Introduction
“Until men and women know, understand, accept and appreciate the differences between them,
there will always be conflict and disappointment.”
The poet, author
there will always be conflict and disappointment.”
The poet, author
Includes frank content.
1. Are Women Blameless?
This article is an attempt
to provide some fairness and balance.
There are women that are saying that they have every right to dress how they wish — in other words, as sexually as they like in public, that it's their body and that they can do what they like with it, and that one can’t and shouldn’t link sexual assaults to such — in other words, that the blame for such assaults lies entirely with the male attacker. Or to put it another way, the women so dressed are completely blameless.
My personal response to such?
What one may be permitted to do, or have a right to do, isn’t always what's wise to do, and under some circumstances, perhaps not even right to do. Thus, where one doesn't use wisdom, are they free of any blame should ill of some sort come their way?
In my mind, those women who make this statement that they do, come under the following:
1) They have their head in the sand, are unaware of just how sick society has become.
2) They have a very narrow focus, a seeming inability to understand and grasp the broader issues surrounding such.
3) They simply don’t wish to face reality because it doesn't suit.
4) They simply don’t wish to accept any responsibility for some part that they may have played somehow, albeit indirectly.
5) They simply do not understand what it’s like to be a man, which, while understandable, given that they’re not men, doesn't excuse insensitivity, thoughtlessness or folly. Though a man can’t truly understand what it’s like to be pregnant, for example, such wouldn’t excuse any insensitive, thoughtless behaviour towards his pregnant wife. In other words, he should endeavour to try and understand what it must be like, and seek to make his wife’s pregnancy issues as bearable as possible.
A man’s sex drive is unique, operating in a different way, and very strong, very propelling, and thus when women titillate a man, it can be akin to playing with a time bomb, not just a match. However, the sex drive in a man can also vary in intensity from one man to another, some men having a low sex drive, or one that’s seemingly impossible for them to live with, or simply overactive.
Many women don’t seem to understand or fully appreciate that visual stimuli affects a man in the same way as tactile stimuli affects a woman.
Men think visually, all why they're drawn to pictures, especially pictures of nudity or sexual activities.
Men are kind of driven by their sex drive, such being part and parcel of their creativity. Thus sex is a big deal to them, and when sex is walking around everywhere in the form of blatant sexiness (particularly come summer days), it can be very difficult for them.
Time and time again I notice those embarrassed, furtive looks of males when a sexy looking woman goes past them, be that man married or single.
I guess one reson why God dressed Adam and Eve after their fall was because He knew that the body would become objectified, glorified, idolized, degraded and present a stumbling block. Have you seen those mtv videos?!
When a man views a picture of a naked woman, his sexual arousal is activated, and commonly strong. When many men view pornographic material, their sexual arousal could be likened to the intensity of a woman’s approaching climax. Hence why many men feel the need to masterbate.
A man is also designed in such a way that as soon as his key is turned via sexual stimulus, his motor is ready for action. In other words, a man isn’t meant to be aroused to go nowhere. Thus sexiness in public can be somewhat like dangling a steak in front of a hungry lion and then pulling it away. And such is why there’s an undercurrent of frustration that’s running through the male realm, be it conscious or subconscious, given what men are constantly being teased with.
And hence why sexual arousal in any form should be kept to the marital home where any such needs can be taken care of without undue delay.
Even quarter revealed breasts (aided by push up bras clearly designed to titilate) can be stimulating to the male eye, and a man’s radar is highly attuned to such. That’s the way he’s made. A woman's breasts are generally (even overwhelmingly) a man's strong interest of sexual desire (a sexual zone for him), hence the original Playboy magazines that in time progressed from bare breasts to the naked crutch as well, a man's next interest, and obviously so, because that's where his aroused state wishes to end up ultimately — intercourse.
This is all why mens locker rooms and so on are often plastered with Playboy type pictures.
However, I must say this, and that is, that if the woman exposing her breasts, say, has a body that's out of shape, it does lessen the attraction, and depending on how out of shape, it can do by miles, thus turning men off. It's not just enough that she's a woman.
With all the sexual content that’s around today, one could say that a man’s radar is on high alert, overload, in fact — men (in the public domain) picking up on more than what was ever intended for them to see outside of marriage (and certainly without relief). For the young male whose hormones are racing, it can be a real battle.
Okay, moving on:
Anyone who knowingly leaves a bulging wallet in their car (which they're at liberty to do) with the windows down on both sides, and then goes for a walk, would be considered a fool, and I’m very sure that most people would say, “Well, you’ve only got yourself to blame.” Sure no one should have taken it, and clearly they’ve committed a crime, but the fact that someone did take it, and thereby did commit a crime, is somewhat irrelevant (it could be argued) given that if the wallet hadn’t been left in the car like that, no theft-cum-crime would have occurred. As I said earlier, what one may be permitted to do, isn’t always wise to do, and under some circumstances, not even right to do. Why unnecessarily put temptation in someone's way? Is that not a wrong in itself?
Bearing all this in mind, let’s face some hard facts:
1) The world contains many predatory men. It's interesting how during wars many soldiers will rape where they feel they can get away with it. And they certainly don't do it just because their victim is the enemy. Hence why a soldier is only as good as his conscience, his moral stand.
2) The world contains many oversexed men.
3) The world contains many men who have deviant desires.
4) The world contains many men who are tanked up on pornography, enter addiction, obsession and compulsion.
5) The world contains many men who have some kind of sexual dysfunction — hang up, issue, obsession.
6) The world contains many men who're angry with women, some even having a hatred for women. And why might that be? Well, perhaps they've been wrongly accused of some sexual assault (rape), been left for another man when having been a good husband, or been badly treated by either their mother (who may have abandoned them as well) or their wife.
7) The world contains men who're very jealous of those gorgeous and sexy clothed (or is it unclothed?) women that other men have and are happy to strut in the face of other men.
8) The world also contains many sexually frustrated men, and there can be a number of reasons for their frustration. Many men can't get a woman, be that due to poor looks, ineptness, bad traits, etc, which when coupled with porn, doubles their frustration. Many men can become very frustrated by the constant sexual stimulation that daily comes their way, and thus are sorely tempted by such, even when married; perhaps their needs not being met due to marital problems, the wife's ill-health or even death.
And prostitutes very expensive and risky, not that I'm encouraging such.
The consequences of all this?
1) Frustration and temptation can see even a good man fall from grace and do what he normally wouldn’t do — in other words, go too far with his advances, or sexually assault a woman outright.
Despite David (of Bible fame) having a number of wives and concubines, the sight of Bathsheba proved too much for him too.
Once again, the truth is (whether it's accepted or not), that there's an undercurrent of unfulfilled sexual frustration running through the male kingdom given what men are constantly being confronted with without immediate relief, or relief at all.
2) The interest of predatory, oversexed, sexually obsessed, compulsion driven, pornography fuelled men, or those with some sexual dysfunction, is strongly kindled by public sexiness. After all, it’s the real walking talking deal, not just a picture, and the reality is that such men graduate from this to that. Much like with drugs. The sexual serial killer, Ted Bundy (1946-1989), conveyed that as a youngster his future path was first fuelled by the likes of Playboy magazines, which back then, were nothing like what’s seen today. And now, the sexual is everywhere, and more blatantly so.
Those who say that porn isn't connected to crime are away with the fairies.
And bear in mind that many of these men are men that one would never suspect.
Given all the above, a sexually (sexy) dressed woman walking about in public, and especially given today’s climate, is acting somewhat akin to someone walking through a pride of lions — some having eaten, some having not eaten, and some plain greedy, undisciplined, annoyed or nasty.
Now tell me, who would willingly choose to walk through a pride of lions, and if they did, I wonder who they would blame if they were attacked — the lions or them self?
Such is the reality whether one chooses to accept such or not.
Go surfing and there's the chance of a shark attack, and you having known that.
Why play Russian roulette? Someone's number is going to come up somewhere.
Sure a man should never sexually assault a woman even if she is dressed in a way that inevitably teases, but the fact is that many men WILL having been excited by such behaviour, and given any underlying issues mentioned here. Thus, a woman AUTOMATICALLY ups the chances of being sexually assaulted when she dresses sexually. And if things keep going the way they are, and given how many women seem to be pushing the envelope, men will only get worse.
Yes, when women, via such sexiness, make themselves an object of lust rather than an object of beauty, such assaults are clearly going to be an obvious outcome in a world that's far from perfect, morally bankrupt, and sick to boot.
Therefore, better out of sight and out of mind, or at least, thereby less in the mind. The situation is hardly going to improve until that which stirs lust in a man is removed from both the screen and the street.
What do women want? A society where they're free to wear whatever excites, or a society that's safer due to their thoughtfulness and sense? Because one thing's clear: Laws will never stop sexual attacks, and men will never stop being attracted to, or excited by, what's being flaunted. And there's men, and there's men.
So what has sexiness really done for women?
It has placed them in greater danger of an assault, it has made them an object of lust rather than an object of beauty, it has effectively degraded or downgraded them as a consequence, and thus has lessened many a man's respect for them, and therefore, now has men seeing them as more an object than the person that they are. In other words, the focus has gone from the person to the body, and from the protective caring of a man's heart to the threatening self centeredness of a man's mind.
I'm reminded of that restaurant chain in America that's called Bikinis, and where the female waiters are simply wearing nothing but bikinis. Where's the "Me Too" movement here? These waiters are being turned into nothing but objects for the perver who may well go home and masterbate as he replays over and over again what he ogled. It's outright abuse of women, and these women mentioned making themselves part of that problem. The truth is, they simply can't have it both ways.
One can't help notice the hypocrisy seen in other forms. I was watching a women's protest on TV regarding men making sure that they get a woman's consent to anything sexual. One of the women was wearing a T-shirt which had a painted hand over each breast. Now that's certainly open to interpretation!
The sexual aside, and given that it’s hardly the same world anymore, women should always mind that they not pointlessly put themselves at risk. It never ceases to amaze me how women will still go walking in the bush, down dark streets at night, and through the likes of bushy, tree laden parks and river trails on their own. It’s as if they’re not getting the message despite the daily reports of attacks and rapes occurring in these very same places. Sure it’s their right to walk when and where they like, but sense is ones greatest ally.
When I'm out on my bike and riding along near the river, I often see women on their own. I've warned my daughters not to. A while back a man came out of his backyard, which backs on to the river bank, and attacked, sexually assaulted and killed a woman who was out jogging. I wasn't surprised and said that it no doubt wouldn't be the last time. And sure enough, another woman was badly attacked and sexually assaulted. Fortunately she didn't lose her life but will live with the scars for the remainder of her life. Yes, it was their right to walk when and where they liked, but both woman paid very dearly.
Women need to REMEMBER this: All those crimes we read about, hear about, and may even witness, are simply the tip of an iceberg. And the reason why is,
1) Because many women don’t report sexual assaults because they perceive it as shameful thing, don’t want to go through the trauma of court and reliving things, and don’t want to see their family landed with it too.
2) Thousands and thousands of women across the world go missing each year. Many, if not most the victims of foul play; their bodies never found, their killer never caught (given who knows what happened to them), or they languishing in some room (to put it nicely) where they’re held prisoner as a sex slave for who knows how long.
3) There are clearly many women who have narrowly missed out on being sexually assaulted, raped, or murdered, without them knowing it.
The truth is, there are far more bad men in the world than there are in prisons.
And here’s a few tips for women visiting other countries (and even in general):
Never travel alone, but always with someone else, and preferably with more.
Never hitchhike.
Never do the following alone — Go out in the dark of night; Go off with some stranger; Go on bush walks, and to remote places, or where few or no people are around.
Know that country’s emergency number.
Keep people posted as to where you are at all times.
Be very observant of all that’s going on around you.
Added to on 11 November 2022.
Also see my poem How Can Men Take Women Seriously?, Home page, and purple box titled: Concern For Men.
1) Remove pornography — because it leads to addiction, obsession, and violating compulsions that can become uncontrollable.
2) Stop perpetuating the myth that rape is always a power thing — because rape can simply be the result of inflamed desires that eventually won’t take no for an answer. And this being Ted Bundy's own experience, by admission, (he a serial rapist, killer, born in 1946 and executed by electric chair in 1989).
3) Remove both the sexual and violent content so often wed to and so commonly associated with movies and TV programmes — because such has women seen as objects, decreases sensitivity, and also leaves replayed impressions on the mind that can lead to copycat scenarios.
4) Encourage abstinence before marriage and frown on promiscuity — because “boys will be boys” and inevitably pressure their dates, and there’s a fine line between pressure and rape.
5) Remove alcohol from the equation — because:
a) Alcohol affects that area in the brain where judgments are made, and thus has men acting under the influence.
b) There are men who will take advantage of a woman who's under the influence.
6) Help women realize that sexiness is a neon sign which highlights them in the sights of both porn fuelled attackers and outright predators who're even more attracted to such titillation.
7) Help women realise that predators like places where there’s no one about but their intended victim, and they also prefer the cover of darkness.
8) Help women realise that though their body is theirs, and that though they’ve a right to wear what they like, that prudence is a good friend, one that can spare them unnecessary pain and suffering.
9) Help women realise that when they’re dating that such is wiser done where others aren’t far away.
10) Help women realise that it's somewhat hypocritical to protest over "violence to women" whilst watching such on TV or in the movies, much of it where there's also sexual content, be it wed to that violence or not.
11) Help the women who're involved in the porn industry, and those related Hollywood movies, realise the explosiveness of what they're doing, and that they must take some responsibility for the consequences.
12) Help women to realise that two realities are:
a) That the looser they are, the less men will respect their wishes, because men will assume that they're not as concerned about things.
b) That some men who get fired up over what they perceive as teasing, think that such teasers need to be taught a lesson, hence their offending.
13) Shift the focus from blaming men to helping men.
14) Realise that rape is not going to go away given the kind of world that we're living in, and therefore, that following these points or rules that I've placed here, is the only way to at least cut rapes back.
Educating people is all very well (as I'm trying to do here), but education isn't a magic wand, and changed hearts and minds being the only real answer, which, though such is occuring in the lives of many, it clearly won't occur in the lives of all.
Yes, there's no excuse for rapes, but there are reasons why they're occuring, and it's those reasons that need addressing.
Upgraded 27 April 2017
Yes, so much could be said about the dangers of breast implants, but for brevity sake:
When it comes to ones body, implants are an unnecessary FOREIGN OBJECT and ones body will invariably react to such — and I meaning, in very negative ways. To put it another way: One's body will always treat breast implants as an enemy.
But breast implants, in themselves, are actually a very dangerous form of cosmetic surgery, and a very costly long term thing to embark on. It should also be noted that it is harder to breast feed as a result, and that it's also harder to detect breast cancer as a result, and that the implants may rupture from the pressure of mammograms.
A woman will face multiple operations (and thus more scarring), given that the implants have a limited lifespan (10-15 years), and therefore need to be replaced every so often. Meantime, it is very common for them to rupture and the silicon within can migrate leading to very serious health issues. Such silicon has been found in the brain, spinal fluid, ovaries, liver and other organs. The sad thing is that women aren’t always aware that their implants have ruptured, such meantime injuring without them knowing. And this being why women with implants have to mind any external pressures that might be applied to their chest lest their implants rupture either immediately or with time.
A study found that even among those women who had never complained of any perceived trouble with their breast implants, MRI scans showed that two thirds of them had ruptured implants on at least one side.
Because women can't always be sure whether their implants have ruptured or not, such is an argument, I guess, for regular replacement even where everything seems fine. One woman may get a good distance, 20 years maybe, without any apparent problems. Another woman might have a rupture within five years or less, or other problems. Complications are known to become more and more common for each year that the implants spend in a woman's body.
As a result of breast implants, women can suffer from chronic breast pain and breast and nipple numbness.
When breast implants are removed and not inserted again, for whatever reason, a woman’s breasts will be all the worse for the trouble, the breasts having been bruised, knocked about and stretched via the pressure and weight of the implants and any ongoing surgery that occurred. The larger those implants get each time (as a woman may desire, and having stretched more), the worse they make the situation. When a woman falls pregnant, and her breasts fill, they can look as if they're about to burst. After all, there's hardly any room for the milk given that the implants have effectively removed the breasts ability to naturally stretch? All this also adds to the general stretching I've mentioned, let alone any unnatural look. And by the way, when a woman with implants is in a bikini, such are easier to spot given that such breasts oft present themselves differently, less naturally, even oddly.
And a woman's breasts that are fitted with implants will not feel the same as natural breasts, but harder, and more so when she's lying down given that that is when the breasts normally flatten out, so to speak, and which those implants can't the same.
Reconstruction surgery also leaves its negatives. And there can be a loss of breast tissue leaving a woman worse off than she was before she embarked on implants.
There is also the possibility of medical complications.
Scar tissue will form with its own set of problems, let alone any pain. This is called capsular contracture. As a result the implants can harden and thus their shape alter for the worse.
Bacteria and mold can not only be present in the implants but be released from the implants into ones body causing serious infection.
Ruptured and leaking breast implants can cause a host of auto-immune diseases.
Yes, here's a few more things that can happen after having implants inserted:
Fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, scleroderma, multiple chemical sensitivity disorder, biotoxicity problems, muscle pain, swollen glands or lymph nodes, unexplained fatigue, hair loss, etc.
Breast implants, otherwise known as silicone implants, are very prone to the leakage of cancer causing neurotoxic agents.
Here is what I understand is found in silicon breast implants:
Methyl Ethyl Ketone
Cyclohexanone
Isopropyl Alcohol
Denatured Alcohol
Acetone
Urethane7 Polyvinyl Chloride (Liquid Vinyl).
Lacquer Thinner
Ethyl Acetate
Epoxy Rexin
Epoxy Hardener
Amine
Printing Ink
Toluene
Dichloromethan (Methylene Chloride)
Freon
Silicone
Flux
Solder
Metal Cleaning Acid
Lofol (Formaldehyde)
Talcum Powder
Color Pigments as Release agents
Oakite (Cleaning Solvent)
Eastman 910 Glue (Cyanoacyrylates)
Ethylene Oxide (ETO)
Cabob Black
Xylen
Hexone
Hexanone 2
Thixon-OSN-2
Acid Stearic
Zinc Oxide
Naptha (Rubber Solvent)
Phenol
Benzene-Known Carcinogen
And this why many women have become very ill, have even died, for all I know.
Women with implants can pass these toxic chemicals onto their baby when they’re breast feeding.
Saline implants are no better given that they still have a silicone shell and also have their own issues, valve and deflation problems among them.
And as for Gummy Bear implants — cohesive silicone implants — they're no more safer to ones body than any other type. Those chemicals that make up the implant will leech out over time whether there's a rupture or not, aided and abetted by body temperature, movement-cum-rubbing, etc, etc.
A note about rubbing: It needs to be remembered that silicone implants are a free capsule. They're not attached to the inside of the breast in some way, and therefore, they're able to move, hence the rubbing.
The truth is, that there are, and is going to be, a host of women out there with disfigured breasts and terrible health problems. It’s just not worth it. Better small, soft, warm, natural and healthy, better a women be herself and not something that she really isn’t. At the end of the day, breast implants are really just fooling folk. They're not the real deal.
Note:
"Breast implants in France will now carry a warning after France's National Cancer Institute found a clear link between silicone implants and anaplastic large cell lymphoma (ALCL)."
News release from the Ministry of Social Affairs, Health and Women's Rights (ANSM), France.
And something else that women need to remember is, that it's harder to live with the loss of their implants (where removed), than it was to live with their smallness.
And the crazy thing about all this is, that many women who're dissatishfied don't have anything to be dissatishfied with at all. It's a bit like someone not being happy with their lovely two bedroom house and going all out to get a four bedroom house, but at greater costs and with the potential for things to badly unravel.
Oh, movies, TV and certain magazines have a lot to answer for. Yes, fantasy figures for a fantasy world.
You might like to read the following books:
The Naked Truth About Breast Implants by Dr. Susan Kolb M D. F.A.C.S.A.B.L.H.M
Breast Implants — Everything You Need To Know by Nancy Bruning.
Update:
According to New Zealand's TV3 six o'clock news, 28 August 2017: So far (as of this date), five women have died in Australia, and three in New Zealand, from cancer linked to breast implants.
Upgraded 28 August 2017.
4. As I Believe It
Contains a couple of Christian thoughts and is best read after the article Men And Women, Their Differences which can be found on my page Husbands And Wives, Home page.
Males have always been the dominant sex, and always will be, and this having everything to do with Nature and not nurture or culture, but it all to do with those aspects unique to, and clearly apparent in, each sex.
Men testosterone driven, women oestrogen bound.
So, men and women were clearly designed to compliment each other, man being the protector of the woman’s well-being and having both her and her children’s best interests at heart, and she responding to his manly loving care with a willing acceptance that works in harmony with that mutually benefiting path, of which, both fatherliness and motherliness are a part. It all a natural, holistic, balanced, happy scene.
I personally find it intriguing how Nature concurs with the Bible and the Bible concurs with Nature. Surely that’s telling us something. Women are the weaker sex, the apostle Peter says (1 Peter 3:7), though not derogatorily so, but only in the context that women are somewhat dependent on that more stable, ironclad and shouldering masculinity that gives man his appeal — women more geared for raising children (lovingly sensitive), they more vulnerable by nature, less robust physically, more temperamental, all things nice like sugar and spice, and therefore needing to be tenderly looked after (child bearers especially needing support and security).
Hence why men are instinctively drawn to that damsel in distress.
I personally would have used the word "gentler" rather than "weaker," but it still has a ring of truth to it given that women are estrogen bound and men testosterone bound; and testosterone being why men are rougher and tougher, so to speak, more prone to physical outbursts, responses.
Gross measures of body strength suggest a 40-50% difference in upper body strength between the sexes, and a 20-30% difference in lower body strength.
However, despite that more stable, ironclad, and shouldering masculinity, there's certainly a degree of truth to the old saying: "Women can live without men, but men can't live without women. This showing just how important women are, and hence that other saying: "Behind every great man there's a great woman."
But getting back to what I was saying, this being why the Bible instructs men to love their wives like Christ loved the Church — with doting care; the dying Christ telling the apostle John to look after His mother for Him.
However, all this falls down when a man loses his nobility and goes from guider, lover and protector, to user, abuser and attacker.
Traditionally, and by nature again, women have always desired that chivalrous, noble, rescuing knight in shiny armour who battles against ill, but alas, that knight has become but a shadow of his former self, his helmet missing, his armour battered, his sword blunted, his horse having bolted, and he too concussed to know what’s hit him.
Sadly, it’s all looking pretty pessimistic, but any change only coming via a return to the original blueprint that saw men and women working harmoniously in a complimentary way, both having their own sphere and functions, it all clear, in sync, and amicable.
So how’s it all gone wrong?
Well, various forces have clearly been at work here, and among them:
1) The corruption of a man’s mind and feelings via the likes of pornography, debasing material (watched or read) that soon has women seen as playthings, objects, something more to be used than valued, and thus loving care retreating from the scene, a man’s heart becoming harder, desensitised, even cruel and evil.
War, oppression, greed, filthy lucre and selfish ambition have also hardened man.
2) The feministic belittling of men and their undermining of the sexes complementary roles and functions, a man less valued now too, he simply a means to an end, perhaps; women supposedly now able to do anything a man can do, such stripping him of that mystery unique to manhood that makes him what, who and how he is, just as that mystery unique to womanhood makes her what, who and how she is.
3) Women have largely forsaken the love of home and children in order to reach the shallow pinnacles of ambition (the age old lie of greater heights), in order to build nothing more than sandcastles, and women have exchanged their natural feminine ways, talents (and even dress) for that cut and thrust of the CEO table, that rawness and raunchiness that was once the sole domain of the red-light district, or the result of intoxication, and for that errant macho behaviour that has more to do with immaturity than masculinity.
Yes, women cussing, swearing, boozing, ranting, wearing the pants or next to nothing, they acting just as embarrassingly horny, as disgracefully crude, and as childishly cocky, and they toting guns, driving big rigs, boxing, or grappling on the muddy, bloodied rugby field — yes, of course they can do the latter too, but it all a big turn off rather than a turn on, like those black and blue tattoos that now deface their gorgeous bodies too, and health problems that once stalked men now stalking them.
Yes,
"Where are you, Mummy?"
"I'm under the car getting the %$@*# sump off. Tell Daddy to pour me a beer, will you."
No, it somehow just doesn't gel with Nature. Men for the rough and tough, women for the soft and tender.
Can't men be left with something that makes them feel they're men? Young boys wanting to be like their big rig handling dad. Hardly like their big rig handling pistol packing mama.
Men have always felt more manly doing those things that are more associated with masculinity.
Just as the more a woman exhibits herself sexually the more men will be attracted to her sexually (and therein lies potential trouble), so too the more feminine a woman is (both in dress and manner) the more men will be attracted to her greater difference from them. Just like good people stand out from the crowd these days. Crass people being two a penny.
But, sadly so, Maid Marion is just as soiled now (partly thanks to that macho girl power thing), the drawbridge is down, the guards have been drugged, the castle's been broken into, the king's been removed, and an impostor's flag is dancing in the ill wind, it surrounded by laughing gargoyles, eye-picking crows and commandeered cannons.
And so it goes, has gone, hence why we now see effeminate men and masculine women, disturbing look-alikes, both an insult to their sex and a confusion in the minds of young children given that the complimentary role models have degenerated into an empty farce — that’s if both are around, of course, mum doing what dad always did, dad doing what mum always did — and as for Gay marriages and adoptions — yes, it’s all a politically correct mess, a denial of what’s really right, and what really works best.
Yes, so much for snips and snails and puppy dog tails. Women toughing it out with the boys, giving back as good as they wrongly get, and barking orders just as loud. And no wonder many aren't worried about their figures the same.
And the result?
A far worse world for both women and children, less loving concern and respect on both sides of the gender fence, and cause for greater fear; men corrupted, their image distorted, their honour in tatters, their natural functioning hampered, and they feeling threatened and angry; their birthright stolen — enter domestic abuse, unfaithfulness, rape, depression and a self-destructing society that has little to be proud of and much to hang its head over.
And much damage (to both men and women) courtesy of feminism; mistreated women having thrown the baby out with the bathwater.
The truth is, there’ll always be bad men just like there’ll always be bad women.
Feminism’s no more the answer to the so-called battle of the sexes than nuclear arms are the answer to restoring peace and harmony in the world.
Once women could wrap a man around their little finger with their feminine charms (appealing to his heart). Now they’ve gone for sex, it seems (appealing to his loins), a sure sign of failure, and an even greater stumbling block for men.
Upgraded 15 October 2019.
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Ex-escort Says Women To Blame For Lack Of Good Men
She’s the former Aussie escort who famously spoke out about bedding 10,000 men, and now Gwyneth Montenegro has controversially claimed there’s a severe lack of decent men out there – and it’s due to women being too “militant”.
Melbourne-based Gywneth claims to have surveyed 60,000 women in an attempt to identify relationship profiles.
Gwyneth says her research shows profiles have changed significantly in recent years, with the most common male profiles revealing “a degree of displeasure or resentment toward women”.
And the former sex worker claims women are partly responsible for this.
"We’ve used female rights to ambush and complain instead of to negotiate and to talk,” she told the Daily Mail.
Gwyneth insists she’s a feminist, but also says that “feminism has its place”, and claims men nowadays are left “wondering why there’s so much hatred” towards them.
“We loudly picket and demand if we don’t get our way," she explained.
“We live in a world where it’s common place for women to cry rape in order to get back at a man.”
Gwyneth, who worked in the sex industry for 12 years and used to charge up to $1000 an hour for her services, says in her experience, men just want a woman they can love and protect
These days, Gwyneth is now trained in neuro-linguistic programming which helps people with personal development, and says men are too scared to be chivalrous for fear of abuse.
“I don’t want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this,” she told news.com.au earlier this year.
“However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated. They don’t know ‘should I open the door? Will I get yelled at?’”
By Allison Yee, Yahoo news article, July 2017.
When Barack Obama was in New Zealand (March 2018) he stated that he would like to see women ruling the world for two years and that as a result there’d be no conflict (TV3 News 23 March).
To be honest, it baffles me how such statements can come out of such men.
Not only are women a same reflection of the sad state of affairs today, but history is strewn with, and has shown that, they’re just as capable of treachery, deception, cruelty, crime, corruption and degradation.
I could supply many examples from murderous queens, Jezebels and corrupt politicians to serial killers and unfit managers and mothers.
It’s not women that’s the answer anymore than men, but good people.
It’s not even more women that is needed, but more people who’re suitably qualified for the particular task and who’re of noble character.
If men outweigh women in this regard, or if women outweigh men in this regard, so be it. In other words, if this means that there's more men in parliament than women, or that there's more women in parliament than men, so be it. Lets keep the sexes thing right out of it. Such is nothing but politically correct, feminist nonsense. However, where men are better suited for some task or role, why not? And visa versa.
Who came up with the silly idea anyway, that a woman has to be a president, mayor, or CEO (or anything else), in order to prove anything?
The truth is, that women don’t have to prove anything at all, but simply be themselves, rejoicing in their femininity, their wonderful difference, their mysterious uniqueness and special attraction. And the latter is lost or marred by them trying to emulate or compete with men.
The differences between a man and woman are designed to complement, and this, in the home, church and society.
They both being equal in worth and being, but simply functioning in differing roles and ways at times, not because of force, but natural gravitation, instinct and sense.
And there being no inequality or inferiorness in this, except perhaps in the minds of those who’ve been fooled by the likes of feminist propaganda that has only served to make the lot of women worse.
And until this is recognised by all, there will be even bigger problems than those that have always existed between the sexes.
The truth is, that the sexes were meant to compliment and support each other, not turn on each other, not compete with each other, not do without each other, not harm each other, but bring out the best in each other.
And hence why men aren't meant to think and act like women, nor women like men, and why men will always be men, and women, women.
Abortion promotes a culture in which human life is disposable.
Abortion is not a safe medical procedure and can lead to future medical problems for the mother.
Abortion can cause psychological damage.
Abortions are something that no women was ever intended to have.
Abortion violates the Hippocratic Oath that doctors have traditionally taken.
Abortion hardly fits with being a culture of civilized human beings.
Women who abort their child in order to get their guy to stay with them often find that they are left alone anyway.
People need to take responsibility for their actions and accept the consequences. How many abortions being the result of promiscuity, one-night stands and short term relationships? A child doesn’t deserve to die because his or her mother was irresponsible.
The sanctity of life should always be upheld and at every level. As Albert Schweitzer said: “If a man loses reverence for any part of life, he will lose reverence for all life.” Thus abortion not only attacks the sanctity of life but lessens ones respect for it.
Life in the womb is equal in value to human life outside the womb.
The decision to abort doesn’t involve just one body, it involves killing another human being that has his or her own body.
Abortion is something that's hardly a right but a choice, one that's made without the consent of the other.
Whichever way one likes to look at it, abortion is still murder, the willful taking of a life; and life starting at the moment of conception.
All innocent beings should be afforded protection under the law.
Such unborn children are deprived of life simply based on their location [the womb] and their development status, and this being discriminatory, inhuman and cruel.
It’s been proven that foetuses feel pain during the abortion process.
Abortion is something that's reminiscent of a past time where the lives of children were taken in order to appease pagan gods.
Abortion desensitizes citizens to the beauty and fruitfulness of femininity.
Women who have abortions kill something that's actually inside them as opposed to something that's outside them.
As far as the Christian goes, abortion defies the very Word of God and its moral code for Christians.
And thus the only justification for abortion being when the life of the mother is at stake.
The following is a verse from a Christian poem of mine called "Forbidden Sacrifices" which can be seen in an orange box titled "The Folly Of Winning," Christian section.
When women find themselves pregnant, a life’s a life, not a thing,
No matter how tiny, a seed from which life is seen to spring.
A person needing time and nourishment, everything there,
Hence why it’s a someone that’s killed, which isn’t right, isn’t fair.
This article was drawn from various sources.
Updated 21 November 2018.
7. Marital Intimacy
(As it was meant to be)
Her husband creatively and tenderly kisses, caresses, explores and stirs her with a selfless intent that doesn't detract or distract,
so that she may experience the ultimate peak,
so that she may see that it’s an act of love and not lust,
so that he may leave her ever more convinced of the width, depth and breadth of the marital institution,
so that he may leave her ever more convinced of that lifelong oneness that was meant to be a blessing and not a burden.
Her husband gently lies on top of her,
as if cloaking her exposed beauty,
as if shielding her protectively, and thus self sacrificially,
as if engulfing her with the very essence of his being-cum-love,
as if declaring his manly initiative.
And then, her husband duly and thoughtfully enters her,
that they may become as if interlocked in a special intimate oneness and bonding that no one else may share,
that he may claim her as the sole, undying object of his affection and care,
that they may become forever connected via the flesh and image of their offspring,
that he via his life-perpetuating seed may fulfil her natural maternal longing.
Different sexual positions are up to the couple, but in all that's done, and even where there's fun, dignity and thought should always prevail.
Sex is everything to a man, part and parcel of his very nature, makeup. Sex is part and parcel of his creativeness, how he expresses himself, his love for his wife — his sexual feelings fueling his affection, even motivating it.
A man’s penis kind of reflects who and what he is (males being the seeker, sower), and hence why his penis can be a big deal to him (just like women can be very conscious of their breasts, hence those implants). This also has something to do with a man taking the initiative sexually, and thus rejection on his wife’s part, or failure to please her, discourages him, affects his manliness, and even sets him up for an affair.
Therefore, if a wife says that sex isn’t a big deal to her, that she can take it or leave it, she not only insults her husband, but hits him where it really hurts — his manhood, makeup.
All this is why wives shouldn’t withhold sex at any time, and why they should always act (including dressing attractively) in ways that appeal to his sexual nature-cum-motor. In other words, in ways that work in sync with. Such making him feel more loving and caring towards her.
Failure to appreciate all this will lessen a man’s love and care for his wife.
The one thing that women must always bear in mind is that men are made and think very differently. Therefore, when wives don’t go by the manual, they’re all the less for it, because that manual is what brings out the best in men by which is intended greater benefit for wives.
To frustrate a man sexually, is to not only deplete him emotionally, lessen good health, subject him to temptation, but to also destroy his love and commitment.
The truth is, a man’s sexual makeup (visual radar) predisposes him to temptation at any time, be that an affair or the likes of pornography. Hence why a good wife will do all she can to mitigate such, thus protecting herself from ill too.
However, all the above does not excuse a lack of control on his part, nor sexual abuse of any kind. While sex means everything to a man, and is part and parcel of his very nature, makeup, it’s not where everything starts and ends, and therefore, must be seen in its context.
This article was upgraded 12 January 2019.
8.
It's My
Body! So I Can Do What I Like With It
“To change for the worst after having said, “I Do,” is like having told a story that really wasn’t true.”
The Author
Why this particular article? Well, don't forget that what we do with, or do to, our body, can thoughtlessly affect others.
So, if you want to go that way,
I guess you'll allow yourself to become obese via bad choices or lack of discipline:
Shame if it hits the taxpayer who’ll have to foot the bill for those hospital visits sooner or later.
Shame if you die earlier thus causing your loved ones to grieve earlier.
Shame if you set an example that your children might follow to their detriment.
Shame if you don’t look as attractive anymore.
Shame if your husband or wife is disappointed with your lack of thought over how they feel about such.
Shame if the way you looked when your boyfriend or girlfriend married you was what they thought they were getting.
Shame if your husband or wife eventually loses interest and goes elsewhere as a result.
Shame if you have trouble getting clothes to fit and thus greater cost.
Shame if you become the butt of jokes.
Shame if you’ve made it harder for doctors to inspect possible concerns.
Shame if you can’t quite do certain things like you used too.
Shame if when you try to slim you end up with lots of loose, unsightly flesh in need of a scalpel.
Shame if you distort the image of your Creator.
*I guess you'll go and get tattooed:
Shame, women, if some man who’d like to marry you finds such a real turn off.
Shame if your arms, for example, look like they’re black and blue, as if you’ve been badly bruised.
Shame if it also looks like graffiti.
Shame if your surgeon needs to cut through that tattoo leaving it even more unsightly.
Shame if it’s clear that someone else has had his hands busy where only your husband’s hands should be.
Shame if it makes you look like you’ve come from a rough neighbourhood.
Shame if those tattoos have a primitive and dark association.
Shame if when you get older and your skin stretches and wrinkles that those tattoos may distort.
Shame if detecting a skin issue is harder because of that tattoo being right there.
Shame if you have some reason to regret that tattoo later on.
Shame if that tattooing causes some bad reaction.
Shame if it’s a passing fad that loses its attraction in time.
Shame that someon'e making money out of disfiguring you.
Shame if that tattoo gives a hard edge to your womanhood.
Shame that it will cost a lot and pain a lot if you want it removed.
Shame if it attracts the attention of lesser men.
Shame if it's a visual distraction.
Shame if instead of pure skin your partner's lips are forced to caress some black and blue image, and as if in homage to it.
Shame that men are affected by the visual more than women.
Shame if you look like branded cattle.
Shame if it affects an employment opportunity (which you may not be told of, or which that personal manager won't own up to).
Shame if you become a Christian and realise that God has always abhorred such, warned against doing such, and that that particular object may be very offensive to Him, the territory of His adversary the devil.
I guess you'll get into drugs:
Shame if you become a burden to the taxpayer via rehabilitation.
Shame if you become a burden to loved ones via mental or physical impairment.
Shame if you inflict pain on society while under its insidious influence.
Shame if you encourage others to follow suit.
Shame if you effectively aid drug pushers in ruining other lives.
Shame if you mimic drunk drivers with the same consequences.
Shame if your drug habit sees you eventually turning to crime in order to support it.
I guess you'll possibly booze binge:
Shame if your health is badly affected.
Shame if you injure or kill someone while drink driving.
Shame if you waste the precious time of ambulance staff and medics.
Shame if someone has to clean up after you.
Shame if it affects your employer’s time and your abilities.
Shame if it affects any embryo.
Shame if it eventually affects your looks.
Shame if it causes problems in your home.
Shame if you become an alcoholic.
Shame if your kids follow your example again.
Shame if you end up with a beer pot tummy.
I guess you'll smoke cigarettes:
Shame if it leaves you with an unpleasant breath.
Shame if it makes your teeth look the worse for wear.
Shame if it injures your lungs for one.
Shame if that second hand smoke injures others too.
Shame if it affects your ability to run or climb.
Shame if it affects your insurance premium.
Shame if it wastes more money that would be better spent elsewhere.
Shame if it ages you quicker disappointing your partner again.
Shame if it shortens your life.
"If you really loved me, you would accept me as I am," is another blame game, pass the buck, cop out, one that also refuses to accept reality.
This article was upgraded 14 July 2019.
*News item from the web:
A Swedish study has found that having a tattoo could increase one’s risk of developing a rare type of cancer by 21%.
Researchers at the Lynd University in Sweden found a potential link between tattoos and cancer in the Lymphatic system known as Lymphoma.
When ink is injected, the body interprets this as something foreign that shouldn’t be there and the immune system is activated. A large part of the ink is transported away from the skin to the lymph nodes where it is deposited.
"With rights comes thought and responsibility."
The poet, author
The poet, author
There are women that are saying that they have every right to dress how they wish — in other words, as sexually as they like in public, that it's their body and that they can do what they like with it, and that one can’t and shouldn’t link sexual assaults to such — in other words, that the blame for such assaults lies entirely with the male attacker. Or to put it another way, the women so dressed are completely blameless.
My personal response to such?
What one may be permitted to do, or have a right to do, isn’t always what's wise to do, and under some circumstances, perhaps not even right to do. Thus, where one doesn't use wisdom, are they free of any blame should ill of some sort come their way?
In my mind, those women who make this statement that they do, come under the following:
1) They have their head in the sand, are unaware of just how sick society has become.
2) They have a very narrow focus, a seeming inability to understand and grasp the broader issues surrounding such.
3) They simply don’t wish to face reality because it doesn't suit.
4) They simply don’t wish to accept any responsibility for some part that they may have played somehow, albeit indirectly.
5) They simply do not understand what it’s like to be a man, which, while understandable, given that they’re not men, doesn't excuse insensitivity, thoughtlessness or folly. Though a man can’t truly understand what it’s like to be pregnant, for example, such wouldn’t excuse any insensitive, thoughtless behaviour towards his pregnant wife. In other words, he should endeavour to try and understand what it must be like, and seek to make his wife’s pregnancy issues as bearable as possible.
A man’s sex drive is unique, operating in a different way, and very strong, very propelling, and thus when women titillate a man, it can be akin to playing with a time bomb, not just a match. However, the sex drive in a man can also vary in intensity from one man to another, some men having a low sex drive, or one that’s seemingly impossible for them to live with, or simply overactive.
Many women don’t seem to understand or fully appreciate that visual stimuli affects a man in the same way as tactile stimuli affects a woman.
Men think visually, all why they're drawn to pictures, especially pictures of nudity or sexual activities.
Men are kind of driven by their sex drive, such being part and parcel of their creativity. Thus sex is a big deal to them, and when sex is walking around everywhere in the form of blatant sexiness (particularly come summer days), it can be very difficult for them.
Time and time again I notice those embarrassed, furtive looks of males when a sexy looking woman goes past them, be that man married or single.
I guess one reson why God dressed Adam and Eve after their fall was because He knew that the body would become objectified, glorified, idolized, degraded and present a stumbling block. Have you seen those mtv videos?!
When a man views a picture of a naked woman, his sexual arousal is activated, and commonly strong. When many men view pornographic material, their sexual arousal could be likened to the intensity of a woman’s approaching climax. Hence why many men feel the need to masterbate.
A man is also designed in such a way that as soon as his key is turned via sexual stimulus, his motor is ready for action. In other words, a man isn’t meant to be aroused to go nowhere. Thus sexiness in public can be somewhat like dangling a steak in front of a hungry lion and then pulling it away. And such is why there’s an undercurrent of frustration that’s running through the male realm, be it conscious or subconscious, given what men are constantly being teased with.
And hence why sexual arousal in any form should be kept to the marital home where any such needs can be taken care of without undue delay.
Even quarter revealed breasts (aided by push up bras clearly designed to titilate) can be stimulating to the male eye, and a man’s radar is highly attuned to such. That’s the way he’s made. A woman's breasts are generally (even overwhelmingly) a man's strong interest of sexual desire (a sexual zone for him), hence the original Playboy magazines that in time progressed from bare breasts to the naked crutch as well, a man's next interest, and obviously so, because that's where his aroused state wishes to end up ultimately — intercourse.
This is all why mens locker rooms and so on are often plastered with Playboy type pictures.
However, I must say this, and that is, that if the woman exposing her breasts, say, has a body that's out of shape, it does lessen the attraction, and depending on how out of shape, it can do by miles, thus turning men off. It's not just enough that she's a woman.
With all the sexual content that’s around today, one could say that a man’s radar is on high alert, overload, in fact — men (in the public domain) picking up on more than what was ever intended for them to see outside of marriage (and certainly without relief). For the young male whose hormones are racing, it can be a real battle.
Okay, moving on:
Anyone who knowingly leaves a bulging wallet in their car (which they're at liberty to do) with the windows down on both sides, and then goes for a walk, would be considered a fool, and I’m very sure that most people would say, “Well, you’ve only got yourself to blame.” Sure no one should have taken it, and clearly they’ve committed a crime, but the fact that someone did take it, and thereby did commit a crime, is somewhat irrelevant (it could be argued) given that if the wallet hadn’t been left in the car like that, no theft-cum-crime would have occurred. As I said earlier, what one may be permitted to do, isn’t always wise to do, and under some circumstances, not even right to do. Why unnecessarily put temptation in someone's way? Is that not a wrong in itself?
Bearing all this in mind, let’s face some hard facts:
1) The world contains many predatory men. It's interesting how during wars many soldiers will rape where they feel they can get away with it. And they certainly don't do it just because their victim is the enemy. Hence why a soldier is only as good as his conscience, his moral stand.
2) The world contains many oversexed men.
3) The world contains many men who have deviant desires.
4) The world contains many men who are tanked up on pornography, enter addiction, obsession and compulsion.
5) The world contains many men who have some kind of sexual dysfunction — hang up, issue, obsession.
6) The world contains many men who're angry with women, some even having a hatred for women. And why might that be? Well, perhaps they've been wrongly accused of some sexual assault (rape), been left for another man when having been a good husband, or been badly treated by either their mother (who may have abandoned them as well) or their wife.
7) The world contains men who're very jealous of those gorgeous and sexy clothed (or is it unclothed?) women that other men have and are happy to strut in the face of other men.
8) The world also contains many sexually frustrated men, and there can be a number of reasons for their frustration. Many men can't get a woman, be that due to poor looks, ineptness, bad traits, etc, which when coupled with porn, doubles their frustration. Many men can become very frustrated by the constant sexual stimulation that daily comes their way, and thus are sorely tempted by such, even when married; perhaps their needs not being met due to marital problems, the wife's ill-health or even death.
And prostitutes very expensive and risky, not that I'm encouraging such.
The consequences of all this?
1) Frustration and temptation can see even a good man fall from grace and do what he normally wouldn’t do — in other words, go too far with his advances, or sexually assault a woman outright.
Despite David (of Bible fame) having a number of wives and concubines, the sight of Bathsheba proved too much for him too.
Once again, the truth is (whether it's accepted or not), that there's an undercurrent of unfulfilled sexual frustration running through the male kingdom given what men are constantly being confronted with without immediate relief, or relief at all.
2) The interest of predatory, oversexed, sexually obsessed, compulsion driven, pornography fuelled men, or those with some sexual dysfunction, is strongly kindled by public sexiness. After all, it’s the real walking talking deal, not just a picture, and the reality is that such men graduate from this to that. Much like with drugs. The sexual serial killer, Ted Bundy (1946-1989), conveyed that as a youngster his future path was first fuelled by the likes of Playboy magazines, which back then, were nothing like what’s seen today. And now, the sexual is everywhere, and more blatantly so.
Those who say that porn isn't connected to crime are away with the fairies.
And bear in mind that many of these men are men that one would never suspect.
Given all the above, a sexually (sexy) dressed woman walking about in public, and especially given today’s climate, is acting somewhat akin to someone walking through a pride of lions — some having eaten, some having not eaten, and some plain greedy, undisciplined, annoyed or nasty.
Now tell me, who would willingly choose to walk through a pride of lions, and if they did, I wonder who they would blame if they were attacked — the lions or them self?
Such is the reality whether one chooses to accept such or not.
Go surfing and there's the chance of a shark attack, and you having known that.
Why play Russian roulette? Someone's number is going to come up somewhere.
Sure a man should never sexually assault a woman even if she is dressed in a way that inevitably teases, but the fact is that many men WILL having been excited by such behaviour, and given any underlying issues mentioned here. Thus, a woman AUTOMATICALLY ups the chances of being sexually assaulted when she dresses sexually. And if things keep going the way they are, and given how many women seem to be pushing the envelope, men will only get worse.
Yes, when women, via such sexiness, make themselves an object of lust rather than an object of beauty, such assaults are clearly going to be an obvious outcome in a world that's far from perfect, morally bankrupt, and sick to boot.
Therefore, better out of sight and out of mind, or at least, thereby less in the mind. The situation is hardly going to improve until that which stirs lust in a man is removed from both the screen and the street.
What do women want? A society where they're free to wear whatever excites, or a society that's safer due to their thoughtfulness and sense? Because one thing's clear: Laws will never stop sexual attacks, and men will never stop being attracted to, or excited by, what's being flaunted. And there's men, and there's men.
So what has sexiness really done for women?
It has placed them in greater danger of an assault, it has made them an object of lust rather than an object of beauty, it has effectively degraded or downgraded them as a consequence, and thus has lessened many a man's respect for them, and therefore, now has men seeing them as more an object than the person that they are. In other words, the focus has gone from the person to the body, and from the protective caring of a man's heart to the threatening self centeredness of a man's mind.
I'm reminded of that restaurant chain in America that's called Bikinis, and where the female waiters are simply wearing nothing but bikinis. Where's the "Me Too" movement here? These waiters are being turned into nothing but objects for the perver who may well go home and masterbate as he replays over and over again what he ogled. It's outright abuse of women, and these women mentioned making themselves part of that problem. The truth is, they simply can't have it both ways.
One can't help notice the hypocrisy seen in other forms. I was watching a women's protest on TV regarding men making sure that they get a woman's consent to anything sexual. One of the women was wearing a T-shirt which had a painted hand over each breast. Now that's certainly open to interpretation!
The sexual aside, and given that it’s hardly the same world anymore, women should always mind that they not pointlessly put themselves at risk. It never ceases to amaze me how women will still go walking in the bush, down dark streets at night, and through the likes of bushy, tree laden parks and river trails on their own. It’s as if they’re not getting the message despite the daily reports of attacks and rapes occurring in these very same places. Sure it’s their right to walk when and where they like, but sense is ones greatest ally.
When I'm out on my bike and riding along near the river, I often see women on their own. I've warned my daughters not to. A while back a man came out of his backyard, which backs on to the river bank, and attacked, sexually assaulted and killed a woman who was out jogging. I wasn't surprised and said that it no doubt wouldn't be the last time. And sure enough, another woman was badly attacked and sexually assaulted. Fortunately she didn't lose her life but will live with the scars for the remainder of her life. Yes, it was their right to walk when and where they liked, but both woman paid very dearly.
Women need to REMEMBER this: All those crimes we read about, hear about, and may even witness, are simply the tip of an iceberg. And the reason why is,
1) Because many women don’t report sexual assaults because they perceive it as shameful thing, don’t want to go through the trauma of court and reliving things, and don’t want to see their family landed with it too.
2) Thousands and thousands of women across the world go missing each year. Many, if not most the victims of foul play; their bodies never found, their killer never caught (given who knows what happened to them), or they languishing in some room (to put it nicely) where they’re held prisoner as a sex slave for who knows how long.
3) There are clearly many women who have narrowly missed out on being sexually assaulted, raped, or murdered, without them knowing it.
The truth is, there are far more bad men in the world than there are in prisons.
And here’s a few tips for women visiting other countries (and even in general):
Never travel alone, but always with someone else, and preferably with more.
Never hitchhike.
Never do the following alone — Go out in the dark of night; Go off with some stranger; Go on bush walks, and to remote places, or where few or no people are around.
Know that country’s emergency number.
Keep people posted as to where you are at all times.
Be very observant of all that’s going on around you.
Added to on 11 November 2022.
Also see my poem How Can Men Take Women Seriously?, Home page, and purple box titled: Concern For Men.
2. On Reducing Rapes
1) Remove pornography — because it leads to addiction, obsession, and violating compulsions that can become uncontrollable.
2) Stop perpetuating the myth that rape is always a power thing — because rape can simply be the result of inflamed desires that eventually won’t take no for an answer. And this being Ted Bundy's own experience, by admission, (he a serial rapist, killer, born in 1946 and executed by electric chair in 1989).
3) Remove both the sexual and violent content so often wed to and so commonly associated with movies and TV programmes — because such has women seen as objects, decreases sensitivity, and also leaves replayed impressions on the mind that can lead to copycat scenarios.
4) Encourage abstinence before marriage and frown on promiscuity — because “boys will be boys” and inevitably pressure their dates, and there’s a fine line between pressure and rape.
5) Remove alcohol from the equation — because:
a) Alcohol affects that area in the brain where judgments are made, and thus has men acting under the influence.
b) There are men who will take advantage of a woman who's under the influence.
6) Help women realize that sexiness is a neon sign which highlights them in the sights of both porn fuelled attackers and outright predators who're even more attracted to such titillation.
7) Help women realise that predators like places where there’s no one about but their intended victim, and they also prefer the cover of darkness.
8) Help women realise that though their body is theirs, and that though they’ve a right to wear what they like, that prudence is a good friend, one that can spare them unnecessary pain and suffering.
9) Help women realise that when they’re dating that such is wiser done where others aren’t far away.
10) Help women realise that it's somewhat hypocritical to protest over "violence to women" whilst watching such on TV or in the movies, much of it where there's also sexual content, be it wed to that violence or not.
11) Help the women who're involved in the porn industry, and those related Hollywood movies, realise the explosiveness of what they're doing, and that they must take some responsibility for the consequences.
12) Help women to realise that two realities are:
a) That the looser they are, the less men will respect their wishes, because men will assume that they're not as concerned about things.
b) That some men who get fired up over what they perceive as teasing, think that such teasers need to be taught a lesson, hence their offending.
13) Shift the focus from blaming men to helping men.
14) Realise that rape is not going to go away given the kind of world that we're living in, and therefore, that following these points or rules that I've placed here, is the only way to at least cut rapes back.
Educating people is all very well (as I'm trying to do here), but education isn't a magic wand, and changed hearts and minds being the only real answer, which, though such is occuring in the lives of many, it clearly won't occur in the lives of all.
Yes, there's no excuse for rapes, but there are reasons why they're occuring, and it's those reasons that need addressing.
Upgraded 27 April 2017
3. Breast Implants
What
your plastic surgeon is hardly likely to tell you, or will downplay:
Silicone implants are one of the most dangerous things that you can
have placed in your body.
Remember
this: That there's a lot of people getting a lot of money out
of this. We're effectively looking at another tobacco scenario.
Yes, so much could be said about the dangers of breast implants, but for brevity sake:
When it comes to ones body, implants are an unnecessary FOREIGN OBJECT and ones body will invariably react to such — and I meaning, in very negative ways. To put it another way: One's body will always treat breast implants as an enemy.
But breast implants, in themselves, are actually a very dangerous form of cosmetic surgery, and a very costly long term thing to embark on. It should also be noted that it is harder to breast feed as a result, and that it's also harder to detect breast cancer as a result, and that the implants may rupture from the pressure of mammograms.
A woman will face multiple operations (and thus more scarring), given that the implants have a limited lifespan (10-15 years), and therefore need to be replaced every so often. Meantime, it is very common for them to rupture and the silicon within can migrate leading to very serious health issues. Such silicon has been found in the brain, spinal fluid, ovaries, liver and other organs. The sad thing is that women aren’t always aware that their implants have ruptured, such meantime injuring without them knowing. And this being why women with implants have to mind any external pressures that might be applied to their chest lest their implants rupture either immediately or with time.
A study found that even among those women who had never complained of any perceived trouble with their breast implants, MRI scans showed that two thirds of them had ruptured implants on at least one side.
Because women can't always be sure whether their implants have ruptured or not, such is an argument, I guess, for regular replacement even where everything seems fine. One woman may get a good distance, 20 years maybe, without any apparent problems. Another woman might have a rupture within five years or less, or other problems. Complications are known to become more and more common for each year that the implants spend in a woman's body.
As a result of breast implants, women can suffer from chronic breast pain and breast and nipple numbness.
When breast implants are removed and not inserted again, for whatever reason, a woman’s breasts will be all the worse for the trouble, the breasts having been bruised, knocked about and stretched via the pressure and weight of the implants and any ongoing surgery that occurred. The larger those implants get each time (as a woman may desire, and having stretched more), the worse they make the situation. When a woman falls pregnant, and her breasts fill, they can look as if they're about to burst. After all, there's hardly any room for the milk given that the implants have effectively removed the breasts ability to naturally stretch? All this also adds to the general stretching I've mentioned, let alone any unnatural look. And by the way, when a woman with implants is in a bikini, such are easier to spot given that such breasts oft present themselves differently, less naturally, even oddly.
And a woman's breasts that are fitted with implants will not feel the same as natural breasts, but harder, and more so when she's lying down given that that is when the breasts normally flatten out, so to speak, and which those implants can't the same.
Reconstruction surgery also leaves its negatives. And there can be a loss of breast tissue leaving a woman worse off than she was before she embarked on implants.
There is also the possibility of medical complications.
Scar tissue will form with its own set of problems, let alone any pain. This is called capsular contracture. As a result the implants can harden and thus their shape alter for the worse.
Bacteria and mold can not only be present in the implants but be released from the implants into ones body causing serious infection.
Ruptured and leaking breast implants can cause a host of auto-immune diseases.
Yes, here's a few more things that can happen after having implants inserted:
Fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, scleroderma, multiple chemical sensitivity disorder, biotoxicity problems, muscle pain, swollen glands or lymph nodes, unexplained fatigue, hair loss, etc.
Breast implants, otherwise known as silicone implants, are very prone to the leakage of cancer causing neurotoxic agents.
Here is what I understand is found in silicon breast implants:
Methyl Ethyl Ketone
Cyclohexanone
Isopropyl Alcohol
Denatured Alcohol
Acetone
Urethane7 Polyvinyl Chloride (Liquid Vinyl).
Lacquer Thinner
Ethyl Acetate
Epoxy Rexin
Epoxy Hardener
Amine
Printing Ink
Toluene
Dichloromethan (Methylene Chloride)
Freon
Silicone
Flux
Solder
Metal Cleaning Acid
Lofol (Formaldehyde)
Talcum Powder
Color Pigments as Release agents
Oakite (Cleaning Solvent)
Eastman 910 Glue (Cyanoacyrylates)
Ethylene Oxide (ETO)
Cabob Black
Xylen
Hexone
Hexanone 2
Thixon-OSN-2
Acid Stearic
Zinc Oxide
Naptha (Rubber Solvent)
Phenol
Benzene-Known Carcinogen
And this why many women have become very ill, have even died, for all I know.
Women with implants can pass these toxic chemicals onto their baby when they’re breast feeding.
Saline implants are no better given that they still have a silicone shell and also have their own issues, valve and deflation problems among them.
And as for Gummy Bear implants — cohesive silicone implants — they're no more safer to ones body than any other type. Those chemicals that make up the implant will leech out over time whether there's a rupture or not, aided and abetted by body temperature, movement-cum-rubbing, etc, etc.
A note about rubbing: It needs to be remembered that silicone implants are a free capsule. They're not attached to the inside of the breast in some way, and therefore, they're able to move, hence the rubbing.
The truth is, that there are, and is going to be, a host of women out there with disfigured breasts and terrible health problems. It’s just not worth it. Better small, soft, warm, natural and healthy, better a women be herself and not something that she really isn’t. At the end of the day, breast implants are really just fooling folk. They're not the real deal.
Note:
"Breast implants in France will now carry a warning after France's National Cancer Institute found a clear link between silicone implants and anaplastic large cell lymphoma (ALCL)."
News release from the Ministry of Social Affairs, Health and Women's Rights (ANSM), France.
And something else that women need to remember is, that it's harder to live with the loss of their implants (where removed), than it was to live with their smallness.
And the crazy thing about all this is, that many women who're dissatishfied don't have anything to be dissatishfied with at all. It's a bit like someone not being happy with their lovely two bedroom house and going all out to get a four bedroom house, but at greater costs and with the potential for things to badly unravel.
Oh, movies, TV and certain magazines have a lot to answer for. Yes, fantasy figures for a fantasy world.
You might like to read the following books:
The Naked Truth About Breast Implants by Dr. Susan Kolb M D. F.A.C.S.A.B.L.H.M
Breast Implants — Everything You Need To Know by Nancy Bruning.
Update:
According to New Zealand's TV3 six o'clock news, 28 August 2017: So far (as of this date), five women have died in Australia, and three in New Zealand, from cancer linked to breast implants.
Upgraded 28 August 2017.
4. As I Believe It
Contains a couple of Christian thoughts and is best read after the article Men And Women, Their Differences which can be found on my page Husbands And Wives, Home page.
Males have always been the dominant sex, and always will be, and this having everything to do with Nature and not nurture or culture, but it all to do with those aspects unique to, and clearly apparent in, each sex.
Men testosterone driven, women oestrogen bound.
So, men and women were clearly designed to compliment each other, man being the protector of the woman’s well-being and having both her and her children’s best interests at heart, and she responding to his manly loving care with a willing acceptance that works in harmony with that mutually benefiting path, of which, both fatherliness and motherliness are a part. It all a natural, holistic, balanced, happy scene.
I personally find it intriguing how Nature concurs with the Bible and the Bible concurs with Nature. Surely that’s telling us something. Women are the weaker sex, the apostle Peter says (1 Peter 3:7), though not derogatorily so, but only in the context that women are somewhat dependent on that more stable, ironclad and shouldering masculinity that gives man his appeal — women more geared for raising children (lovingly sensitive), they more vulnerable by nature, less robust physically, more temperamental, all things nice like sugar and spice, and therefore needing to be tenderly looked after (child bearers especially needing support and security).
Hence why men are instinctively drawn to that damsel in distress.
I personally would have used the word "gentler" rather than "weaker," but it still has a ring of truth to it given that women are estrogen bound and men testosterone bound; and testosterone being why men are rougher and tougher, so to speak, more prone to physical outbursts, responses.
Gross measures of body strength suggest a 40-50% difference in upper body strength between the sexes, and a 20-30% difference in lower body strength.
However, despite that more stable, ironclad, and shouldering masculinity, there's certainly a degree of truth to the old saying: "Women can live without men, but men can't live without women. This showing just how important women are, and hence that other saying: "Behind every great man there's a great woman."
But getting back to what I was saying, this being why the Bible instructs men to love their wives like Christ loved the Church — with doting care; the dying Christ telling the apostle John to look after His mother for Him.
However, all this falls down when a man loses his nobility and goes from guider, lover and protector, to user, abuser and attacker.
Traditionally, and by nature again, women have always desired that chivalrous, noble, rescuing knight in shiny armour who battles against ill, but alas, that knight has become but a shadow of his former self, his helmet missing, his armour battered, his sword blunted, his horse having bolted, and he too concussed to know what’s hit him.
Sadly, it’s all looking pretty pessimistic, but any change only coming via a return to the original blueprint that saw men and women working harmoniously in a complimentary way, both having their own sphere and functions, it all clear, in sync, and amicable.
So how’s it all gone wrong?
Well, various forces have clearly been at work here, and among them:
1) The corruption of a man’s mind and feelings via the likes of pornography, debasing material (watched or read) that soon has women seen as playthings, objects, something more to be used than valued, and thus loving care retreating from the scene, a man’s heart becoming harder, desensitised, even cruel and evil.
War, oppression, greed, filthy lucre and selfish ambition have also hardened man.
2) The feministic belittling of men and their undermining of the sexes complementary roles and functions, a man less valued now too, he simply a means to an end, perhaps; women supposedly now able to do anything a man can do, such stripping him of that mystery unique to manhood that makes him what, who and how he is, just as that mystery unique to womanhood makes her what, who and how she is.
3) Women have largely forsaken the love of home and children in order to reach the shallow pinnacles of ambition (the age old lie of greater heights), in order to build nothing more than sandcastles, and women have exchanged their natural feminine ways, talents (and even dress) for that cut and thrust of the CEO table, that rawness and raunchiness that was once the sole domain of the red-light district, or the result of intoxication, and for that errant macho behaviour that has more to do with immaturity than masculinity.
Yes, women cussing, swearing, boozing, ranting, wearing the pants or next to nothing, they acting just as embarrassingly horny, as disgracefully crude, and as childishly cocky, and they toting guns, driving big rigs, boxing, or grappling on the muddy, bloodied rugby field — yes, of course they can do the latter too, but it all a big turn off rather than a turn on, like those black and blue tattoos that now deface their gorgeous bodies too, and health problems that once stalked men now stalking them.
Yes,
"Where are you, Mummy?"
"I'm under the car getting the %$@*# sump off. Tell Daddy to pour me a beer, will you."
No, it somehow just doesn't gel with Nature. Men for the rough and tough, women for the soft and tender.
Can't men be left with something that makes them feel they're men? Young boys wanting to be like their big rig handling dad. Hardly like their big rig handling pistol packing mama.
Men have always felt more manly doing those things that are more associated with masculinity.
Just as the more a woman exhibits herself sexually the more men will be attracted to her sexually (and therein lies potential trouble), so too the more feminine a woman is (both in dress and manner) the more men will be attracted to her greater difference from them. Just like good people stand out from the crowd these days. Crass people being two a penny.
But, sadly so, Maid Marion is just as soiled now (partly thanks to that macho girl power thing), the drawbridge is down, the guards have been drugged, the castle's been broken into, the king's been removed, and an impostor's flag is dancing in the ill wind, it surrounded by laughing gargoyles, eye-picking crows and commandeered cannons.
And so it goes, has gone, hence why we now see effeminate men and masculine women, disturbing look-alikes, both an insult to their sex and a confusion in the minds of young children given that the complimentary role models have degenerated into an empty farce — that’s if both are around, of course, mum doing what dad always did, dad doing what mum always did — and as for Gay marriages and adoptions — yes, it’s all a politically correct mess, a denial of what’s really right, and what really works best.
Yes, so much for snips and snails and puppy dog tails. Women toughing it out with the boys, giving back as good as they wrongly get, and barking orders just as loud. And no wonder many aren't worried about their figures the same.
And the result?
A far worse world for both women and children, less loving concern and respect on both sides of the gender fence, and cause for greater fear; men corrupted, their image distorted, their honour in tatters, their natural functioning hampered, and they feeling threatened and angry; their birthright stolen — enter domestic abuse, unfaithfulness, rape, depression and a self-destructing society that has little to be proud of and much to hang its head over.
And much damage (to both men and women) courtesy of feminism; mistreated women having thrown the baby out with the bathwater.
The truth is, there’ll always be bad men just like there’ll always be bad women.
Feminism’s no more the answer to the so-called battle of the sexes than nuclear arms are the answer to restoring peace and harmony in the world.
Once women could wrap a man around their little finger with their feminine charms (appealing to his heart). Now they’ve gone for sex, it seems (appealing to his loins), a sure sign of failure, and an even greater stumbling block for men.
Upgraded 15 October 2019.
You might like to also read this:
Ex-escort Says Women To Blame For Lack Of Good Men
She’s the former Aussie escort who famously spoke out about bedding 10,000 men, and now Gwyneth Montenegro has controversially claimed there’s a severe lack of decent men out there – and it’s due to women being too “militant”.
Melbourne-based Gywneth claims to have surveyed 60,000 women in an attempt to identify relationship profiles.
Gwyneth says her research shows profiles have changed significantly in recent years, with the most common male profiles revealing “a degree of displeasure or resentment toward women”.
And the former sex worker claims women are partly responsible for this.
"We’ve used female rights to ambush and complain instead of to negotiate and to talk,” she told the Daily Mail.
Gwyneth insists she’s a feminist, but also says that “feminism has its place”, and claims men nowadays are left “wondering why there’s so much hatred” towards them.
“We loudly picket and demand if we don’t get our way," she explained.
“We live in a world where it’s common place for women to cry rape in order to get back at a man.”
Gwyneth, who worked in the sex industry for 12 years and used to charge up to $1000 an hour for her services, says in her experience, men just want a woman they can love and protect
These days, Gwyneth is now trained in neuro-linguistic programming which helps people with personal development, and says men are too scared to be chivalrous for fear of abuse.
“I don’t want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this,” she told news.com.au earlier this year.
“However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated. They don’t know ‘should I open the door? Will I get yelled at?’”
By Allison Yee, Yahoo news article, July 2017.
Some Things Feminists Have Told Us:
That women can do anything a man can.
Well, men always knew that, but prefer women to be women because that’s what they’re attracted to. And I don’t think many women would be that interested in dealing with waste, fixing sewer pipes, digging drains and so on, nor thrilled about opening doors for men instead.
That women can burn their bras.
Well, that’s up to them, but premature sagging is hardly to their advantage.
That women don’t need a man.
Well, try telling that to the vast majority of women who still desire otherwise.
That women can go out to work and leave their husbands at home to look after the kids, do the washing and housework.
Well, they can if they’re happy with a New Age man who doesn’t fit the manly image of protector, provider, load-bearer, handyman, and knight in shining armour who comes home to his princess after the stroke inducing stress of heated boardroom exchanges, demanding bosses, riled clients, deadlines to meet, boring, repetitious routines, overtime, and little if any thanks.
That women have as much right to wear as little as they want.
Well, be that true, say, such women have simply opened themselves up to being lecherously leered at, sexually pursued, stalked and objectified all the more.
That’s God’s a female.
Well, when His Son was on Earth, everyone saw that He was a man, and He said that anyone who’d seem Him had seen His Father, and that the Lord’s prayer begins with, “Our Father who art in Heaven.”
That women can do anything a man can.
Well, men always knew that, but prefer women to be women because that’s what they’re attracted to. And I don’t think many women would be that interested in dealing with waste, fixing sewer pipes, digging drains and so on, nor thrilled about opening doors for men instead.
That women can burn their bras.
Well, that’s up to them, but premature sagging is hardly to their advantage.
That women don’t need a man.
Well, try telling that to the vast majority of women who still desire otherwise.
That women can go out to work and leave their husbands at home to look after the kids, do the washing and housework.
Well, they can if they’re happy with a New Age man who doesn’t fit the manly image of protector, provider, load-bearer, handyman, and knight in shining armour who comes home to his princess after the stroke inducing stress of heated boardroom exchanges, demanding bosses, riled clients, deadlines to meet, boring, repetitious routines, overtime, and little if any thanks.
That women have as much right to wear as little as they want.
Well, be that true, say, such women have simply opened themselves up to being lecherously leered at, sexually pursued, stalked and objectified all the more.
That’s God’s a female.
Well, when His Son was on Earth, everyone saw that He was a man, and He said that anyone who’d seem Him had seen His Father, and that the Lord’s prayer begins with, “Our Father who art in Heaven.”
5. Women Rulers?
When Barack Obama was in New Zealand (March 2018) he stated that he would like to see women ruling the world for two years and that as a result there’d be no conflict (TV3 News 23 March).
To be honest, it baffles me how such statements can come out of such men.
Not only are women a same reflection of the sad state of affairs today, but history is strewn with, and has shown that, they’re just as capable of treachery, deception, cruelty, crime, corruption and degradation.
I could supply many examples from murderous queens, Jezebels and corrupt politicians to serial killers and unfit managers and mothers.
It’s not women that’s the answer anymore than men, but good people.
It’s not even more women that is needed, but more people who’re suitably qualified for the particular task and who’re of noble character.
If men outweigh women in this regard, or if women outweigh men in this regard, so be it. In other words, if this means that there's more men in parliament than women, or that there's more women in parliament than men, so be it. Lets keep the sexes thing right out of it. Such is nothing but politically correct, feminist nonsense. However, where men are better suited for some task or role, why not? And visa versa.
Who came up with the silly idea anyway, that a woman has to be a president, mayor, or CEO (or anything else), in order to prove anything?
The truth is, that women don’t have to prove anything at all, but simply be themselves, rejoicing in their femininity, their wonderful difference, their mysterious uniqueness and special attraction. And the latter is lost or marred by them trying to emulate or compete with men.
The differences between a man and woman are designed to complement, and this, in the home, church and society.
They both being equal in worth and being, but simply functioning in differing roles and ways at times, not because of force, but natural gravitation, instinct and sense.
And there being no inequality or inferiorness in this, except perhaps in the minds of those who’ve been fooled by the likes of feminist propaganda that has only served to make the lot of women worse.
And until this is recognised by all, there will be even bigger problems than those that have always existed between the sexes.
The truth is, that the sexes were meant to compliment and support each other, not turn on each other, not compete with each other, not do without each other, not harm each other, but bring out the best in each other.
And hence why men aren't meant to think and act like women, nor women like men, and why men will always be men, and women, women.
6. Why Abortions Shouldn't Take Place
"I've noticed that everyone who
is for abortion has already been born."
Ronald Reagan
Ronald Reagan
Abortion promotes a culture in which human life is disposable.
Abortion is not a safe medical procedure and can lead to future medical problems for the mother.
Abortion can cause psychological damage.
Abortions are something that no women was ever intended to have.
Abortion violates the Hippocratic Oath that doctors have traditionally taken.
Abortion hardly fits with being a culture of civilized human beings.
Women who abort their child in order to get their guy to stay with them often find that they are left alone anyway.
People need to take responsibility for their actions and accept the consequences. How many abortions being the result of promiscuity, one-night stands and short term relationships? A child doesn’t deserve to die because his or her mother was irresponsible.
The sanctity of life should always be upheld and at every level. As Albert Schweitzer said: “If a man loses reverence for any part of life, he will lose reverence for all life.” Thus abortion not only attacks the sanctity of life but lessens ones respect for it.
Life in the womb is equal in value to human life outside the womb.
The decision to abort doesn’t involve just one body, it involves killing another human being that has his or her own body.
Abortion is something that's hardly a right but a choice, one that's made without the consent of the other.
Whichever way one likes to look at it, abortion is still murder, the willful taking of a life; and life starting at the moment of conception.
All innocent beings should be afforded protection under the law.
Such unborn children are deprived of life simply based on their location [the womb] and their development status, and this being discriminatory, inhuman and cruel.
It’s been proven that foetuses feel pain during the abortion process.
Abortion is something that's reminiscent of a past time where the lives of children were taken in order to appease pagan gods.
Abortion desensitizes citizens to the beauty and fruitfulness of femininity.
Women who have abortions kill something that's actually inside them as opposed to something that's outside them.
As far as the Christian goes, abortion defies the very Word of God and its moral code for Christians.
And thus the only justification for abortion being when the life of the mother is at stake.
"At
the moment of fertilization, a zygote is created. The zygote has DNA
provided by both parents and, therefore, all of the genetic information
to develop into more mature stages. The zygote period lasts about four
days. He or she develops into a blastocyst for some 14 days, and then
develops into an embryo. After nine weeks post-conception, he or she is
termed a fetus. From zygote to delivered baby, he or she is a human
being. There is no point during development when he or she matures into
a human or somehow “turns human.” He or she is a unique human being
from the point of fertilization."
Human Coalition website
Human Coalition website
The following is a verse from a Christian poem of mine called "Forbidden Sacrifices" which can be seen in an orange box titled "The Folly Of Winning," Christian section.
When women find themselves pregnant, a life’s a life, not a thing,
No matter how tiny, a seed from which life is seen to spring.
A person needing time and nourishment, everything there,
Hence why it’s a someone that’s killed, which isn’t right, isn’t fair.
This article was drawn from various sources.
Updated 21 November 2018.
7. Marital Intimacy
(As it was meant to be)
Her husband creatively and tenderly kisses, caresses, explores and stirs her with a selfless intent that doesn't detract or distract,
so that she may experience the ultimate peak,
so that she may see that it’s an act of love and not lust,
so that he may leave her ever more convinced of the width, depth and breadth of the marital institution,
so that he may leave her ever more convinced of that lifelong oneness that was meant to be a blessing and not a burden.
Her husband gently lies on top of her,
as if cloaking her exposed beauty,
as if shielding her protectively, and thus self sacrificially,
as if engulfing her with the very essence of his being-cum-love,
as if declaring his manly initiative.
And then, her husband duly and thoughtfully enters her,
that they may become as if interlocked in a special intimate oneness and bonding that no one else may share,
that he may claim her as the sole, undying object of his affection and care,
that they may become forever connected via the flesh and image of their offspring,
that he via his life-perpetuating seed may fulfil her natural maternal longing.
Different sexual positions are up to the couple, but in all that's done, and even where there's fun, dignity and thought should always prevail.
Sex is everything to a man, part and parcel of his very nature, makeup. Sex is part and parcel of his creativeness, how he expresses himself, his love for his wife — his sexual feelings fueling his affection, even motivating it.
A man’s penis kind of reflects who and what he is (males being the seeker, sower), and hence why his penis can be a big deal to him (just like women can be very conscious of their breasts, hence those implants). This also has something to do with a man taking the initiative sexually, and thus rejection on his wife’s part, or failure to please her, discourages him, affects his manliness, and even sets him up for an affair.
Therefore, if a wife says that sex isn’t a big deal to her, that she can take it or leave it, she not only insults her husband, but hits him where it really hurts — his manhood, makeup.
All this is why wives shouldn’t withhold sex at any time, and why they should always act (including dressing attractively) in ways that appeal to his sexual nature-cum-motor. In other words, in ways that work in sync with. Such making him feel more loving and caring towards her.
Failure to appreciate all this will lessen a man’s love and care for his wife.
The one thing that women must always bear in mind is that men are made and think very differently. Therefore, when wives don’t go by the manual, they’re all the less for it, because that manual is what brings out the best in men by which is intended greater benefit for wives.
To frustrate a man sexually, is to not only deplete him emotionally, lessen good health, subject him to temptation, but to also destroy his love and commitment.
The truth is, a man’s sexual makeup (visual radar) predisposes him to temptation at any time, be that an affair or the likes of pornography. Hence why a good wife will do all she can to mitigate such, thus protecting herself from ill too.
However, all the above does not excuse a lack of control on his part, nor sexual abuse of any kind. While sex means everything to a man, and is part and parcel of his very nature, makeup, it’s not where everything starts and ends, and therefore, must be seen in its context.
This article was upgraded 12 January 2019.
8.
It's My
Body! So I Can Do What I Like With It
“To change for the worst after having said, “I Do,” is like having told a story that really wasn’t true.”
The Author
Why this particular article? Well, don't forget that what we do with, or do to, our body, can thoughtlessly affect others.
So, if you want to go that way,
I guess you'll allow yourself to become obese via bad choices or lack of discipline:
Shame if it hits the taxpayer who’ll have to foot the bill for those hospital visits sooner or later.
Shame if you die earlier thus causing your loved ones to grieve earlier.
Shame if you set an example that your children might follow to their detriment.
Shame if you don’t look as attractive anymore.
Shame if your husband or wife is disappointed with your lack of thought over how they feel about such.
Shame if the way you looked when your boyfriend or girlfriend married you was what they thought they were getting.
Shame if your husband or wife eventually loses interest and goes elsewhere as a result.
Shame if you have trouble getting clothes to fit and thus greater cost.
Shame if you become the butt of jokes.
Shame if you’ve made it harder for doctors to inspect possible concerns.
Shame if you can’t quite do certain things like you used too.
Shame if when you try to slim you end up with lots of loose, unsightly flesh in need of a scalpel.
Shame if you distort the image of your Creator.
*I guess you'll go and get tattooed:
Shame, women, if some man who’d like to marry you finds such a real turn off.
Shame if your arms, for example, look like they’re black and blue, as if you’ve been badly bruised.
Shame if it also looks like graffiti.
Shame if your surgeon needs to cut through that tattoo leaving it even more unsightly.
Shame if it’s clear that someone else has had his hands busy where only your husband’s hands should be.
Shame if it makes you look like you’ve come from a rough neighbourhood.
Shame if those tattoos have a primitive and dark association.
Shame if when you get older and your skin stretches and wrinkles that those tattoos may distort.
Shame if detecting a skin issue is harder because of that tattoo being right there.
Shame if you have some reason to regret that tattoo later on.
Shame if that tattooing causes some bad reaction.
Shame if it’s a passing fad that loses its attraction in time.
Shame that someon'e making money out of disfiguring you.
Shame if that tattoo gives a hard edge to your womanhood.
Shame that it will cost a lot and pain a lot if you want it removed.
Shame if it attracts the attention of lesser men.
Shame if it's a visual distraction.
Shame if instead of pure skin your partner's lips are forced to caress some black and blue image, and as if in homage to it.
Shame that men are affected by the visual more than women.
Shame if you look like branded cattle.
Shame if it affects an employment opportunity (which you may not be told of, or which that personal manager won't own up to).
Shame if you become a Christian and realise that God has always abhorred such, warned against doing such, and that that particular object may be very offensive to Him, the territory of His adversary the devil.
I guess you'll get into drugs:
Shame if you become a burden to the taxpayer via rehabilitation.
Shame if you become a burden to loved ones via mental or physical impairment.
Shame if you inflict pain on society while under its insidious influence.
Shame if you encourage others to follow suit.
Shame if you effectively aid drug pushers in ruining other lives.
Shame if you mimic drunk drivers with the same consequences.
Shame if your drug habit sees you eventually turning to crime in order to support it.
I guess you'll possibly booze binge:
Shame if your health is badly affected.
Shame if you injure or kill someone while drink driving.
Shame if you waste the precious time of ambulance staff and medics.
Shame if someone has to clean up after you.
Shame if it affects your employer’s time and your abilities.
Shame if it affects any embryo.
Shame if it eventually affects your looks.
Shame if it causes problems in your home.
Shame if you become an alcoholic.
Shame if your kids follow your example again.
Shame if you end up with a beer pot tummy.
I guess you'll smoke cigarettes:
Shame if it leaves you with an unpleasant breath.
Shame if it makes your teeth look the worse for wear.
Shame if it injures your lungs for one.
Shame if that second hand smoke injures others too.
Shame if it affects your ability to run or climb.
Shame if it affects your insurance premium.
Shame if it wastes more money that would be better spent elsewhere.
Shame if it ages you quicker disappointing your partner again.
Shame if it shortens your life.
"If you really loved me, you would accept me as I am," is another blame game, pass the buck, cop out, one that also refuses to accept reality.
This article was upgraded 14 July 2019.
*News item from the web:
A Swedish study has found that having a tattoo could increase one’s risk of developing a rare type of cancer by 21%.
Researchers at the Lynd University in Sweden found a potential link between tattoos and cancer in the Lymphatic system known as Lymphoma.
When ink is injected, the body interprets this as something foreign that shouldn’t be there and the immune system is activated. A large part of the ink is transported away from the skin to the lymph nodes where it is deposited.
