human being from the point of fertilization."
Human Coalition website

The following is a verse from a Christian poem of mine called "Forbidden Sacrifices" which can be seen in an orange box titled "The Folly Of Winning," Christian section.

When women find themselves pregnant, a life’s a life, not a thing,
No matter how tiny — a seed from which life is seen to spring.
A person needing time and nourishment, everything there,
Hence why it’s a someone that’s killed, which isn’t right, isn’t fair.

This article was drawn from various sources.
Updated 21 November 2018.

11.  Sex Before Marriage?

"The ultimate intimacy belongs within the ultimate commitment."
Julia Duin

Sex before marriage displays a lack of control that doesn't bode well for a future marriage.
Sex before marriage usually gives to others what only one person is meant to get.
Sex before marriage can lead to unwanted children, that solo mother syndrome, all its hardships, and fatherless children.
Sex before marriage simply uses people for ones own selfish gratification. Love can wait to give, but lust can't wait to get.
Sex before marriage removes the motivation to work on the relationship, to truly win over the other person, and makes it easy for men to have their fill and go — men often losing interest in them after having had sex. So many men simply having sex with someone in order to fulfill certain short term psychological goals. And thus sex before marriage actually delaying marriage.
Sex before marriage shows that someone dosen't respect you enough to wait until the wedding night. And therefore, you'll be even less respected.
Sex before marriage lessens the solemnity of having children.
Sex before marriage makes marriage appear immaterial, and why marriages are taken less seriously.
Sex before marriage removes that very special memory making moment of a married couple's first night together.
Sex before marriage can be likened to forcing a door, prising a window open, or opening presents before the due date.
Sex before marriage removes protections that work in our best interests and that thereby spares us from heartache.
Sex before marriage means we've settled for less.
Sex before marriage is empty because it lacks commitment.
Sex before marriage can actually ruin a relationship.
Sex before marriage isn't honourable.
Sex before marriage leads to greater pain when the relationship is ended.
Sex before marriage is risky because condoms don't always work.
Sex before marriage ignores the fact that sexual intercourse immediately changes everything between two people.
Sex before marriage can damage your reputation and future.
Sex before marriage can create a pattern.
Sex before marriage with multiple sexual partners means that in the future you will have had sex with someone else's wife or husband.
Sex before marriage with multiple sexual partners can lead to one getting or giving some sexual disease.
Sex before marriage with multiple sexual partners affects our ability to properly bond come marriage. We won't feel as connected or committed.
Sex before marriage with multiple sexual partners can make those sexual encounters appear in ones mind when one is in the midst of marital intimacy; and comparisons will be drawn.
A survey of teenagers across the United States of America found that depression was far higher (three times more so) amongst those girls who were sexually active — in other words, who were indulging in premarital sex.
(National Longitudinal Study Of Adolescent Health, Wave II

"Never trade temporary pleasure for permanent regret."
Dave Willis

And further to  but dating wise and with some repetition:

Bear in mind,

That intimate settings encourage intimate actions.

That being alone together makes it easier for inappropriate and unwanted advances, and thus harder to counter any pressure.
That a young man’s hormonal state knows little of restraint and judgment, and hardly needs encouraging.
That youth has not yet developed its true tastes in others.
That in the scheme of things, sex is only but a part of the equation when it comes to marriage, so mind.
That once intimacy occurs, even petting, it’s harder to make detached, objective judgments. 
That you’ve every right to set boundaries and should.
That those who can’t wait don’t deserve, and are far more prone to marital unfaithfulness.
That users have a habit of loving and leaving.
That dressing sexy can work just as much against as for.
That frustration and desperation make for poor choices.
That those dating often hide their really bad points; thus one or two negatives can be a sampling.
That boys can read more into things than they should.
That feelings shouldn’t override sense.
That their lack of interest in, or little thought for your family, parents, is an ominous sign, a harbinger of marital unhappiness.
That he or she is a date and not your wife or husband, thus you’ve no conjugal rights even if they’re letting you indulge in such; and that an engagement doesn't alter this fact.
That allowing conjugal rights before marriage is a sure way to kill that motivation that’s essential in ensuring true intention and determining worthiness. After all, when a guy can get his hands on the goods beforehand, why would he necessarily want to hang around but move on to the next. Thus making him wait not only prevents being used, but tests him.
That it's best to get to know as much as possible about them before starting a relationship.

This article was upgraded 27 October 2018

24.  When Sex Is A Bad Idea

Once upon a time there was sex, a special thing between a husband and wife,
Whose relationship benefited from such; it all part of the married life.
Well, as happens, certain ones wanted it outside of marriage too, and hence how
Females got well and truly used, their foolish “Yes” like a gun that went “Pow!”

And who got shot? They did. Boys and men having their fill and moving on, cruelly,
They not having to wait until marriage, and why marry anyway, you see,
It like sex on tap, one free of any responsibilities, but oh dear,
“What’s with that bulge?” And how many want to stay? And all why they soon disappear.


You enjoying that sex because sex is great, but there’s always a risk attached,
And why, as happens, things somehow come home to roost, it a bad egg that was hatched.
And thus keeping sex for marriage not so silly after all, so mind that date,
’Cause if sex before marriage suits them, there’s a good chance you’ll wish you’d made them wait.

And not only might you be left with a kiddie that’s a handful, but oh dear,
Something else that’s rather embarrassing, painful — and surely my meaning’s clear.
Hence why multiple partners aren’t such a good idea, and nor divorce, you know,
For where’s that new spouse been too? And this why our poor choices oft act like some foe.

By Lance Landall

25.  Why Much Needs Saying About Sex

The truth is, that the wholesomeness of sex, and its appropriate place in life,
Has suffered badly, it now corrupted, less to do with a husband and wife.
It savaged and sullied by porn and lust, one night stands, obsessive exposure,
It’s true purpose and value lost on most, and why of their shame so many boast.

No, there’s no restraint, every beneficial boundary sacked, it all on,
Society now awash with debauchery; chivalry and honour gone.
Movies full of it, television fuelling it, and as for computers, well,
A click of that worrying mouse and there’s every kind of sexual ill.

Yes, it’s become the downfall of many a man, a hole some women have dug,
They staring in porn, dressing to kill, and when approached ’bout such, there’s just a shrug.
No one accepting responsibility, sex just like a lolly scramble,
Everyone at it, and why into brothels even the elite amble.

Yes, everyone has played a part, except for those who’ve tried to stem the tide,
Though mocked for their efforts; white no longer the choice of many a blushing bride.
Kids wanting to know who their father is, other kids fearing their father, who,
Enters their bedroom with lecherous intent — and under the sun, nothing new.

So when will we learn having not learnt? And if this is freedom, pity help us,
And why it’s high time we alighted from the sexual revolution bus.
It has taken us nowhere and yet everywhere, we all over the place,
And that smugness is soon to be wiped off our guilty, self-serving, carnal face;

As if we can’t see the baleful results already, the folly and disgrace.

By Lance Landall

12.  That "In Love" State

Taken from the book Boundaries In Dating by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Being "in love," in the beginning of a relationship, is an illness. It is treatable, but it is an illness nevertheless. The illness is the inability to see reality. For the very state of "being in love" is a state of idealization, where the other person is not really viewed through the eyes of reality. He or she is mostly seen through the eyes of someone's own wishes or fantasies that the other person is able to symbolize. But often the fantasies are based on enough reality that the stage of idealization can move to something real and lasting.
The problem is that if the idealizations are strong enough, and the person's need for them to be true are strong enough, then he or she can omit large chunks of reality about the person he is in love with. This is why staying connected to a group of friends who know you well is so important. Your friends and often family can see things about your new love that you will not be able to see. And you should trust them. Unless there is something wrong in your relationships with them, or they are pareticularly dysfunctional, they will not be looking through the eyes of idealization and need and will see the person more clearly. Have you ever wondered how some people that you know and love were able to pick the difficult, or sometimes awful person that they are with? Do you think that the prince just one day turned into a frog? Most times not. The frog was always a frog, even if he was dressed up like a prince in courtship. But the princess was looking through the eyes of idealization or denial. Borrow your friends' vision. You might need it.

13.  Marital Intimacy

(As it was meant to be)

Her husband creatively and tenderly kisses, caresses, explores and stirs her with a selfless intent that doesn't detract or distract,
so that she may experience the ultimate peak,
so that she may see that it’s an act of love and not lust,
so that he may leave her ever more convinced of the width, depth and breadth of the marital institution,
so that he may leave her ever more convinced of that lifelong oneness that was meant to be a blessing and not a burden.

Her husband gently lies on top of her, 
as if cloaking her exposed beauty,
as if shielding her protectively, and thus self sacrificially,
as if engulfing her with the very essence of his being-cum-love,
as if declaring his manly initiative.

And then, her husband duly and thoughtfully enters her,
that they may become as if interlocked in a special intimate oneness and bonding that no one else may share,
that he may claim her as the sole, undying object of his affection and care,
that they may become forever connected via the flesh and image of their offspring,
that he via his life-perpetuating seed may fulfil her natural maternal longing.

Different sexual positions are up to the couple, but in all that's done, and even where there's fun, dignity and thought should always prevail.

Sex is everything to a man, part and parcel of his very nature, makeup. Sex is part and parcel of his creativeness, how he expresses himself, his love for his wife — his sexual feelings fueling his affection, even motivating it.
A man’s penis kind of reflects who and what he is (males being the seeker, sower), and hence why his penis can be a big deal to him (just like women can be very conscious of their breasts). This also has something to do with a man taking the initiative sexually, and thus rejection on his wife’s part, or failure to please her, discourages him, affects his manliness, and even sets him up for an affair.
Therefore, if a wife says that sex isn’t a big deal to her, that she can take it or leave it, she not only insults her husband, but hits him where it really hurts — his manhood, makeup.
All this is why wives shouldn’t withhold sex at any time, and why they should always act (including dressing attractively) in ways that appeal to his sexual nature-cum-motor. In other words, in ways that work in sync with. Such making him feel more loving and caring towards her.
Failure to appreciate all this will lessen a man’s love and care for his wife.
The one thing that women must always bear in mind is that men are made and think very differently. Therefore, when wives don’t go by the manual, they’re all the less for it, because that manual is what brings out the best in men by which is intended greater benefit for wives.
To frustrate a man sexually, is to not only deplete him emotionally, lessen good health, subject him to temptation, but to also destroy his love and commitment.
The truth is, a man’s sexual makeup (visual radar) predisposes him to temptation at any time, be that an affair or the likes of pornography. Hence why a good wife will do all she can to mitigate such, thus protecting herself from ill too.
However, all the above does not excuse a lack of control on his part, nor sexual abuse of any kind. While sex means everything to a man, and is part and parcel of his very nature, makeup, it’s not where everything starts and ends, and therefore, must be seen in its context.

This article was upgraded 12 January 2019.

26.  A Rewarding Truth

Though married, love doesn't lust and grope, but rather, it waits, delighting to serve,
And it treating as if Holy and delicate every crevice and curve.
Yes, it not in a rush, nor feverish, but selfless, thoughtful and controlled,
So that a pure love and noble dignity the cherished and pleased one may behold.

And love’s eye not critical, but accepting, appreciative and kindly,
’Cause to love and to cherish is all about the person and not their body.
Yes, love’s heart is full of goodness, never malice in the form of get and take,
For the latter is how things are lost and killed, and why here, love makes no mistake.

By Lance Landall

27.  Some Things Should Always Stand

The needs of men aren’t fully understood, ’cause women see things differently,
And when poorly treated, are less inclined to operate as generously.
Thus the past calling the shots rather than wisdom, and husbands looking elsewhere,
Their wife getting hurt once again, but she having foolishly played a part here.

Hence why some things should always stand regardless, sex a need that should be fulfilled,
Otherwise, in the direction of more pain and trouble, men will be propelled.
It most unfair that they be deprived or too restrained by an attractive wife,
Who, thereby, will hardly encourage her man’s affection, nor enhance her life.

By Lance Landall

14.  It's My Body! So I Can Do What I Like With It

“To change for the worst after having said, “I Do,” is like having told a story that really wasn’t true.”

The Author

Why this particular article? Well, don't forget that what we do with, or do to, our body, can thoughtlessly affect others.

So, if you want to go that way,

I guess you'll allow yourself to become obese via bad choices or lack of discipline:

Shame if it hits the taxpayer who’ll have to foot the bill for those hospital visits sooner or later.
Shame if you die earlier thus causing your loved ones to grieve earlier.
Shame if you set an example that your children might follow to their detriment.
Shame if you don’t look as attractive anymore.
Shame if your husband or wife is disappointed with your lack of thought over how they feel about such.
Shame if the way you looked when your boyfriend or girlfriend married you was what they thought they were getting.
Shame if your husband or wife eventually loses interest and goes elsewhere as a result.
Shame if you have trouble getting clothes to fit and thus greater cost.
Shame if you become the butt of jokes.
Shame if you’ve made it harder for doctors to inspect possible concerns.
Shame if you can’t quite do certain things like you used too.
Shame if when you try to slim you end up with lots of loose, unsightly flesh in need of a scalpel.
Shame if you distort the image of your Creator.

I guess you'll go and get tattooed:

Shame, women, if some man who’d like to marry you finds such a real turn off.
Shame if your arms, for example, look like they’re black and blue, as if you’ve been badly bruised.
Shame if it also looks like graffiti.
Shame if your surgeon needs to cut through that tattoo leaving it even more unsightly.
Shame if it’s clear that someone else has had his hands busy where only your husband’s hands should be.
Shame if it makes you look like you’ve come from a rough neighbourhood.
Shame if those tattoos have a primitive and dark association.
Shame if when you get older and your skin stretches and wrinkles that those tattoos may distort.
Shame if detecting a skin issue is harder because of that tattoo being right there.
Shame if you have some reason to regret that tattoo later on.
Shame if that tattooing causes some bad reaction.
Shame if it’s a passing fad that loses its attraction in time.
Shame that someon'e making money out of disfiguring you.
Shame if that tattoo gives a hard edge to your womanhood.
Shame that it will cost a lot and pain a lot if you want it removed.
Shame if it attracts the attention of lesser men.
Shame if it's a visual distraction.
Shame if instead of pure skin your partner's lips are forced to caress some black and blue image, and as if in homage to it.
Shame that men are affected by the visual more than women.
Shame if you look like branded cattle.
Shame if it affects an employment opportunity (which you may not be told of, or which that personal manager won't own up to).
Shame if you become a Christian and realise that God has always abhorred such, warned against doing such, and that that particular object may be very offensive to Him, the territory of His adversary the devil.

I guess you'll get into drugs:

Shame if you become a burden to the taxpayer via rehabilitation.
Shame if you become a burden to loved ones via mental or physical impairment.
Shame if you inflict pain on society while under its insidious influence.
Shame if you encourage others to follow suit.
Shame if you effectively aid drug pushers in ruining other lives.
Shame if you mimic drunk drivers with the same consequences.
Shame if your drug habit sees you eventually turning to crime in order to support it.

I guess you'll possibly booze binge:

Shame if your health is badly affected.
Shame if you injure or kill someone while drink driving.
Shame if you waste the precious time of ambulance staff and medics.
Shame if someone has to clean up after you.
Shame if it affects your employer’s time and your abilities.
Shame if it affects any embryo.
Shame if it eventually affects your looks.
Shame if it causes problems in your home.
Shame if you become an alcoholic.
Shame if your kids follow your example again.
Shame if you end up with a beer pot tummy.

I guess you'll smoke cigarettes:

Shame if it leaves you with an unpleasant breath.
Shame if it makes your teeth look the worse for wear.
Shame if it injures your lungs for one.
Shame if that second hand smoke injures others too.
Shame if it affects your ability to run or climb.
Shame if it affects your insurance premium.
Shame if it wastes more money that would be better spent elsewhere.
Shame if it ages you quicker disappointing your partner again.
Shame if it shortens your life.

"If you really loved me, you would accept me as I am," is another blame game, pass the buck, cop out, one that also refuses to accept reality.

This article was upgraded 14 July 2019.

15.  Thoughts Regarding Men

On the one hand they're expected to be loving, and on the other hand, they're expected to kill without emotion come wars.
On the one hand
they're expected to be faithful, and on the other hand, they're daily confronted with the sexually tempting, and are supplied with porn, sex-riddled movies, prostitutes and strip clubs.
On the one hand
they're expected to be humane, and on the other hand, they're supplied with swords and toy guns as children, or real guns when they're older in order to kill creatures for sport, or to act out war games.
On the one hand
they're expected to act thoughtfully to others, and on the other hand, they're encouraged to aggressively compete.
On the one hand
they're expected to walk away from a fight, and on the other hand, they're encouraged to foster the killer instinct come certain sports.
On the one hand
they're expected to act honourably, and on the other hand, they're encouraged to sow wild oats.
On the one hand
they're expected to be a good father, and on the other hand, they're often deprived of one, or a fitting role model.
On the one hand
they're expected to act responsibly, and on the other hand, they're copiously supplied with a befuddling, disgracing and hindering substance that’s oft called a man’s brew.
On the one hand
they're expected to provide for their family, and on the other hand, they're often made redundant, denied certain skills, given an insufficient wage, unfairly burdened with a crippling rent or mortgage, and are hardly rehabilitated when incarcerated.
On the one hand
they're expected to act sensitively, and on the other hand, they're expected to be tough, fearless, and not give in to tears.
On the one hand
they're expected to act wisely, and on the other hand, they're applauded for acting recklessly come the likes of extreme sports and unnecessary life risking adventures.
On the one hand they're expected to "act like a man," and on the other hand, they're subjected to the sapping "a woman can do anything a man can do" mantra, feminist putdown quotes like: “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle,” and sitcoms where manhood is ridiculed via dopey husbands and smarter wives.

This last article was upgraded 23 March 2017.

16.  Why The "Me Too" Movement Should Take Care

You’ve a right to protest, and so you should, but mind that you don’t get carried away with it all…

Lest you frighten good men off.

Lest all men be dammed, seen as perverts and molesters.

Lest you injure that natural boy and girl flirtation.

Lest men become afraid of being alone with any woman.

Lest men begin to see all women as potential accusers.

Lest more is read into things than should be.

Lest men become hardened due to feeling set upon unfairly.

Lest you aid false accusers, women with some grudge or anti-men sentiments.

Lest it be overlooked that there are women seducers and predators too.

Lest men become discouraged and lose the will to change.

Lest more men pull out of the teaching profession, afraid that they may be accused of this or that.

Lest women too, suffer more so.
Let me explain:
Teaching women to fight back could well prove counterproductive come some rape, say. That rape turning to murder should the rapist become fired up via a woman’s response that really hurts. 
Better women use their minds (though not the same mentality), weighing things very carefully, and remembering that big men hurt aren’t necessarily down, and thus someone’s worst nightmare about to begin.
Attackers often carry a knife or gun, and thus fists, knees and feet often powerless to do a thing. 
Now, I’m not saying that women shouldn’t defend themselves, but that they had surely better mind, and not get carried away, because any failed attempt could see them far worse off than they might have been.
All these martial arts classes and so on simply make women rough and tough, more like those fantasy Amazon women, and thus such men possibly responding with greater force as if those women were men themselves.
Given the rise in young women committing assaults, we may simply be helping such off track young women out.

The following things will help in discouraging unwanted attention and sexual misconduct:

Dressing more modestly (because sexiness automatically ups the potential as far as sexual assults go).

A manner that declares you’ve higher standards.

Making your boundaries known.

Minding that over friendliness on either side.

Saying “No” to any possible wedges in the door.

Avoiding asking for favours.

Avoiding being alone with men, where possible and practical.

Demanding and encouraging a higher standard from men (which you must live up to yourself lest hypocrisy weaken your stand).

Minding certain industries and situations.

Holding up men who show good character and respect for women, men who’ve a good track record.

This article was added to on 27 November 2019.

28.  Disingenuous "Me Too" Supporters

To those disingenuous male sympathizers of the “Me Too” movement, who
Appear to look good in the eyes of such women, and same condemning pursue,
Remember that women can’t have it both ways, starring in porn, stripping to tease,
Baring it all on the street, offering their services, being part of the sleaze.

Yes, women can shout about sexual assaults (and should do), but goodness me,
They’re not helping their case by indulging in the bawdy, horny and raunchy.
Oh, how such cranks men up, and more so the bestial who laws and wails ignore,
Sneering at the hypocrisy, how Hollywood plays the saint, and then the whore.

No, I’ve no problem with genuine sympathisers who’ve a balance view,
But not so women pleasers, who, scared of flak, over-the-top cries give in to.
All men suspect now, and everything sexist these days, one scratching ones head,
Because women aren’t blameless either, and should face up to what they’ve done and said.

Too many women in these “Me Too” type movements aren’t objective enough, and
Are even out of touch with reality, living in their own little land.
It all about men, seemingly, and women the only victims, one would think,
Yet, how they should mind, when, flushed with any dubious success, their glasses clink.

By Lance Landall

29.  With The "Me Too" Movement In Mind

In these sad times where less believe in God and a day of accountability,
Where less are brought up with those morals and principles found in Christianity,
Where males are being fed a diet of filth, violence and pornography,
Where women are stripping off in disturbing movies and acting just as horny,

Where women are just as promiscuous and dressing more provocatively,
Where hearts and minds are being corrupted by those vices acted out on TV,
Where Hollywood’s churning out darkness that’s clearly inspired satanically,
Where fewer voices are condemning such, and there’s a rampant liberality,

What are the chances that violent assaults and sexual assaults will decline,
Except on a surface level, perhaps, the answer hardly prison or a fine.
You see, while women contribute to the ill themselves (displaying hypocrisy),
And while all this ill’s continued, men aren’t likely to act any differently.

If the diet is worse, so too will be ones mental state, ’cause we’re what we take in,
And we’re also what we act out, what we allow, and what we participate in.
All why society’s less noble, less wholesome, less loving and caring, and why
Little’s going to change no matter how hard the “Me Too” movement is seen to cry.

Patches won’t work, because it’s surgery that’s needed, most hearts and minds full of ill,
The conscience seared, the heart hardened, and even youngsters drawing from that poisoned well.
Laws doing little in the scheme of things, though it’s not their job to, but yours and mine,
And a bad job we’ll do if our own thoughts and ways are corrupted, out of line.

Yes, it’s most intriguing how women are protesting over assaults and so on,
Yet many only too happy to take part in the ills, see morality gone.
They baring it all in mags, in movies, on TV, even in pornography,
Cranking men up, stirring them regularly, and hence those sexual ills we see.

No, women can’t have it both ways, and given the way men are made, it’s most unfair,
Men stirred so easily sexually, and is it any wonder if they leer.
Once stirred, they’re not designed to cut off instantly, hence that frustration that oft churns,
And that criminal compulsion or obsession that in a certain man’s heart burns.

Women’s rights are one thing, prudence and fairness another, thus change needed quickly,
The reintroduction of selflessness, nobleness, wholesomeness and modesty.
But we’re living in a time when anger over things has got out of control, and
Where those protesting are acting just as badly, hence how the fire’s simply fanned.

Political correctness, overreaction, revenge and feministic hate
Are playing their foolish part, including those who evidence even fabricate.
All this turning many off who might otherwise be supportive, and that’s a shame,
’Cause genuine and fair complaints should be dealt with regardless of status or fame.

Such reminds me of Greenpeace and how it’s lost supporters too (given some tactics),
That lawless behaviour that’s supposedly acceptable in order to fix.
Well no it isn’t, two wrongs not making a right, and why all should use commonsense,
And mind what’s on their side before condemning what’s on the other side of the fence.

When we contribute to the ills, who are we to condemn, though crime still shouldn't pay,
But it’s pretty hypocritical when with the emotions of men women play.
Though men shouldn’t assault (period), they shouldn’t be cranked up either, so mind,
'Cause there’s something about the whole “Me Too” thing that's not right, nor fair, but somewhat blind.

Yes, those female predators, groomers, seducers and false accusers missing here,
Not that they should be, because throughout history women have done their horrid share.
All why the focus needs to return to renewed hearts and minds, those things thrown out,
Otherwise, forever and a day, we will still be hearing that same “Me Too” shout.

By Lance Landall

30.  Are We Going Too Far?

Once, many didn't see some things like they're being seen today, but more as fun,
Or a bit naughty, but not a crime, and many now anxious over what they’ve done.
A smack on some colleague's bottom, some sexual innuendo, and so on,
And now, due to an over-the-top response, say, they're being set upon,

Or is it due to a new found morality of sorts (given much that’s gone)?

No, smacking someone’s bottom and sexual innuendos are clearly wrong,
But once kind of tolerated ’till the likes of the "Me Too" movement came along,
And greater enlightenment, one could say, and all why one shouldn’t act that way,
But the past dynamics having been somewhat different, so lets mind, I say,

Because courts could be clogged, and many changed lives shattered, given some are sorry,
And wouldn’t do such again, but oh, that blood still wanted by society.
Yes, a movement looking under every little rock, behind any door,
Some minors made majors, not that I’m condoning anything against the law.

Nor what’s morally wrong, for that matter, but how forensic do we want to go,
Or pharasaical, given that some who accuse, their own wrong doings know.
Yes, most of us having made mistakes, even acted wrongly, youth oft the cause,
And we having grown, learnt, repented, and why before pointing, all should pause.

But meantime, some changed married men now fearful of a certain knock on their door,
Some accusation that’ll impact on their wife and family come the law.
Is it worth the cost? Should one let it go, or is the urge to punish too strong?
Many who’re hardly squeaky clean themselves fixated on some years-gone-by wrong.

And let’s not forget the sixties revolution where it was all on, and hey,
That lusty revolution having continued right up ’till the present day,
Both men and women into hanky panky, one way or another, and thus
Some balance, fairness and compassion surely needed amidst all the fuss.

Sure in the sixties there were women who wouldn’t have it on, but those who would,
Many, in fact, hence why men would try to get away with something if they could.
And it's seemingly the same today, 'cause the lines still blurred by that “Yes” or “No”
(When some would argue that it should've always been a "No," and therefore, still "No"), 
Some women shrugging things off, others incensed, and why it’s kind of hard to know.

By Lance Landall

31.  Men, Lift Your Head Up

Men, when the world’s making fools of you, treating you as if you’re an enemy,

A threat to women and children, a brute, or one who would act unfaithfully,
And you’re none of these,
Lift your head up, still love and cherish your own, be proud of your manhood, your role,
And blessed be the supportive wife, so that together, you may both become whole,
And each moment seize.

Yes, don’t let the world dumb you down, bounce you around, have you believing its lies,
Men, men, women, women, their clear cut differences being what works and ties.
So, flex your masculinity, indulge your wife’s pleasing femininity;
You the home builder, she the home maker, but neither seeking supremacy.

“Women can do anything men can!” they’re shouting, thus killing the mystery,
And this being why you shouldn’t bow to such ignorant spiel or sophistry.
The world having lost its way, women hardly better off today, except where
Men are treating them rightly, just like you are, with tender loving thought and care.

No, none of us flawless, but oh, those unfair attacks on men; how they’re painted,
Leaving folk thinking that all men with the same unfortunate things are tainted.
Hence those Hollywood buffoons, criminals and predators, and the list goes on,
So lift your head up, you men, because only unfit men should be set upon.

At the end of the day, it is what it is, a boy and girl world, each a half,
’Till in marriage a whole; an androgynous society nought but a laugh.
Knights meant to be real, and women treated like princesses, but what do we see,
Men being hammered, women wearing the armour, and castles sitting empty.

And many men taking it lying down, they foolishly falling victim too,
Courtesy of political correctness, the feminists distorted view.
So honestly, you men, acceptance of faults being one thing (all humans flawed),
But retreating under fire? No, lift your head up, make sure your boats are still moored.

Seems society has thrown a paddy and tipped its toy box upside down,
From which has spilled clowns, naughty monkeys, and shysters who opposing voices drown.
Thus time those toys were put back in their box, that life might return to normal; so
Mind that rudder, men, because despite the nonsense, many of us better know,

Aren’t caught up in that flow.

Sadly, far too many women have got caught up with that throwing of bricks, when
There is many an ill coming from the female quarter, and not just from men.
It’s about working together, building on the best, not dwelling on the worst,
So lift your head up, good men, ’cause men like you help quench a woman’s inner thirst.

By Lance Landall

32.  Don't Toss Good Because Of Bad

If someone’s creation is a worthy thing, perhaps a set of paintings, say,
And you find that that person raped, say, why throw their beautiful paintings away?
Surely those paintings stand alone, they something good that that criminal has done,
And hey, would keeping those paintings be more likely if that rapist was your son?

A telling question, I suspect, yet worthy creations and sins worlds apart,
Each being the product of two compartments existing within the same heart.
The good compartment we accept, the bad compartment we reject, acting fair,
A great book a great book, a great song a great song, hence why sense is needed here.

But no, out goes the baby with the bathwater, feelings running high, askew,
So off the bookshelf, no more air time, and as for those paintings, they’re tossed out too.
Oh, when will we start playing grownups, bearing in mind that good folk err too,
That a rapist can turn the corner, “And as for my creation, what did you do?”

And what would you say? You having tossed what one should applaud, that excellent side,
Confusing and discouraging him, and why rather than rise, further he’ll slide.
And so, we not selling our house because the builder who built it raped someone,
But appreciating his worthy contribution, any good that he’s done.

However, too many are judged guilty before they have even been to court,
Losing their job or position, possibly because of someone’s false report.
So much for blind justice, that lady with the scales, it public opinion now,
Strong pressure coming from certain quarters to which cowardice is seen to bow.

Anger and not sense steering, others caving in, and dropping any good too,
That person penalized before a court finds the accusations false or true.
It all like going back in time — mob rule — messages going from phone to phone,
It all shameful and wrong, and seemingly the contemporary way to stone.

By Lance Landall

This poem also appears on my page Bottled By A Bottle.

17.  What's Wrong With The Traditional Wedding Vows?

"...for better or worse"
during good times and tough times, in joy and in sorrow
"for richer or poorer"
despite financial misfortune, in plenty and in want
"in sickness and health"
despite any spoilers, midst good health and bad health
"to love and to cherish"
what marriage is all about
"till death do us part"
through all the years, midst the boring and exciting
"according to God's holy ordinance"
do appreciate the specialness, naturalness and solemness of this intimate union that no one else is to share, and that begets children who need the security of a permanent relationship
"and thereto I pledge thee my troth"
am totally committed, have every intention of standing by my promise to be faithful, loyal and honest

As for, “to love, honour and obey," which is no longer used:
Love goes without saying (hence why it has been retained);
Honour could be seen as simply referring to him not being ridiculed, belittled, because such is very destructive to ones manhood. Likewise any disloyalty;
And yes, obey definitely best gone, though even here, such could be seen as not giving him any grief, not thwarting his protective, manly attempts to do what’s best and right for his family as a whole.

I don’t know where kneeling to propose originated, but such is something that I personally have a problem with.
Such kneeling seems like a servant, ruler thing, as if one’s approaching a throne, a superiour being.
Such kneeling hardly seems in keeping with that natural and manly protector, provider role.
Such an act also seems to fly in the face of both of them being on an equal footing — equality, some call it. After all, whoever the woman is, she’s not some goddess, nor he a mere knave, servant.
Are men so unworthy (and women so above them) that men have to plead on their knees?
And isn’t kneeling something that’s more in keeping with asking forgiveness, more in keeping with approaching divinity?

The following is Henry Ford's reply when he was asked what was the secret of his marital success.
"The formula is the same as I used to make a successful car: Stick to one model."

And you know, there’s no better protection for women than:
1) Modest clothing.
2) Virtuous behaviour.
3) A level head.
4) A selfless, noble husband.
How so, you ask?
1) Though men are naturally attracted to the female form, modest clothing helps lessen the unwelcome advances of users, abusers and predators who almost always prefer the immodest because it appeals to their lust; and modest clothing lessens any concern over whether it's ones body that's attracting some suitor or ones personality.
2) Virtuous behaviour spares women from those unwanted pregnancies that go hand in hand with that solo-parent syndrome; and those sexual diseases that follow promiscuity around.
3) A level head is more likely to lead to the right choices, and thereby, the right man.
4) A selfless man is not a demanding man, and a noble man doesn’t mistreat women, but rather, protects their honour and well-being.

18.  Child Care Centres

Human factory farming, it's said.

And the greatest social experiment of our time, has also been said;
and the unwitting participants being millions of parents. 

Sometimes in life, due to personal circumstances and so on, we can’t always do the ideal thing — in other words, such may be somewhat beyond our control, and thus a Child Care Centre a necessary evil, so to speak. And given the errant way in which some children are brought up, and their home environment, such children may in fact be better off spending most of their time in such a Centre.

However, where possible, I personally believe that Child Care Centres should be avoided, and never used as a life-style choice.
Well, the first five years of a child’s life are critical to that child’s formation — that is, the building of his or her character, and here we’re talking about morals, standards, values, principles, etc. Thus, those first five years are very important when it comes to instilling the best in your child, unopposed by any negative Child Care Centre influences, or other.
It’s also very important that during the first five years a child have as much bonding with its mother as possible, indeed its father, even siblings, and that the mother enjoy the stages and growth of her child on a personal level, and not through the impersonal eyes of a Child Care Centre worker, who effectively robs a mother of so much, including any spontaneous experiences.
Research has shown that children left at Child Care Centres can feel a certain alienation from their parents, an inner “Something’s missing,” alias “Am I truly wanted?”
Placing your child in a Child Care Centre will expose your child to certain things that you may not wish your child to be exposed to, (or will expose your child to that which it shouldn’t be exposed to). Bad enough come school!  And among those things? The bad language and behaviour of other children-cum-the bad influences of children that haven’t been raised well; bullies; the influences of any Child Care Centre worker that are at odds with your own beliefs, philosophies, views, etc, (which includes any underlying Child Care Centre theology); certain activities and material; certain food; certain music; fatiguing and damaging noise levels.
Hence why I believe it’s best that during the first five years a child be at home with its non-working mother, and that it only be introduced to the likes of kindergartens when school age is near at hand.
Further to:
Studies have shown that placing children in a Child Care Centre can lead to a number of negative effects
aggressive behavior and poor social skills, for example.
Studies have found evidence that suggests that the longer a child spends in a Child Care Centre, the more stress it may experience.
Children who spend time in a Child Care Centre may experience a weaker parental attachment as a result. And those children who don't have a secure parental attachment are thus at greater risk of depression, anxiety and other mood disorders.
Children get sick more often in group care given
the constant bugs doing the rounds.
Your rules and the Child Centre rules may be different causing confusion.
Many child care workers are of dubious quality, and there being no one like one's mother, of course.
The truth is that it's impossible to predict how a Child Care Centre will affect an individual child, your child.
There's also the unpleasant atmosphere of certain Child Care Centres where the child care workers are disgruntled, or preoccupied with personal problems.
And there's that institutional type setting at such an early age.
No wonder parents can be left feeling guilty.
From a Christian perspective, it should be remembered that God gives the duty of raising a child to the parent, and not to some caregiver or Child Care Centre. And that duty is to be maintained as long as possible, and certainly for the first five years at least.
My daughter, who's a trained child care teacher with managerial experience, has made it very clear to us that she will not be placing any children that she may have in a Child Care Centre given what she has experienced herself, and all the above.

33.  The Power Of A Woman

The power of a woman is found in her uniqueness as a feminine creature,
Her appointment higher than that of any pastor, president, judge or teacher.
She charged with the early moulding of characters, kids who’ll become women and men,
And therefore, should those children be farmed out to others and their influence, what then?

Yes, who knows, those early years critical, they the men and women of tomorrow,
Who’ll prove a blessing to society, or who’ll bring naught but pain and sorrow.
And hence that early training, that motherly influence that shines like a lighthouse,
And that in the order of things, carries far more weight than any roles of her spouse.

And therefore, when women covet any position men may hold, some role of theirs,
They seek a lesser honour than that given to them, the lesser of the two spheres.
And thereby, they sell their womanhood short, forsake their natural appointment, which
Can only but lower their status, and why such a precious role they shouldn’t switch.

Though men may be the protectors, and authority figure in the home, thus in sync,
Such doesn’t give them greater importance, this world hardly Males First And Foremost Inc.
Only roles varying in importance, though every role playing its part in life,
And hence those roles within the home that are better suited to a husband or wife.

No, I’m not saying that women should only raise kids and stay at home, but simply
That they shouldn’t feel lesser for doing so — it elevated territory.
And men not having that same touch here, their forte belonging to another sphere,
Which women shouldn’t pursue (though capable) at the expense of their higher sphere.

By Lance Landall

The article above was drawn from various sources.